If you feel that your partner isn't making enough romantic gestures, it could damage your self-esteem or the happiness you feel in the relationship. If you want your boyfriend to hug or kiss you more often, you should try to make him feel happy and comfortable. Pay a lot of attention to him, make romantic gestures, and try to give him your presence when he needs it. Talk to him about your desire to get more attention and understand his feelings so you can find ways to keep the relationship going well for both of you.
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Part 1 of 3: Communicating with Lovers
Step 1. Confirm your wish
Be honest about what you want in the relationship. Let him know that you'd be happier if he could kiss or hug you more often. However, make it clear that you will still respect him and respect his feelings so you don't force him to do something that makes him uncomfortable under any circumstances.
- Talking together about expectations in a relationship is a great way to bond with each other and build a bond based on honesty and mutual respect.
- Try saying, for example, “I would be happier if we could be more affectionate towards each other. Are you comfortable with something like this?”
Step 2. Get an agreement that benefits both parties
Under no circumstances should you insist on touching or kissing your boyfriend, unless he has made it clear that he wants the same. When discussing your feelings with him, you also need to find out if he is comfortable with your actions.
- Don't force him to agree to something. Consent must be given freely and sincerely. Otherwise, it is not an agreement.
- If he asks you to stop doing something, you must stop your actions immediately. It's okay to ask questions about how he feels or what might be wrong, but you should only ask questions after you've stopped acting or exhibiting the behavior in question.
Step 3. Read her body language
Body language can show a person's feelings, especially in situations where he or she is uncomfortable speaking his mind. Even if you have your boyfriend's approval, you need to be able to pay attention and read his body language so you can still make sure he's enjoying the physical interactions you initiate. Stop your attitude or action if you see signs shown by body language like these:
- Pushing you away
- Fold your arms in front of your chest
- Turning his face
- Makes her body feel stiff
- Avoid eye contact
- Changing the subject
- Seems silent or passive
- Cry
Step 4. Ask him what makes him less affectionate
If your boyfriend seems distant or not as affectionate as usual, you need to talk to him about this. Sometimes, to solve problems in a relationship, all it takes is honest communication.
Try saying, for example, “I want to spend time with you, and I love hugging and kissing you. However, you don't seem to like him anymore. Is something wrong? Or maybe there is a problem I can solve?”
Part 2 of 3: Showing Love and Care for Him
Step 1. Treat him with love and respect
Show that you care about him and think about him. Attention can be shown in many ways, from holding her hand to helping her do things she finds difficult. Show this attitude periodically, but be careful not to give him too much attention or force him to do things he doesn't want to do.
- Give him your hand to hold when the two of you are strolling the mall or watching a movie together.
- Send cute messages when he's feeling down. Try sending, for example, “Hey, cute! I miss you, here!”
- If he feels overwhelmed with chores at home, you can help him.
Step 2. Try to compliment him often
Remind him of the little things you like about him. Let her know when you think she looks beautiful, or when you feel happy to meet her.
- If she's wearing a pretty dress, you can say, “So beautiful! This dress suits you. You can really feel the summer vibes!"
- If you notice that he just got his hair cut, you can respond by saying, “You just got a haircut? Ah, you look so beautiful. It doesn't mean you haven't been beautiful all this time…
- If he achieves a difficult milestone, let him know that you respect and appreciate him: “I'm proud of you! I know you are a smart person, but you keep showing me different sides!”
- You can also throw simple compliments. Try saying, “Your eyes are beautiful” or “When you smile, I feel happy.”
- Avoid compliments that seem "nutty". Compliments like "You're the sweetest gift I've ever had, babe" sound so nuts. However, "I feel lucky to have you" doesn't sound too "cheap".
Step 3. Bring him a special gift out of the blue
When you want to meet him, bring a special gift for him. You don't have to give big gifts; If you want, you can give sweets or cute greeting cards. This is a "sweet" gesture to show that you are interested in him and want to pamper him.
- Try bringing him an unplanned lunch or dinner. It would be better if he didn't know or suspect it at all. Find out what food he likes and bring it to him so the two of you can share.
- Write him a nice letter every now and then. You don't have to write a long or "whiny" letter. Tell him you're always thinking about him, and tell him what makes him special in your eyes.
- Remember what he says about the things he likes, and bring him one of those things on a date. This can be a good gesture to show you care. In addition, you also show that you have always listened to him when he spoke.
Step 4. Back off if he asks you to
Regardless of how you feel about the situation, you should always respect his feelings, especially when it comes to physical attention and touch. You don't need to stop showing your attention, but make sure you can show it in the right "level" to keep him comfortable.
If your boyfriend tells you that you're too dependent or "sticky" to him, or that he's not the type of woman who likes making out, learn to strike a balance between the kind of attention you want and the attitude she wants or makes her feel comfortable with
Part 3 of 3: Become the Person He Wants to Show Attention to
Step 1. Make him laugh
Laughing together is a great way to connect with him and make him feel more comfortable when you're with him. Look for good jokes online, or develop your own humor. To be better, make jokes that only the two of you know or understand.
- Do silly things together. Imitate celebrities, reenact what happened to you both, or make silly jokes or jokes.
- Play harmless physical humor. If he doesn't like it, try not to play it too often. Alternatively, the two of you can also make jokes about other people.
Step 2. Take good care of personal hygiene
Caring for hygiene includes steps such as washing clothes, brushing teeth, cleaning between teeth, and gargling. Also spray cologne or use a fragrant aftershave product.
- Remember that using too much cologne or perfume will make your scent too strong. This can actually make your lover feel reluctant to be near you.
- Consider his opinions or feelings. If he says that he prefers one type of perfume, use that perfume while you are preparing.
- Wash your hair regularly and let it play with your hair. This can be a fun and romantic way for him to touch you, of course, if you're both comfortable with this kind of physical interaction.
- Show your best effort to appear clean and tidy. Even if you want to stick to a certain style, like grunge, you can still look clean and stylish.
Step 3. Plan a special date
Dating like this will be memorable because it is exciting and unexpected. You can show that you care about him by planning something he will like.
- Plan a movie, dinner, or other activity (eg bowling or ice skating, taking a cooking class, or watching a sports game) as part of your date. If he's interested in something, try to include that in your date.
- Ask his friends to help you. Try planning a surprise birthday party with his friends or family members if you're familiar enough with them.
Step 4. Make him feel special
Treat him like the most important person in the world. When he feels special and prioritized, he will feel more comfortable and relaxed in living a relationship with you.
- Remember to keep doing small acts of kindness, like opening the door for her or asking her opinion.
- If you notice that he's having a hard time, such as when he's doing homework, filling a long grocery list, or looking for a lost CD, try giving him some help. Show that you still think about him even when you're not with him.
- Give your presence when he is sick. Bring warm soup, cold soda, or a movie to watch together.
- Don't forget to bring him flowers. You don't have to give her flowers only on special occasions!
Warning
- If in doubt, always ask him a question. If you're worried that he doesn't feel comfortable kissing or hugging you, the best thing you can do is talk about it and respect his feelings.
- Don't show affection in public unless he specifically says he likes it. Don't touch or kiss her in public (or even in private) until she says she wants to.
- Don't throw compliments about her body shape. Keep complimenting her eyes, hair, smile, or clothes.
