You may have never dated a rich man before and are too worried about how to follow his lifestyle. How can you have a meaningful relationship without having to feel that you don't fit into his lifestyle? How to make your guy realize right away that you really love him for his personality? Keep reading to find out!
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Step 1. Think about your motivation
Ask yourself whether you love a man who happens to be someone rich or you love him simply "because" he is rich. If her diamond earrings mean more to you than her subtle kiss, then you're in a relationship for the wrong reasons, and that kind of relationship won't last long. Here are some questions you need to ask yourself in order to know your true purpose:
- Would he still be great without his fancy house and car? If you're not sure if you'll still like him when he lives in that tiny apartment and drives an older car than you, chances are that you love him “as is”, not for what he is.
- Are you twenty while he is nearing retirement age? Even though age is just a number, this may mean that you want to satisfy him just for his money.
- Is "he's rich" the first sentence that comes to mind when someone asks you why you love him? If you're this obsessed with his wealth, chances are you don't appreciate his other good qualities – or even that they don't exist for you.
- Have you been dating rich guys all your life? If he's the tenth rich man you've dated, then wealth is the only quality you care about, and maybe it's time to reflect on what you really seek in a relationship.
Step 2. Enjoy the wealth, but make sure you try to compensate for it as best you can
Of course, being treated to expensive food and drinks is something fun. However, if you keep asking him every night without offering anything in return, he may suspect that you're just in love with his money, not because he's smart or funny. Find a balance between activities that are expensive and activities that are affordable.
- Pay bills every now and then. Even if you don't have a lot of money, you should show you care, even if it's only by paying for a movie ticket after he has paid for dinner. Alternatively, you can pay for drinks at the bar. You can also look for special prices at restaurants that are usually expensive or look for bars in your area that have free music nights, so you can afford a good meal in a fun atmosphere.
- Treat him to an inexpensive meal. You can invite him over to your home and cook him a nice but inexpensive meal, by preparing an affordable bottle of wine. Or, you can set up a lovely picnic that will show that you put the time and effort into planning your date.
- Invite him to join you for an inexpensive activity. Invite him to do outdoor activities, such as walking, climbing mountains, or sunbathing on the beach. If it's too cold outside for outdoor activities, take him to a local museum or bookstore. This will show that his presence means more than the gift he gives.
Step 3. Don't make her feel awkward about her wealth
If he's the right guy, he won't want to listen to you over and over again about how rich he is or how you enjoy dating someone who is rich. This can make him lose confidence and jeopardize your relationship.
- When you introduce them to your new friends, make sure you tell them to be careful. If one of your friends says, “Oh, you're the rich guy he talks about,” it will sound like wealth is the only quality you have in mind.
- If he wants to pay for something luxurious, let him pay. If he insists on taking you to an expensive opera or vacation, you don't need to spoil his goodwill by repeatedly saying, “This must be really expensive…” This will ruin the romantic atmosphere and keep you from enjoying his kindness.
Step 4. Try to follow his lifestyle
While you don't have to copy every move, especially if you don't have a lot of money, it's still good to share your interests and understand the world better. The more similarities the two of you have in common, the more likely your love will develop.
- You have to look appropriate for certain situations. Dress to impress her as much as you can, even if it means buying discount clothes that make you "look" rich. You can replace diamonds with cubic zirconia, buy fake purses that look real, or wait for expensive clothes to discount before you pick the perfect item. You can also splurge on expensive “authentic” items – what matters is quality, not quantity. So even if you only have a few expensive items on hand, make sure the rest of your outfits will be suitable for mix and match.
- Learn an “expensive” hobby. Try sports that signify wealth, such as taking a cruise, playing polo, or tennis. You'll learn new skills, make new friends, and have fun going through the process.
Step 5. Money is important; learn to use it
If you are serious about your relationship with the rich guy, then chances are you will meet his rich family and friends. You have to make a good impression and show how much you love your new boyfriend-not his new yacht.
- If you're anxious about meeting their friends, you can stay humble the first time you meet them to understand your partner's group dynamics. After that, you can start a friendly conversation, to show that you are not intimidated by the wealth of his friends.
- If you're meeting his family for the first time, try not to talk about his finances or the extravagant things you've done together. Chances are he's already dated someone who only wants his fortune and his family may be trying to find out if your goals are genuine or not.
- Be yourself. Even if you have to fit in first, remember to always be yourself. If your boyfriend loves the real you, then his friends and family will surely follow suit.
Step 6. Whether he is rich or poor, you still have to work hard to make your relationship work
In the end, remember that rich people are no different from other people – they just happen to have extra money. Run this relationship just like any other relationship.
- You must communicate openly and honestly. It's important to tell him what you think and if his wealth makes you uncomfortable.
- Tell him one or two things you like about him every day. This will let him know that you love his heart, not his wallet.
- If you love your relationship, don't feel guilty about enjoying the joys of dating someone rich. If you go on vacation to Venice in the process, be grateful!
Warning
- Your man may be nice, but over time, money can ruin him.
- Most rich men are aggressive men. Be prepared for that if you want to date a rich guy.
- Rich people are busy people and often (not all of them) are overly dedicated to work.
