Jealousy is a very strong emotion and can poison a relationship, even destabilizing an established relationship. However, you can use jealousy as a joke or a quick way to rekindle the flames of romance. Do you feel like you're not getting the attention your boyfriend deserves? If used properly, a little jealousy can make your boyfriend realize what you both have had. However, it's best not to abuse this method, and never use it for malicious purposes as it can open old wounds or give rise to new paranoia. Understanding how your relationship situation is and paying attention to your boyfriend's confidence level is very important for managing jealousy.
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Part 1 of 4: Understanding Jealousy
Step 1. Recognize that jealousy hides deeper emotions
Jealousy is a natural feeling and is often out of our control. If you're planning to make your boyfriend jealous, understand that you'll be releasing emotions he may not be ready to deal with, such as insecurity or embarrassment.
Step 2. Evaluate your boyfriend's confidence
Jealousy usually arises because of a lack of self-confidence. Be careful when you decide to make your boyfriend jealous because he may already have a bad self-image.
Step 3. Consider your boyfriend's past
He may have had a painful relationship in the past, but is too shy to tell anyone about it or maybe he is trying hard to get over it. Even so, subconsciously, he could still feel the negative effects of the experience. Shyness can affect the level of jealousy and insecurity he feels. Therefore, be careful not to exploit its deepest vulnerabilities.
Don't open old wounds. If he tells you something personal, don't use it against him because it could damage the relationship
Part 2 of 4: Recognizing His Insecurities
Step 1. Pay attention to him
Whether your goal of making him jealous is to rekindle the fire of a fading romance or just as a joke, it's a good idea to first learn what sparked his jealousy. The attention you give him will help you figure out what's making him jealous, but it will also create a stronger bond between the two of you. Therefore, you should be aware that the stronger the bond between you, the jealousy will cause more damage.
Some people are more sensitive than others. For that, be careful not to go too far. For example, some women may see their boyfriend flirting with other women as a joke, but some see it as disrespectful and will end the relationship for that reason. Again, be careful
Step 2. Set limits
Don't go too far with this pretense. Ask yourself what you want to achieve by fueling your boyfriend's jealous fire. Think about what your relationship means and act with caution if you think making her jealous is a tactic worth trying.
Step 3. Avoid anything that could legally be considered a threat
By introducing things that can affect your boyfriend's psychological state, you run the risk of making the relationship fragile. Even if your boyfriend has an open mind, it's easy for you to play with his fears with logic. For example, keeping in touch with your ex can make him jealous.
- If he's objected to seeing you interact with someone, don't use this to make him jealous. His level of paranoia was already very high. So, if you break the agreement, the damage may be irreparable.
- Don't use your ex to make him jealous. Knowing that you've been in a romantic relationship with that person will make it easy for your boyfriend to think the relationship could continue at any time.
- Don't mention very famous friends. If you have mutual friends who are often on TV, are professional sports athletes, or hold high positions, don't talk about it with your boyfriend because their social status makes them a target. Your boyfriend can get jealous right away if you compliment this popular friend too much.
Part 3 of 4: Using Social Circles
Step 1. Make your own plan
Make plans to watch a sports game or go to a bar with friends. Make your boyfriend jealous by showing him that you have a healthy social life.
Don't make her feel like a burden or give the impression that her presence is unpleasant. You just need to show him that being with you is a lot of fun
Step 2. Use social media
“Like” a photo or leave a funny comment for a friend you know he'll read. Boyfriends can easily get jealous if you like other women's publications. You can also share a joke that he doesn't understand or upload a photo of an event that he doesn't involve himself in.
Step 3. Immerse yourself in the work
Work can be a source of jealousy because you dedicate a lot of time to it and justify it as a pursuit of ambition. Be careful if your boyfriend is jealous of your relationship with a coworker. His paranoia could cost you your job, especially if your boyfriend starts asking coworkers questions about your relationship with him. Worse still, your boyfriend could contact the coworker's husband or girlfriend and you could inadvertently put their relationship in jeopardy.
Step 4. Make friends with your girlfriend's girlfriend
You can increase interaction with them on social media or invite them to join in certain activities and make your boyfriend feel jealous at your sudden increased attention to his girlfriends. This approach will be especially effective if you specifically choose female friends who are single or have complimented you in the past.
- Be careful not to get too close to his best friend as doing so can cause deep emotional damage.
- Learn the dynamics between your boyfriend and his friends so you don't cause more problems. One of his friends may have a history of "taking" someone else's lover.
Part 4 of 4: Focusing on Other Women
Step 1. Give compliments to other women
Compliment a TV star or a stranger who just happens to be passing by. Your boyfriend will feel jealous because he will automatically compare himself to the woman. Celebrities can be easy targets because the media greatly glorify physical beauty and famous figures.
Step 2. Talk to the woman in front of your boyfriend
While you can interact with anyone, male or female, your boyfriend will feel jealous if your interactions play with his insecurities. Only you know what to do to make him jealous. Some women aren't bothered by their boyfriend making light touches and joking with the waitress, while your boyfriend might get jealous just because you smiled at the waiter the wrong way.
Step 3. Invite a third person
Invite a friend who also knows your boyfriend to join an activity that you usually do alone. Make sure this action doesn't look like a plan, but just a spontaneous thought. Say something like, “I invited Yanti to go hiking with us tomorrow. He said he hadn't been hiking in a long time. So I said we'd pick him up if he wanted to come along. This action will show that you care about other women without looking childish or overtly
Tips
- Jealousy is unpredictable. Make sure you know how to manage your expectations and be prepared to tell him you're just kidding. Your boyfriend should know without the slightest doubt that you're just trying to make him jealous and not really after other women.
- Don't arouse jealousy in people who have trouble controlling their emotions. He may have deep past wounds and your actions could hurt him even more.
- Social media can easily be misunderstood. Be careful when you write something on a friend's wall.
Warning
- Don't overdo it. If you love him, don't act too cruel.
- There is a possibility that he will end the relationship.
- He may want revenge and make you jealous too.
