Forgetting love is not easy, especially if you meet the person every day, such as a coworker. Loving a coworker can be tiring, and make work complicated. However, you can forget about love by understanding the risks involved in giving in to that love, finding support, and accepting your feelings.
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Method 1 of 3: Knowing the Risks of Love Location
Step 1. Know the company rules
If your company prohibits or asks you to reduce personal relationships between employees, and you don't want to lose your job, remind yourself of that. You may decide that the love you feel is not worth the work.
- Check the rules at your workplace (which may be requested from personnel) regarding personal relationships. Seeing the consequences that can be caused if you are determined to date a coworker may be able to make you forget these feelings.
- Love of location may also get you into legal trouble, depending on the sexual harassment laws in your area.
Step 2. Remember the risks of gossip in the workplace
If you imagine him and your coworkers finding out, gossip can spread. Gossip can spread even if you just talk about your love even if you don't do anything about it. Gossip can lower your reputation, productivity, and morale. If you don't want to experience it, you shouldn't discuss personal relationships at work or with coworkers outside the office.
Step 3. Remember the social sanctions for location-loving offenders
If you continue to love location, you may get social sanctions, regardless of whether your target love reciprocates or not. Knowing this social risk can be your consideration for forgetting the love of location. Problems you can experience include:
- Rejected by him.
- It's awkward if he refuses, or if your relationship with him doesn't end well.
- Forcing him to accept your love if your position at work is higher.
- Loss of credibility in the eyes of coworkers, who may think you're acting unprofessional or giving them special treatment.
Step 4. Know the risks you have to face if your relationship with him does not continue well
Even if you want to continue your love of location, it's a good idea to think about all the possible endings, good or bad. Your relationship with him may run smoothly until the end of life, but if not:
- Your relationship may be successful at first, but it must end.
- If your relationship has to end, you have to be patient with seeing him every day at work, seeing him get a promotion, etc. This can cause stress.
- If your relationship ends, and you or the other person is forced to leave, you're in for more trouble.
Method 2 of 3: Finding Support for Ending Love
Step 1. Tell your heart about your love for your friend
Pouring your heart out to someone else will lighten your load when you fall in love with someone you shouldn't. In addition to providing support and being a "house" for your problems, your friends may also be able to offer you advice.
If you don't feel comfortable discussing this with a coworker, or if you're afraid you'll be the subject of gossip, talk to a friend who doesn't work with you
Step 2. Increase social interaction outside the office
You may like a coworker because you can't find a partner outside of the office. If you work too hard or avoid social interactions outside the office, set aside time with friends who don't work with you, or do your favorite activities. Find opportunities to meet new people outside the office that might distract you from them.
Step 3. Focus on other positive things
Love may be present because we allow it to be present. If you think about other things, it will be easier for you to forget the love.
- In the office, focus on your work and professional relationships. Simple things like decorating the office, taking care of the plants on the desk, or listening to music at work can help you forget about him.
- Outside of the office, you can forget about him by focusing on other things you want to do, such as exercising, spending time doing hobbies, or cleaning the house.
Method 3 of 3: Coping With Love-Related Emotions Location
Step 1. Separate fantasy and reality
Love is evidence of attraction, but it can also be filled with fantasies about life after you're with him. Separating fantasy from love can make you rethink that love.
- Delusion generally focuses on the past and the future, while reality focuses on the present.
- Focus on your life right now, instead of the life you want.
Step 2. Remember that you don't always have to follow your heart
You can like other people, including coworkers, without following them. If you can separate your love and work life, you may be able to overcome location love by accepting the feeling, but vowing that you won't go any further.
Sometimes, the love of location can work in your favor. For example, with a love of location, you can dress more appropriately, work harder, or be more enthusiastic at work
Step 3. Remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side
Sometimes, love is filled with fantasy. You may want to continue your love of location, but really, it's because a love that can't be owned is attractive. You may be able to get over love by reassuring yourself that you're happy enough with your current life, and that reciprocated love is no longer a dream.
Step 4. Set the limit
If you really don't want to get into location love for whatever reason, make it a rule to prevent spot love. For example, you will only interact with him if there are other people around you, because someone will stop you when you cross the line. Sometimes, boundaries will make it easier for you to let go of stress and emotions.
Step 5. Give yourself some time
Don't think you can forget love quickly. Allow yourself to let go of your feelings, and decide how you're going to move on with your life. Don't torture yourself if the process of forgetting you takes a long time.
