Although sometimes confusing, love relationships can be fun. Sometimes, starting a relationship is difficult. To find the right person, get to know them better, and start a relationship, you have to be patient. Fortunately, if you can go through each of the processes, you will be able to have a healthy and enjoyable relationship.
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Method 1 of 3: Finding a Partner
Step 1. Make a list of partner criteria
Many people start a love relationship just because they don't like being single. While you can start a relationship just because you don't want to be alone, if you do, you won't know if he can make you happy in the long run. The first thing you should do before starting a relationship is think about what you want from the partner and the relationship, and what things you find attractive. Think about the following:
- Do I want him to focus on family or work?
- What are some physical traits that appeal to me?
- What traits of the opposite sex appeal to me?
- Do I want to be with someone who is spontaneous, or predictable?
Step 2. Do what you love
The best way to meet people who have something in common with you is to do what you really enjoy. Eventually, you will meet someone with similar interests. Shared interests can be the door to starting a relationship.
For example, if you enjoy reading books, join a book club with your peers
Step 3. Pay attention to your social circle
In general, your friends have the same interests as you, and know people with similar interests. In fact, sometimes a friendly relationship can also turn into a romantic relationship if you and the other person are both interested. Your friend can also be a "matchmaker" for you.
Don't force yourself to date friends. If your love relationship fails, your friendship will be threatened
Step 4. Explore the virtual world
While anyone can fake an identity on the internet, there are still people who are really looking for a serious relationship. Try visiting online dating sites and social media to try to get to know a potential partner. However, if you decide to meet your potential crush, meet him in a safe public place.
Method 2 of 3: Building a Match
Step 1. Once you find someone you're attracted to, spend some time with them
Go on a date, take him out to lunch, or take him for a walk. By spending time together, you can get to know your potential partner better.
You don't need to see him too often. Seeing him a few times a week is enough. Forcing yourself to meet your crush every day will actually damage your relationship
Step 2. Get to know him more
When you spend time with him, ask questions about him, and pay close attention to his answers. The more you understand the person, the deeper your relationship will be. He will also appreciate your efforts to understand it.
- For example, discuss about his childhood or family.
- Avoid sexual intercourse before you feel comfortable with him to avoid misunderstandings.
Step 3. Build trust
Building trust takes time. You should try to always be there when he needs you. Also keep all the promises you make to him, and try to always be honest with him. If you feel uncomfortable discussing certain things with him, say so.
For example, if he asks a personal question on a second date, say "Maybe it's not time for me to answer this. If you answer it later, it's okay, right?"
Method 3 of 3: Commit
Step 1. Express your desire for a serious relationship
Even though you and the he are diligently meeting, he will not know what you want if you do not express it clearly. However, you must also be prepared to hear rejections.
For example, say "Wow, it's been a long time since we've been close. We're comfortable with each other too, huh. In time, shall we date?"
Step 2. Discuss boundaries in the relationship
Once you agree to start a relationship, you have to set certain boundaries. These limits vary, depending on each party in the relationship. Therefore, you and the he must discuss it one-on-one.
- For example, the he may not have a problem when contacted by his ex-partner, while you have an extraordinary allergy when you hear the name of the ex. Discuss both points of view to create appropriate boundaries in the relationship.
- Setting boundaries will help you find a middle ground between you and your partner's desires. In this case, you may decide to let him chat with his ex every now and then, but forbid the two of them from seeing each other too often.
Step 3. Be prepared to compromise
One of the hardest things in a relationship is having to compromise. That is, you must be willing to do things you don't like to please your partner, and vice versa. Maintain communication between you and your partner, and make sure no party is harmed.
For example, you may not like washing dishes and clothes. As a compromise, you can divide the tasks. If you wash the dishes, he has to do the laundry, or vice versa
Tips
- Keep your confidence.
- Don't forget to take care of yourself.
- Respect your partner.
Warning
- Don't sacrifice your moral values.
- Know the risks before having sex.
