Seducing a good-looking guy may sound difficult, but it's actually easier than you think! What you need is confidence, positive thinking and a little courage. Follow these steps to master it and get the man of your dreams!
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Part 1 of 3: Seducing From Across the Room
Step 1. Make eye contact
Eye contact is a flirting technique that can be done anywhere, anytime, as long as the guy you like is around. Don't make it look like you're looking deeply into his soul, make eye contact long enough to show that you're interested.
- A good sign of his interest is that if he makes eye contact again, he may be interested in you. If he looked the other way he might be embarrassed.
- One trick is to look him straight in the eye when he sees you. When he sees you, make eye contact for 1-2 seconds then smile and look the other way.
- If you're feeling flirty, you can wink!
Step 2. Smile
Various studies show a smile makes you look more attractive, so show off your beautiful teeth!
- Smiling makes you appear friendlier, which might just encourage the guy of your dreams to come and talk to you!
- Smiling will also make you feel happier and more confident, two important ingredients for flirting.
Step 3. Use body language
If you've never spoken to her, you can say a lot with body language. Smiling and eye contact are also included, but there are a few more things you should know.
- Don't cross your arms over your chest. Crossing your arms is the opposite of smiling – it makes you look introverted and arrogant, and can scare him off. Many people do this subconsciously when they're nervous, so you should pay attention.
- Shake your hair. Tossing your hair is a very feminine move, so it will draw attention to your beautiful hair. It's also a popular flirting move – so if you wag or play with your hair in front of a guy, he may know you're flirting.
- Play with your jewels. Playing with jewelry, such as necklaces, draws attention to your neck, a body part that many men are attracted to.
Step 4. Look for small ways to get in the way
To seduce, you need to be around him as much as possible. Try to be on his way, unnoticed.
- Walk past his stool on his way to the door, or take your dog for a walk to the park where he practices soccer.
- Be careful not to overdo it, or you'll look like a stalker.
Step 5. Pay attention to your appearance
Give yourself a little extra confidence by looking good around a guy you like. This doesn't mean miniskirts, high heels, and heavy mascara – it means that you have to be well-groomed and well-dressed. If you look beautiful, you will feel confident – this is very important in seducing her!
- Make sure your hair is clean and smell good, brush your teeth, shave where you need it, paint your nails – anything that makes you feel beautiful and boosts your confidence.
- Wear clean, wrinkle-free and comfortable clothes – wearing jeans that fit perfectly can never go wrong!
- Try different hairstyles – curly, straight, curled, braided – to create a new look every day. Just like make-up – experiment with new colors and trends until you find a look you like.
Step 6. Try to make the first move
Yes, you can wait for it to come to you. But there is too much hope that the man will catch up first, and this is very tiring. If you approach her, you'll stand out from the crowd – and you'll also get to pick the time that's right for you.
Part 2 of 3: Flirting Directly
Step 1. Start a conversation
One of the best ways to start flirting is to start a conversation with a guy you like. Look for opportunities to talk to him about something you both enjoy, about school, work, or a recent event.
- Start with a question. This will show that you are interested in getting to know them, rather than just talking about yourself. Ask him what he thinks about the latest “Fast and Furious” movie or what he does on the weekends.
- Avoid asking questions that can only be answered with a “yes” or “no” – this is the best way to end a conversation before it even starts.
- Turn the conversation into about him. Humans love to talk about themselves, so try talking about something they enjoy – like music, sports, or plans for the future.
- Say his name as often as possible. It's been proven that humans love to hear their name in conversation – especially when it's called by someone of the opposite sex! Calling your name will excite him and create intimacy between the two of you.
Step 2. Smile and laugh
Smiling and laughing while talking shows that you feel comfortable around him, and that you also like hearing him talk.
- It will also make you look more attractive and happy and loving – you want him to see you exactly that way.
- Laughing when he makes jokes will make him feel funny, men love this. Be careful not to overdo it – you don't want to sound like a hyena and scare it off!
Step 3. Touch
Looking for small opportunities to touch her is a clear sign that you're flirting, and it also shows that you're willing to make some physical contact. Try the following methods:
- Touch his arm a little while you talk. When he makes a joke, touch his arm when you laugh. You can also do this in playful or entertaining situations.
- Place your hand or elbow on his shoulder casually. This creates a sense of camaraderie between you and shows that you are very comfortable with him.
- Lean yourself against him accidentally while walking together. If you've already started flirting and want to move on to the next step, touch your hand with his and see how he reacts.
- Fix the collar. Another great tactic you can use to touch him is to tell him that the collar (or tie) is tilted and then you can fix it. Stand directly in front of him so that your faces meet, then lightly touch his neck as you fix the collar. After that, look him in the eye and say "That's better!" and step back
Step 4. Draw attention to your body
Men are visual creatures, so they really like to take a peek from time to time. Attracting attention subtly every now and then will make his heart race and make him realize that he likes you.
- Massage your shoulders. Pretend your shoulders are sore and pull up your collar, showing your skin as you massage. If you are lucky, he will massage for you.
- Ask her about perforating your belly button. For a girl who is confident in her belly, one technique is to pull your top up a little and say you want to poke holes in your belly button, and ask her opinion. If he stutters, you know that your flirty tricks have caught his attention.
- Lick your lips. Get him to think about kissing you by drawing attention to your lips in front of him. Lick your lips, bite them, then apply some lip gloss – whatever you can do as long as you don't look indifferent.
- Make sure you don't go overboard while doing this – drawing attention to your body can work, but only if you don't overdo it. If you overdo it, you can look reckless and attention-seeking, so don't dance in front of her in a bikini (unless you're at the beach!)
Step 5. Dance with her
Dancing with a guy is a great way to show that you're interested in him, without taking it too seriously. This can be done at a school party or a nightclub, no matter where as long as you can have some time together.
- Show that you want to dance with him. Take his hand and pull him out of your group of friends. If he easily follows you, you know he's interested.
- You can try dancing sexy if you want, but don't grope or overdo it – it's totally inappropriate in front of other people and you can make them uncomfortable.
- If he's not good at dancing, you can make him more comfortable by making your own crazy moves – have fun – and if you can make him laugh, that's great.
- If possible, do a slow dance. Place your arms on his shoulders and let him wrap his arms around your waist. Look into her eyes while dancing – she will get carried away.
Step 6. Praise him
Don't just expect him to compliment you – men love to be complimented too! Making the guy of your dreams feel cared for and appreciated shows that you're attracted to him, and that you care about what's important. Here's how to make your compliment sound amazing:
- Praise specifically. The more specific you are, the more personal the compliment will feel. If you say something generic like "You're good looking," chances are he's heard it before. If you focus on a specific trait or quality that you like, the compliment will be more refreshing and make him remember you.
- If he plays a sport and you see him, praise his play. If you hear him playing guitar or drums, compliment the music. If you're feeling more intimate, say that you like the color of her eyes – then look deeply into her eyes.
- When giving a compliment, approach him and lower your voice a little. This will make the compliment sound intimate and personal.
- Make eye contact when giving compliments and smile a little. This will make you look sincere and admire him.
- Make sure not to overdo it or lie. This will destroy his trust in you. One sincere compliment is better than 100 fake compliments.
Step 7. Joke playfully
Joking can be a powerful seduction technique – if used correctly. Joking can create intimacy and show that you have a sense of humor. But remember – if you make a joke, you have to be prepared to accept it!
- Be funny about the little things – say that he seems to like a math teacher, or that he loves his dog more than anyone.
- If he looks really attractive, ask how his Abercrombie interview was; whether he just got back from the gym, comment on his big muscles – don't criticize, turn your jokes into hidden compliments!
- Don't make jokes about personal things, he may get offended – joking about his family, work or school, or criticizing his appearance should be avoided – unless you get to know him better.
Step 8. Make him want you more
Don't talk for so long that he gets bored or unfocused. Instead, leave while he's still interested so he can't wait to see you again.
- Set aside a later time to meet. If you say "I have to go, we meet again tomorrow?", you are already hinting to see him again.
- Approach him as if you were going to kiss him, but turn your face away and whisper “I had a great day” in his ear.
Part 3 of 3: Seducing Using Text Messages
Step 1. Send him a message "accidentally"
If you're unsure how to start a text conversation, one good tactic is to text her pretending that you meant to send it to someone else, like your best friend.
- Say something like “Haha, yes! What are you doing this weekend?”"
- Wait 1-2 minutes, then send a second message like “Oops, wrong person, sorry! What are you doing this weekend?”
- This will make it look like you accidentally started the conversation, but you want to.
Step 2. Don't bore him
Boring text messages are useless – sending messages like “what are you doing?” or "how's the weather tomorrow?" very boring and will not help you approach the man of your dreams. Try to say something unique and interesting – text only if you know it will make her smile.
For example, say “I saw a big teddy bear in front of a toy store – I thought of you.” Or “Quick – help me choose: donut or chocolate muffin?”
Step 3. Don't answer all the questions
When texting, don't get too excited, answer everything from his last message. Text messages like this can be confusing and make you look too excited.
- Respond to a thing or two per message, but leave some of the questions unanswered. This will create a sense of mystery and make him want more answers.
- Don't overwhelm him with questions on every message – this will also make you look too excited and he'll feel too lazy to reply. Send messages that are short and sweet.
Step 4. Once you're comfortable with texting, you can start to warm things up – giving small hints that you want to be more than friends
- Be careful – don't get too excited, you can just give him the idea that you want to be with him. Something funny like “I'm going to watch a horror movie – I want you here so I don't get scared!”
- If he responds in the same seductive tone, you're safe to move on. Try complimenting him like "I can't stop thinking about how handsome you look in that dress today"
- If you want to go further, you can be more suggestive. For example, if you're at least half an hour late replying to his message, you could say "Sorry, I just finished taking a shower …" Let him think further.
Step 5. Don't send more than two continuous messages without a reply
The rule in text messaging is that you must receive approximately the same number of messages as you send. This means if you send 20 messages a day and he only replies to 5 messages, you are overdoing it.
- Try to control yourself and avoid texting every time you remember it. Wait until you have something important and interesting to say. And if you send two messages with no reply, stop.
- You should also avoid always texting first. Be a little mysterious and aloof and wait for him to text you. If so, that means he's interested.
- Never send a message that only says "ok" or "lol". This is very frustrating and the guy you like can't respond.
Step 6. Picture message
Picture messages can be a fun way to communicate – and also ensure that the man of your dreams has a photo of you on his phone.
- Send a photo of you with a bunch of friends behind the mall and add a “want to come along?”
- Send a photo of you lying on the couch and write “I'm bored. Want to accompany me?"
- Submit a picture of a movie or concert poster and write “Interested?”
Step 7. Ask for a date
Text messages can be a great way to ask a guy out, especially if you're nervous about doing it in person. Try it by saying something like:
- "Hey! I just saw the trailer for the latest Batman movie, I really want to watch it. You want to go this weekend?” or “I want a caramel frappuccino! Want to meet after school? I treat.”
- If he refuses, you don't need to panic. Through text messages, it's very easy to react calmly. Say "No problem. Next time." Then let him decide whether to continue the conversation or not.
Tips
- Don't get too excited. This will make you look pathetic or too spoiled which will scare him off.
- Don't lower yourself by acting stupid to attract attention. Good men want smart women.
- Remember the things he talked about (little things mean a lot) and ask the next day. For example, if he says “I have to go home; I'm helping my sister study for tomorrow's exam" ask "How did your sister (say her name if you know) passed her exam?"
- Befriend his friends, by doing this you can talk to them too and they can talk to him about you.
- When he is with his friends, don't talk too much to his friends, focus your attention on him. With this, he will think that compared to all the guys out there, you just want him and nothing else.
