Workplace bullying refers to the intentional repetition of direct actions against an employee with the intent to demean, humiliate, embarrass or degrade their performance. This can come from coworkers, supervisors or management, and it is a real problem for all workers at every level. This is not a joke. By learning to recognize and recognize bullying behavior in the workplace, you can help to create a healthier and more productive environment for yourself and your co-workers. Keep reading after this to learn more.
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Part 1 of 4: Understanding Bullying in the Workplace
Step 1. Learn what bullying is and what it does
Just like little immature kids on the school grounds, workplace bullying uses bullying and manipulation to bring you down. Learning to recognize the behavior is the first step in stopping it and returning to work in a comfortable environment.
- An oppression gives pleasure to the one who does the torture. You may not always get along with everyone at work, but this doesn't mean you deserve to be bullied or bullied yourself. Distinguish between the two by recognizing this trait – does this person appear to be making a special effort to annoy you, trip you up, or bring you down? Do they seem to be enjoying it? If the answer is yes, this is probably bullying.
- Bullies usually have deep psychological problems with control. Know that bullying has less to do with your appearance and personality and has more to do with the bully's insecurity.
Step 2. Identify bullying behavior
Watch for surefire signs of bullying that point to more than a simple misunderstanding or personal conflict. Bullying at work may include:
- Shout out, either in person, in front of coworkers or in front of customers.
- Calling name
- Belittling or making inappropriate comments.
- Over-monitoring, criticizing or finding minor faults in people's work
- Deliberately burdening others with work
- Ruining someone's work to make them fail
- Deliberately hiding information needed to do work efficiently.
- Actively removing someone from the normal workplace/employee room conversation and making someone feel unwelcome.
Step 3. Watch for signs outside of work that indicate you are a victim of bullying
You may be tormented by bullying if you are at home experiencing any of these symptoms:
- You have trouble sleeping or suffer from nausea and vomiting because you are afraid to go to work.
- Your family becomes frustrated by the amount of talk and obsession with work issues.
- You spend time off worrying about when it's time to get back to work.
- Your doctor looks at health problems such as blood pressure and other stress issues.
- You feel guilty after provoking trouble at work.
Step 4. Don't ignore your feelings of oppression
If you feel unfairly ostracized or if you're being bullied a lot, this can have many reasons. "Everyone gets this treatment," or "I deserve it" are common feelings of guilt that bullies instill in you. Don't fall into the trap of self-hatred if you feel like you're being bullied. Form a plan to stop bullying and get your work environment back.
Unlike bullying in a school setting which prefers victims who they know to be aloof or weak, workplace bullying usually chooses employees who they feel threaten their careers. If your existence makes others look bad enough they will feel it is a must to put you down. Think of this as a replayed compliment. You have a good performance. You know that, don't let them bother you
Part 2 of 4: Taking Action
Step 1. Tell the bully to stop it
Of course this is harder than it sounds, but you can think of some gestures and statements to make when you feel like you're being bullied.
- Raise your hand, creating a boundary between yourself and the bully, like a policeman using a stop sign with his hand.
- Say something short to express your frustration, such as: "Please stop and let me work" or "Please stop talking." This will help you deal with the behavior and give you ammunition to report it if it persists.
- Never expand oppression. Shouting insults or yelling back might get you in trouble in the end or make the situation worse. Use calm, collect your voice and tell the person to stop like you would a dog chewing on a slipper.
Step 2. Make a note of all incidents of bullying
Write down the name of the torturer and the method used to suppress it. Record the specific time, date and location, as well as the names of witnesses to the incident. Prepare and gather as much information as possible. Gathering documents is the most important thing and is the most concrete way to get the bully to stop when you take the matter to your boss or the legal team.
Even if you're not sure you're being bullied, journaling your feelings in your diary can help you get your feelings out and figure out for yourself what you're struggling with. As a result of writing down your feelings and frustrations, you may decide that you are not being bullied or that you are definitely being bullied and need to take action
Step 3. Get witnesses
Consult a few colleagues at any time and make sure that they will support you by corroborating your evidence. Get them to write it down for future reference. Choose someone you work with or anyone with a desk close to you.
- If bullying tends to occur at a certain time or location, get your witnesses to remain in that area if you suspect that you will be tortured by your bully. Bring a colleague into a meeting with a boss you feel is bullying you. You will be prepared if things go bad and you will have proof later.
- If you feel that you are being bullied, chances are that other people are too. Team up and help each other to face the same enemy.
Step 4. Calm down and wait a bit
Make sure that you have gathered all your evidence and that you are calm and professional. Running to your boss and spilling all your emotions will make you look whiny or you seem like you're overreacting, when there's a bigger problem at hand. If you're calm, you'll be more articulate, bring a better case to yourself and get a better chance of changing your workplace for the better.
Wait overnight between the bullying situation and the case report to your boss. If you are being bullied at that time or if you have to wait a while before telling your boss, try to avoid your bully. Stay calm and continue your way. If you feel bullying might happen, you will be prepared if it does
Step 5. Hold a meeting with your supervisor or HR representative
Bring written evidence, your witnesses and present your case as calmly as possible. Practice what you're going to talk about before going in there and having to say it. Keep your complaint short and sweet, and fill in any written documentation your boss has prepared for you.
- Don't suggest a course of action unless your boss asks for it. In other words, it's inappropriate to go up to your boss and say, "Bruce should be fired because he bullied me." Design your case as strongly as possible and with as much incriminating evidence as possible, saying, "I'm frustrated by this behavior and I'm left with no choice, so I think you should know." Let your boss draw their own conclusions about the next course of action.
- If your boss is bullying you, contact HR or contact your boss's boss. This is not an army and there is no "chain of command." Talk to someone who can make a difference.
Step 6. Follow up
If bullying continues and it is still unresolved and nothing is being done to stop it, you have the right to take it further or higher, by talking to higher management, personnel and even HR (Human Resources). Continue until your complaint is taken seriously and the situation is remedied to allow you to work in a friendly environment.
- It can be helpful to come up with various alternatives that will help make the situation better for you. If your boss's boss doesn't want to fire your boss but knows that bullying is happening, do you want to be transferred? Do you want to work from home? What makes the situation “good” for you? Think seriously about alternatives if you have to make a case for yourself.
- If you've brought evidence and nothing has changed or the situation has gotten worse, consult a lawyer and think about legal action. Provide them with documentation and request legal action.
Part 3 of 4: Recovery from Bullying
Step 1. Prioritize repairs
You won't be good as an employee and happy as a person if you don't take the time to recover from your experience with bullying. Take some time off for vacation and ignore work for a while.
If you've brought up a good case for yourself, you should be a good candidate for a paid vacation. Take this opportunity
Step 2. Engage in meaningful activities outside of work
-It's called work, open super-happy time for a reason. Any job, even the healthy work environment you enjoy, can irritate you after a while and make you want to take a vacation and restore your work ethic and morale. If you've been bullied and are starting to feel better, you may need to:
- Make time for old hobbies
- Read More
- Start dating
- Socialize with friends and family
Step 3. Talk to your doctor or psychiatrist
You may need more substantial treatment than you think. Therapy or medication may be needed if you have spent a significant amount of time in the grip of bullying at work.
Step 4. Change jobs
It might be that way, even if the bully has been dealt with, you might find it more comfortable to look for new opportunities outside. Take this experience as an opportunity rather than a setback. If you are not happy with your position at work, perhaps developing new skills in a new profession, moving to a different situation or simply moving to a new branch will give you a fresh outlook on life and work.
Part 4 of 4: Preventing Bullying as an Employer
Step 1. Implement a zero-tolerance rule on bullying in your business
Every health and welfare rule must include anti-bullying protocols. Ensure this is involved and supported by management and taken seriously by all levels within the business.
Couple this with the open door rule and hold regular orientation meetings on bullying in the workplace, making sure all employees at all levels are aware of this behavior
Step 2. Immediately address bullying behavior
It's easy to sit back and hope for the best, thinking that your employees will do well with each other. This is not possible. Don't let problems worsen among your employees if you want a productive, healthy and effective work environment.
Check all complaints seriously and earnestly. Even if the complaints come from overly sensitive employees and it turns out to be a simple misunderstanding, they deserve your attention
Step 3. Eliminate the competition
Usually bullying develops from a sense of competition in the workplace, leader employees feel threatened by the skills of other employees who try to degrade them and sabotage their efforts by engaging in psychological warfare. This is a hazard and it is a dynamic workplace problem to let it get worse.
Workplace competition is based on the belief that employees want to be the best and will work harder when rewarded for success. While it's true that competition across multiple business models can increase productivity, it also increases employee turnover and can create hostility and hostility
Step 4. Encourage interaction between management and employees
The more coercive your workforce is at all levels, the less likely it is that workers at the lowest levels will become self-reliant. Think of it like the devil -don't let the parents be absent from the island, and the kids will be fine.
Tips
- Don't believe in bullying myths like "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me!" and others like "Girls/Girls Won't Cry." Words can hurt and stabbed to the deepest and oppressed can brings tears and sorrow.
- Keep being yourself and keep feeling proud about yourself. Don't believe what they say and don't let them stop you from being who you are.
- Don't retaliate – This can cause you to lose control and you may end up being blamed rather than being bullied.
- Never take to heart what the bully says personally; doing so will only damage your self-esteem.
- The bully may interrogate the victim with lots of 'police interview' or 'rehearsal style' questions. Introductions can make victims afraid to open up and can make them feel guilty of bullying/harassment and this can make them feel anxious, defensive and more lonely.
- For malicious comments that are said to you – the best thing you can do is either say nothing and walk away or just use one word in return to show that you are not interested in the bullies' bullshit.
- Be wary of harmful gossip and unfavorable comments that are presented as jokes or jokes. If it hurts your feelings then it hurts your feelings.
- Think about reactions. If it escalates, make sure that you have a witness for the next steps you might take. Most people use this person as initial notification that you will not be threatened in this way and will not accept such treatment no matter the circumstances.
- Record all incidents of bullying and retain evidence such as emails and work orders to support your statement.
- Keep it up. Remember that you are not alone.
- If things get really bad don't be afraid to go to the doctor and get sick or take time off.
- Remember that you don't tell a story when you report bullying – you and everyone else have the right to be safe, happy to be treated fairly and to be free from any kind of bullying. Keep talking about it until someone hears you and takes it seriously.
- Be prepared to step out of company procedures and HR departments and seek legal assistance.
- People who are bullied can feel very lonely too and the effects will last a very long time, even a lifetime.
- You can advise the bully that if his or her actions are not stopped you have no other way of bringing it up to management for resolution where the harassment is holding your job back.
*If you are a victim of an environment of bullying, especially if you are always the victim, the main stage of the circle of ridicule, it is a good idea to evaluate yourself from time to time. Ask yourself why they did this to me, what was my mistake. Collecting all the evil words they say to you will only torment your mind, just take one word that really hurts you, demeans your personality, one word that many people throw at you. Could it be that they feel you are a loner, someone who can't get along with other people. If they mistake your aversion for solitude, then it's time for you to develop yourself, be friendly over time, learn to blend in with their conversation. But if you find it very difficult to be with them, find one or two people who have the same likes and interests. It is very important in the world of work to have friends, at least one. Because usually people who like to be alone and solo people are always victims of oppression. Just believe in yourself and always love yourself. If you want people to enjoy your company, the only person who has to love your company first is yourself.
