If you're worried that the spark in your relationship is running out or your boyfriend isn't feeling in love anymore, you'll have to work harder to win him back and keep him by your side. If you and your partner aren't meant to be together, it's a different story, but if you really love him and you can't imagine what life would be like without him, you should try to make him feel loved by being a wise and full lover. attention, and make sure you keep the fire of romance burning. If you want to know how to make your boyfriend love you even more, start by reading Step 1.
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Part 1 of 3: Making Lovers Feel Special
Step 1. Give him more compliments
If you want to get your boyfriend's attention, you have to make him realize that you really care. While flattery compliments about how he looks, or compliments that are simply meant to make him happy and like you won't help much, give him a genuine compliment at the right time to show you care. If you're afraid you won't be able to find his deeper love, there's a good chance that it's because he doesn't feel reciprocated from the love he's giving you, so make sure you show him that you care, by telling him the things that make him really happy. special.
- You can compliment the impressive aspects of his personality. You could say something like "Your ability to chat with almost anyone is impressive. How do you do that?", or "You really are a hard worker. I wish I could learn as much as you do."
- You should pay attention to him and notice when he puts on a new outfit or accessory, or when he changes his hairstyle. Say "I love seeing you in that sweater. It really suits you," and he'll be impressed that you noticed.
Step 2. Help your lover
Another way to make your boyfriend feel special and also win him over is to help him out, so you can show you care. You can do this by bringing him lunch when he's had a busy day, dropping him off when he needs to, or helping him clean up after the party. By taking a little time to lighten up his life, you can make him appreciate your existence more. Of course, you shouldn't make him think of you as an errand boy or make him feel like he can take advantage of you, but you should help him when you can, even if he does the same for you.
He may protest when you offer to help, but if you see that he really needs help, give as much help as you can
Step 3. Support his goals and interests
If you want to make your boyfriend feel special, you can't treat him as someone who has to do what you want. You have to care about the things he cares about, and also want him to be successful. If he really likes the game of football, you should watch the game if you can. If he is trying to find a new job, you can help him by setting up a practice interview. Make him realize that you want the best for him, and that you care about the things that are important to him, and he will be touched by your wisdom.
- If he's angry, you should be by his side to calm him down and invite him to discuss what's upsetting him when he's ready. Don't get frustrated when he's not in a good mood because something personal is upsetting him.
- Give a word of encouragement if he will have a big day. Say you wish him luck, and you'll think about it.
Step 4. Ask about your lover's life
Don't let your boyfriend get bored or think that you don't really care about him. As you and your boyfriend open up to each other, you should ask questions about his life, from his childhood to his relationship with his friends and parents. You should also ask about his future goals or his plans for the week ahead. Show that you care about him, as well as about this time in his life.
- Show that you're genuinely interested in him, and show that you're not asking questions just to sound polite. Make eye contact with her, and give her your full attention when she talks about herself.
- Ask your boyfriend to talk more about his hobbies and interests, even if you're unfamiliar with them.
Step 5. Ask how the day is
If you want to show him you care, you should ask him how he's doing at least once a day, either by phone call or text message, and the goal is to ask him about his day. Show him that even if you're not with him, you're still thinking about him, and he'll be touched. You can ask him how he's done after something important you know, be it a big test or a soccer game. Show that you still care about him even though the distance between you and your lover is very far.
Of course, you don't have to be obsessive and ask how he's doing every five minutes, or you'll just make him feel bored. If he's out with girlfriends, let him enjoy his time instead of asking how he's doing, or he'll think you're jealous and possessive
Step 6. Show your affection
In fact, men don't like holding hands or showing affection in public. But that doesn't mean you can't show love and affection when you're with him, either by putting your arm around him, stroking his hair, or by placing your hand on his arm or knee while chatting. A little physical touch can go a long way, as it shows that you're happy to be with him. You may feel that he is drifting away, and that may be because he feels you don't care enough for him, and showing affection is a great way to change that.
- You don't have to hold hands all the time, but holding her hand every now and then is a great way to show you care. When watching at the cinema, hold his hand once or twice.
- You don't need to kiss in public, but kissing him when you meet him and part ways will make him feel like you care.
Step 7. Take the time to really listen to it
Most people can learn how to get used to listening to other people, and most men are not very good listeners. When he talks, you have to absorb every word he says, remove all distractions, and look him in the eye. Don't interrupt him or try to work things out, and try to just be by his side and take the time to understand what he's saying. That way, you can show that you care about him.
- After he's finished speaking, ask him some other things he's feeling. If he asks for advice, make sure you know enough facts before doing it.
- Put away the phone when he tells you something. He'll get annoyed if you keep checking his phone when he's talking about something important.
Part 2 of 3: Becoming a Better Lover
Step 1. Be a genius
If you want to be a better lover to your partner, you must strive to be a gentleman. To do so, you don't have to be Cary Grant or pick up your lover in a horse-drawn carriage, but you do have to treat them with more care and respect. Open the door for him, whether he is getting into your car or going to a restaurant. Pull up the chair before he sits down. Give him your coat when he's cold, and don't act vulgar in front of him.
Don't worry: being a genius doesn't mean you have to be someone else or overdo it. Just treat your lover with more care and affection, and it will make you look like a genius in his eyes
Step 2. Improve your communication with your partner
Many men are known to be lovers with poor communication skills. If you want to be a better lover, you'll need to learn how to communicate your wishes honestly and gently, how to talk about things without getting angry, and how to compromise when they don't understand what you want. If you develop communication skills, your relationship will improve.
- When your lover is angry, you should try to understand what is making him angry and try to understand his concerns; for example, if he's angry that you're late for a date, he may feel that you're not putting in enough effort in the relationship.
- Choosing the right time is also important for you to talk about serious things. If you want to talk about something important with your boyfriend, try to choose a time when he's less tired and can focus on the conversation.
Step 3. Give him your time
If you want to be a better lover, you must be there for lovers. That doesn't mean you have to be there for him every second, but you have to make sure that you spend enough time in your relationship to stay strong, such as time for date night, time to chat on the phone, or time to watch a movie with him. If you are never by his side or prefer to hang out with friends, he will feel neglected.
Even so, he may feel lost in love because you are always reliable and always there for him. Make sure that you keep your personal life, such as time with friends, as well as time to pursue hobbies and interests. While you should make time for him, you should also show him that you are an interesting and dynamic person
Step 4. Respect her independence
While it's important to make time for your loved one, it's also important to respect their personal time and space. Let him go out with his girlfriends without feeling jealous or calling him every five minutes; don't go along with doing everything he likes, like running or volunteering with him. Let him do it himself and give him credit for the things he does, even if you know he wants you to join him. Don't let him feel that you are holding back or that you don't like things he does without you by his side.
If you hold him back, he will feel that you don't trust him or are unsure about the relationship. If you feel comfortable enough to let him do his own thing or go out with his friends, he will feel pretty confident in the relationship
Step 5. Show good behavior to friends and family
His friends and family are an important aspect, and maybe they are the key for you to win his heart. Don't take them for granted or just make small talk without taking the time to get to know them better. Ask them how they are, tell them a little about yourself, and show that you really care about them. Even if you're only doing it because you care about your boyfriend, it can make a big difference, and there's a good chance that they'll agree more when he talks about you.
If your boyfriend invites you to go out with his friends, you should always allow it, even if you don't feel completely comfortable. That way, you can show that you care and are willing to put in the effort for him
Part 3 of 3: Adding Spice to Relationships
Step 1. Do new things together
If you want to keep your relationship strong, you have to find new things to do together. You can do this by watching every movie made by Hitchcock, taking tennis practice together, or going for a hike. Whatever you do, you have to find something to do with your loved one, and make sure that it reminds you of your relationship. If you keep doing the same thing, the spark in the relationship will be extinguished.
You can take hip hop, karate, or art classes together, if you're interested. Of course you don't have to do anything you don't like
Step 2. Add spice to the date
While dinner and going to the movies are great things to do once in a while, you should try something to keep things fun, like doing something different every now and then. Instead of having dinner out, try to invite your sweetheart over to your house, and cook for her. Instead of going to the cinema, try to climb the mountain to see the sunset and have a picnic. Try to date occasionally on Tuesdays instead of the usual Fridays, so that the relationship doesn't get boring.
Make an appointment to climb the rock wall in the gym. Take a kickboxing class with your loved one. Practicing with a lover can be a very sexy thing
Step 3. Go with someone else
While spending time with your lover is a great way to keep your relationship strong, if he or she is the only person you go out with, the relationship will become boring. Go in a group consisting of your friends and lovers, each other's friends, or family members. Plus, you can also make an effort to make new friends together, so you won't be running out of things to do and the relationship can still feel new.
When you travel with your loved one, either alone or in a group, you and your partner can appreciate each other more. Going on a double date might be a new layer of fun in your relationship
Step 4. Be spontaneous
While it's great to plan new things to do together on a date, you also need to be able to be spontaneous. When passing by a nice looking restaurant you should stop and ask if there is a table available. If you suddenly feel bored on a Saturday afternoon, head out for a drive, or take a ride to the beach with no plans at all. By being able to do the unexpected, relationships can remain enjoyable.
Is there something you and your partner have always wanted to do, but never had the chance to try? Now is the perfect time
Step 5. Apply the "oversell" method
While it's important to show your partner care, openness, and honesty, you shouldn't open up to him completely because that will only make him feel satisfied and not curious anymore. Don't take the call really straight away, make other social plans, and don't restrain her from showing love and care. If you're a bit of a "hit" and allow him to chase after you, he'll be more interested when he gets you with his efforts.
If he feels that you can't always be with him every time he wants to go out, he will appreciate your time with you more
Tips
- Say love to him every day, and hug him when he says.
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Here are some ideas for casual dates:
- Small cinema at home
- Dinner together at home
- Bowling
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Here are some ideas for a romantic date:
- Go on a midnight picnic
- Go to the beach at night
- Making dinner with salad, using fish as main course, as well as fruit salad
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For a fun date, here are some ideas for what to do:
- Run around the park and take pictures with strangers
- Picnic on the beach
- Chasing a flock of pigeons or seagulls with an umbrella
- Dance
- Visit the museum
