Have you found the right and ideal man to be your life partner in the future? Safe! After finding the man of your dreams, it's only natural that you try your best to be the perfect boyfriend for him. Don't worry, being a good boyfriend for your loved ones is not impossible, even if you are still a teenager. Want to know more detailed information? Read on for this article!
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Part 1 of 3: Choosing the Right People
Step 1. Make sure you and your potential boyfriend are both adults
If you are a teenager, the meaning of maturity may be different, especially since you and your peers are still in the process of becoming an adult. However, try to choose someone who is at the same level of maturity as you. Trust me, your relationship will be easier to live after.
- The best way to know that your maturity level is equal is to observe how you feel when you are around him; do you feel comfortable? Do you feel comfortable chatting with him for a long time? If so, chances are you've found the right person.
- Do you often feel annoyed by his childish attitude? Or does he always feel superior to others and seem arrogant? If that's the case, chances are he's not the right person for you.
- For some, "age is just a number". Although there is some truth to it, age is also a very powerful indicator to measure the level of success of a relationship.
Step 2. Share each other's interests
Sharing interests is an important step in bringing people together in a romantic relationship even more. Of course, you and your boyfriend don't have to have exactly the same interests. But at least, if you have the same hobby or habit, surely the time you spend together will feel more fun.
- Finding a potential boyfriend in an activity you enjoy is also a proven method! For example, you might meet a potential boyfriend at a painting club or other extracurricular activity you are involved in.
- So what if you and he don't have the same interests? Don't worry, as long as you have the same values or backgrounds, chances are that the relationship can still be continued! For example, you might like to play sports while your crush prefers to paint. Even though you have different hobbies, it turns out that you have the same religious beliefs. If that's the case, you too can develop a deep and meaningful romantic relationship!
Step 3. Find someone who is self-aware
If you're a teenager, this method can be difficult, especially since most teens aren't old enough to have self-awareness. But at least, understand that self-awareness is a person's ability to understand the consequences of his words and behavior on other people and the environment around him. Self-aware people are also capable of honest reflection and are willing to make changes if needed.
- A person who is self-aware usually also has great patience and self-control; he will not force you to do things you are not ready to do.
- A self-aware person is usually able to make a good partner, mainly because he or she is able to understand the consequences of his behavior on you and your relationship.
Step 4. Choose people who will appreciate you
Remember, find a partner who respects you, is not manipulative, and won't hurt you. The initial stage of a relationship is a period of learning; therefore, make sure you set boundaries and understand your rights at this stage. Be careful, people who like to do violence will usually look more attractive in the eyes of others. Therefore, make sure you always keep an eye on things that are no he says and evaluates his behavior carefully.
- Common characteristics of perpetrators of violence include: experiencing drastic changes in mood and behavior, being overprotective and controlling, having a rigid understanding of gender issues, being inflexible and judgmental, being overly tense and dependent, and accustomed to hiding their feelings. At first glance, these kind of people actually look very attractive, well-spoken, talented, and popular. Someone who is potentially violent is also likely to rush to demand you commit.
- If you notice any of the above symptoms in your crush (for example, he's always forcing you to tell him where you are, controlling how you dress, ignoring your feelings, and constantly criticizing or demeaning you), it's a sign that he's not the right person for you to date. No matter how much you like him, realize that you will not be able to establish a healthy and positive relationship with him.
- Set boundaries about what you will – and will not – tolerate in a romantic relationship. For example, you're not willing to be in a relationship with someone who forces you to be his girlfriend when you're not ready. If your crush doesn't respect your boundaries, make sure you don't develop further relationships with them.
Step 5. No need to rush
When you find someone who truly fulfills the characteristics of your ideal partner so far, it's only natural that you want to start a relationship with him right away. However, understand that a lasting relationship always requires a process. Don't rush into a relationship if you're not ready or you two don't know each other well.
- Try traveling with him a few times before deciding to be his girlfriend. If he asks you for reassurance, give the most honest answer.
- Tell him, “I really like you, that's why I don't want us to rush into dating. I want to first prepare myself to be a good boyfriend for you.”
- You can also say, "I really like you, but I don't think I'm ready to be anyone's boyfriend yet," if that's how you feel.
Part 2 of 3: Treat Your Partner Well
Step 1. Learn to compromise
If you ask the experts for the key to a lasting relationship, the answer you will definitely receive is: willingness to compromise. Before doing so, understand the most basic difference between healthy and unhealthy compromises.
- Remember, both parties must be willing to compromise. Evaluate the things that are important to you and communicate them to your boyfriend. For example, you might say, "Dancing is my world, so it's very important to me that you're willing to come to all of my recitals."
- Be willing to do the same for your boyfriend. If your boyfriend is involved in an important event for him, make time to attend the event even if you don't like it.
- When you're in a romantic relationship with someone, you're more likely to be "forced" to do something you don't like. For example, your boyfriend might take you to watch a horror movie you hate so much or eat at a restaurant you don't like. Don't worry, this is perfectly normal. Just make sure he is also willing to make the same sacrifice for you.
Step 2. Keep your loyalty
Maintaining loyalty is one of the important keys to a healthy and happy relationship. If you're ready to be someone's boyfriend, it means you're committed to not having a romantic relationship with another man until you break up. Don't seduce or seduce other men!
- Some people prefer to be in a statusless relationship with the opposite sex; that is, they are entitled to a romantic relationship with two or more people. If you are interested in doing so, make sure you convey your wishes to all parties involved to make sure they agree with your plan.
- Even though seducing someone else can't be categorized as cheating, the fact is that it can still make your boyfriend jealous. If you value your girlfriend, don't do it in front of her or behind her. Would you be willing to let your boyfriend do the same to other women?
- If you're really tempted to cheat, it's a sign that you're not ready for a romantic relationship with anyone (or your current boyfriend isn't the right person for you).
Step 3. Keep the friendship between you
Remember, your boyfriend is also your best friend. A good friend knows how to have fun or provide the support his friend needs. Therefore, make sure you keep the feel of friendship in the midst of the romance that colors your relationship with your boyfriend.
- Ask about your boyfriend. Make sure you also contact him regularly if he is sick or having problems. You can also send him a silly short message to show you care.
- Do activities that you enjoy together. Just because you guys are already dating doesn't mean you have to spend all day just cuddling, right? Strengthen the connection between you by sharing happiness through fun activities.
Step 4. Plan a fun date
Don't think your boyfriend always has a genius date idea. Show that you're willing to invest in the relationship by thinking of memorable date ideas.
- Classic date ideas include watching a movie at the cinema, having dinner at a romantic restaurant, attending a sporting event, and going to a concert.
- Try taking your boyfriend for a variety of outdoor activities, such as hiking, biking, taking an afternoon walk in a city park, or swimming at a nearby beach.
- Invite your boyfriend to do social activities, such as volunteering at soup kitchens or community events.
- Take your girlfriend to a 5 kilometer run.
Step 5. Support each other
The main reason a person looks for a partner is to experience friendship and receive support in different intensities. To be a good boyfriend, make sure you always provide the support your boyfriend needs in difficult or happy conditions.
- If you know your boyfriend isn't feeling well or is having trouble at school, try sending a cute greeting card or a romantic note. Show that you think about and care about them; in addition, ask if there is anything you can do to help.
- If you live far away from your boyfriend (or if you go to different schools), send him a text to show that you miss him and think about him.
- Offer help if needed. He might need your help with math homework, stick up the student council president campaign poster, or plan a small birthday party. Whatever help he needs, show that you're happy to help.
Part 3 of 3: Keeping Up in Public
Step 1. Maintain your independence
For couples who are in love, the world feels like their own and therefore, they have to do everything together! Although it looks romantic, actually this kind of behavior is very unhealthy for both parties. Each party in the relationship should still be able to maintain their independence and identity, even though they are doing activities with their boyfriend.
- Trying new things that your boyfriend likes is fun; but make sure you are honest about your level of interest. Don't neglect the things you like because you're too focused on your boyfriend's interests.
- Make sure you and your boyfriend still make time to have fun with each other's friends. There are times when you need to travel without your boyfriend, and vice versa. Don't worry, this is normal and very healthy in a relationship!
- Say to your boyfriend, “I love spending time with you, but I also like spending time with my friends. You know I haven't seen them in a week, right? So, this Friday I want to go with them first, huh? We can meet again next week.".
Step 2. Keep your personal affairs away from social media
Every relationship has problems; but is it wise to let your problems be known to the whole world? Remember, the things you share on social media can be read by hundreds or even thousands of people and will be stored forever in cyberspace.
- Even if what you want to share is positive things like romantic gifts from your boyfriend, try to refrain from doing so. Remember, not everyone likes to be published on social media; especially if your boyfriend thinks the gift is very private.
- Don't talk about the fights you've had on social media. In addition to embarrassing your boyfriend, doing so will actually worsen your relationship with him in the future.
Step 3. Avoid gossip
Avoiding gossip means that you turn a deaf ear to the gossip circulating around you, and keep your mouth shut and don't be the gossiping party. Don't talk about your boyfriend's private life with anyone else; Don't listen to stories about your boyfriend's life from other people's mouths.
- In school, gossip about romantic relationships is a soft meal that feels like it should not be missed. If you hear false information about your boyfriend or your romantic relationship, immediately clarify the truth of the rumor to your boyfriend; don't believe anything you hear out of the blue!
- If you want to share your relationship problems with other people, ask your boyfriend's opinion first. If your boyfriend says, "Let this be our problem," it means he doesn't want you to tell anyone else.
Tips
- Be yourself. Remember, your boyfriend likes and respects you for who you are; Isn't that what brought you two together?
- If you have to separate, accept all emotions that arise openly. But realize that one day, you will definitely find the right person and be able to provide a more meaningful relationship for you.
Warning
- Remember, being a good boyfriend doesn't necessarily oblige you to do things you're not ready to do. If your boyfriend asks you to engage in sexual activity or intimacy that you're not ready for, make sure you make your objections clear.
- Sex and sexuality are an important part of any romantic relationship. Physical intimacy is fun, but that doesn't mean it's free from negative consequences. If done prematurely, you can experience emotional disorders, contract sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), or even get pregnant out of wedlock. Make sure you communicate it clearly to your boyfriend.
