Kissing a girl for the first time in your own room can be a stressful experience, especially if it's a first for both you and your partner. When you are ready to take a chance, do it with confidence. The key is to stay calm, feel comfortable, and take it slow. With some helpful tips and hints, you'll feel ready for the big moment!
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Part 1 of 3: Enter the Room
Step 1. Ask if he would like to visit your room
You can do this in a number of ways, but the best and (possibly) most effective way is to ask him if he'd like to see your room. Sayings like “Hey, do you want to come up to my room? There, the atmosphere feels warmer/cozy than here.” If he seems reluctant, don't force him or you could just make him feel uncomfortable (of course you can't make someone uncomfortable). You can also say other things.
- Try saying, “All my music collection is in my room. Would you like to hear it?”
- You could also say, for example, “There are some interesting photos in my yearbook in my bedroom. Do you want to see it?”
- Suggest going to your room by saying, for example, “My sister always bothers me here. Do you want to go up to my room to make things more calm?”
- Always follow parental rules about inviting other people into the room and closing the bedroom door.
Step 2. Close the bedroom door
He may not feel comfortable in a closed room with a lover he has never kissed. Try closing your bedroom door, but don't actually close it. Leave the door open a little. In addition, of course it will be uncomfortable when your parents come when the two of you are kissing so beware of their presence. If you are not allowed to close the door when there are women in your room, respect the rules and keep your bedroom door open.
Step 3. Make sure you stay standing until your lover sits down
If you sit down right away and ask him to sit next to you, he may feel threatened or think things are "too fast." Let him look around your room, adjust to the room situation, and feel comfortable. He'll sit down when he's ready (or, at least, when he wants to). After he sits down, try sitting next to him.
Part 2 of 3: Relax in Room
Step 1. Show him something
When you're both sitting on the bed, show him something, like your yearbook, your favorite book or music, or a funny video on your computer. When the two of you are looking at something or chatting while sitting down, you can make things more relaxed and, sooner or later, both of you will feel more comfortable.
- Try saying, for example, "Have you watched that silly fox video on YouTube?" and then show the video on your computer.
- You could also show him a book you like and say, “Have you ever read this book? This is one of my favorite books.”
Step 2. Make eye contact
Eye contact can make both of you feel "connected" and understand what he might be thinking or feeling. Pay attention to the positive signals he shows. Some positive signals that might be shown include a smile, a laugh when you tell a joke, or a look at your lips.
If he plays with his hair or tucks his hair behind his ear, he may be trying to get your attention and make you see his face. If he plays with his clothes, there's a good chance he's nervous
Step 3. Touch his arm and start to approach him
If he asks you to stop, stop. If he stops you, there are several reasons why he should stop you. Maybe he's uncomfortable in a strange place, or he's never kissed someone before and isn't ready. Some people feel very nervous sometimes, while others really want to have their first kiss at a very special moment or place. Don't take his rejection to heart. You can try again another time.
It's possible he doesn't like you (in the context of a romantic relationship). Even if it's hard to accept, try not to take the rejection to heart. Some women usually need more time to prepare themselves. Who knows one day he will want to kiss you?
Part 3 of 3: Start Kissing
Step 1. Slowly lean towards him and kiss him
Make sure you do it slowly and gently, and close your eyes when you are about to kiss him. Kiss with a slightly tilted head position. If you approach him with faces facing each other, your nose will collide with his, and your lips cannot touch his. It can make things feel awkward!
- Do not move your lips forward, but press your lips to his gently.
- Don't stick your tongue out on the first kiss. In the first kiss, such a movement is not appropriate, unless he accidentally licks your lips. If he does, stick your tongue out gently. Don't push your tongue too deep.
- Make sure you keep your eyes closed when kissing. Otherwise, it will feel terrible when you keep staring at him while kissing.
- Do it briefly. Make your first kiss short-less than 10 seconds. If you both end up liking the kiss, you can go back to kissing longer.
Step 2. Try a French kiss
If you feel that you are ready to do it, you can try French kissing. Make sure you do it when your partner is ready. If the kiss is the first kiss you and your lover, it's good you don't do it. If you want to do this, approach him with a slightly tilted face, close your eyes, and start the kiss with your lips closed. Kiss your lower lip or upper lip a few times.
- When you open your mouth to kiss him, put your tongue in his mouth and retract your tongue. The goal is to gently touch her lips. Don't push your tongue too hard against his.
- Touch each other's tongue in turn with the mouth open. When it comes to French kissing, it doesn't matter if your mouth is slightly open.
- Remember to breathe when kissing. Sometimes, you forget to breathe when kissing. Breathe in through your nose calmly and slowly.
Step 3. Give him one last little kiss
When your kiss ends, it will be sweet when you give him a small kiss on the cheek or a hug to end the kiss you had previously. However, it won't sound sweet if he pushes you while kissing. Keep this in mind when you try to kiss him and still respect your lover.
Step 4. Respect the boundaries
If he doesn't want to kiss, gently place your hands on his hips and touch his cheeks with yours. If he responds positively, keep doing this. If he starts to drift away, open his eyes or close his mouth, then stop what you're doing and do something else.
Tips
- Don't feel shy or nervous. Otherwise, he will be nervous too! Of course you don't want that to happen. Let things go as they are.
- Make sure you don't have mints or gum in your mouth when you kiss!
- Do it slowly and gently, and don't close your eyes until the last moment.
- If you or he doesn't want to do anything else, lying in bed or cuddling while lying down can be fun too!
Warning
- Some girls may interpret your actions negatively. You'll find out when he misinterprets your actions. If he doesn't want to make eye contact, doesn't sit next to you, doesn't talk much, keeps his lips shut, or shows similar signs, he's probably not comfortable sitting on the bed with you. If that's the case, you need to talk to him. Let him know that you didn't mean to make him feel uncomfortable, ask him what he can do to make him feel more comfortable, and so on. Or, go back to what you were doing before.
- Just because he's in your room doesn't mean you can try other things. If you do, he can feel very uncomfortable.
