Cuddling is both fun and romantic, and it can be a way to relax while getting closer to your partner. However, it's natural for you to feel shy or a little nervous about asking him to hug you. Prepare a comfortable place so you can embrace each other naturally. If your boyfriend seems uncomfortable, look for the reason so you can find a solution or the right solution.
Step
Method 1 of 3: Asking Your Boyfriend to Cheat
Step 1. Set up a place where both of you are comfortable, if you can
If you've never hugged a guy before, the couch is a great place to start. This location is very comfortable, looks relaxed, and is a place you usually stay without cuddling. However, you can also cuddle them in a large chair or bench, if that's all you have at home. If you have time, also prepare pillows, blankets, or anything else that can make you both feel comfortable.
- It's a good idea to put on some music or play a movie so you can pay attention to something while embracing each other.
- You can also cuddle him in bed, but this often indicates that you want more than just a "cuddle."
Tips:
Choose a time when you and he are both relaxed and happy!
Step 2. Spray your girlfriend's favorite perfume to draw her closer
If your boyfriend often compliments you on a certain perfume, use a little of it before you meet. When he smells her scent, he will want to get closer to you!
Do not exaggerate! If the scent is too strong, he may even run away
Step 3. Sit next to your boyfriend, smile, then slide your body towards him
Sometimes, you just need to send a "signal" for your boyfriend to embrace you. After you two sit down, look into his eyes and smile, then lean on his arm. This will usually make him approach or wrap his arms around your body.
Find a way to push him further if he seems interested. For example, if he extends his hand, grab it and rest your head on his arm
Step 4. Touch it gently to lighten the mood
There's a good chance he's nervous, just like you, or even more. To help her relax, find a casual way to touch her. For example, you can sit closer so your feet touch, or lean back until your shoulders touch each other.
- You can also rest your head on his shoulder, hook your arm, or hold his hand.
- Try tugging on his arm if you're feeling impatient.
Step 5. Give him a hug if he doesn't come close
There's nothing wrong with being honest. If you want to be cuddled, but he doesn't respond, just be open about what you want.
- For example, you could say something like "Honey, won't you hug me?"
- If you think the word “hug” would make her uncomfortable, say something like “Hey, sit next to me!” or “Let's relax on the couch together.”
Step 6. Don't force him to do something he doesn't want to do
If he doesn't want to embrace you, don't take it to heart. However, smile and say it's okay. You can talk about it later when your emotions subside.
Remember that you and he both have to respect the boundaries of the physical relationship that you want
Method 2 of 3: Finding a Comfortable Position
Step 1. Try to lean back and ask him to wrap his arms around you
If you just want to make out with him without the hassle, there's no need to embrace him in a complicated position. Just ask him to wrap his arms around your shoulders, then lean back so that your upper body is pressed against his body.
- To be more relaxed, you can also rest your head against his chest or shoulder if you want, but this is not mandatory.
- You can also put your arm around her shoulder if you want!
Step 2. Cross your legs over her to embrace her intimately and relax
Find a comfortable position, then cross your legs up or down his legs. This will leave your hands free so you can reach for a snack or drink while making out casually.
This is a fun way to make out, whether on the couch or on the bed
Step 3. Use pillows for a comfortable snuggle
Ask your boyfriend to sit on his side, then place a pillow on his stomach. Ask him to lean back so his back is against the handle on the couch or chair you are sitting on. After that, take a thin pillow or soft mat and place it on his stomach or chest to lean on.
- This way, he can wrap his arms around her, but you'll both still feel comfortable.
- You can also tell him to sit as usual, then put a pillow on his lap.
Step 4. Try the spooning position when you and him lie down together
Spooning is a position when you and he lie in the same direction with the body sticking together. The person in the back is called "the big spoon", while the person in front is "the little spoon". You and he can take turns being "the little spoon" or "the big spoon". So, set it to your heart's content!
- This is a classic snuggle – don't be surprised if you fall asleep while doing it.
- Spooning is usually done on a mattress, but if your couch is big enough, try this position there!
Method 3 of 3: Encouraging her to want to make out more often
Step 1. Be open and ask if he wants to hug you
If you notice that he often looks hesitant when he hugs you, just say that you want him. He may be shy or not aware that you need him. When conveying this, use the statement from an "I" point of view, then word it in such a way that it doesn't sound like a complaint.
For example, you could say, “I feel loved when you hug me. Can we spend more time making out?”
Step 2. Pay attention to his answers and body language
Take the time to try to understand his feelings. If he seems stiff or uncomfortable, he may have a reason why he doesn't want to make out. Responding and responding empathically to the answer can help both of you resolve this issue well.
For example, he may have a hard time showing affection, or he may not feel ready for intimate physical contact
Relationship Tips:
If your boyfriend is usually considerate and kind but doesn't want to hug you, he may have his reasons. However, if he often ignores your feelings and refuses requests to get closer emotionally, he may not take your relationship seriously.
Step 3. Be patient when problems arise
If your boyfriend seems reluctant to hug you, don't force him to hug you every time you watch tv together. Respect their wants and needs, and try to treat them kindly and attentively.
Ask questions to find out what he likes and doesn't like, for example: "What's your favorite way of making out?" or “How important do you think physical contact is in a relationship?”
Step 4. Respect her opinion if she's not ready for physical contact
For most men, physical contact is something very seductive. If he's not ready to do it, or if there are other factors that are preventing you from making out, your boyfriend may be reluctant to embrace. If this is the case, you should be able to treat him just as well as you did when you refused to have sex because you didn't want to.
- For example, if you want to be cuddled, but there are other people around you, he may just feel shy about showing physical affection.
- He may not want to make out because he's committed to waiting until marriage before having sex, or he may honor your request to wait until you're officially married.
Step 5. Get to know his manly side if he has trouble showing affection
Some men find it difficult to reach a partner because they have been taught all their life to be manly all the time. If this is the case, your boyfriend may not want to make out because he feels it doesn't suit his persona and finds it difficult to be different. Say something that shows that you still find him strong and masculine even though you're hugging each other.
For example, you could say, “I feel safe when I'm with you”, or “I love touching your strong hand.”
Step 6. Ask him to budge if he doesn't see physical touch as important
The needs of both of you are equally important. So if he doesn't show the same enthusiasm as you, find a win-win solution. For example, ask him if he wants to make out for a certain amount of time. However, you also have to be sincere if he doesn't want to make out too often.
For example, if you like being cuddled while sleeping, but she doesn't like it, you can ask her to cuddle you a few minutes before bed and then make room for her when it's time to sleep
Step 7. Reconsider your relationship if your views on affection are very different
You can still be in a relationship with someone who has a different view of physical relationships. However, if you often feel hurt or lonely because he doesn't want to make out, consider whether this is understandable or not.
