Having trouble finding the ideal potential partner in your school, office, or other places you frequent? Why not try looking for it in cyberspace? Today, various sites available on the internet make it easy for you to connect with people who share your interests. If the interaction in cyberspace goes well, you too can choose to take the relationship to a more serious stage! But before doing so, make sure you read this article to find powerful tips for finding a date online and building a romantic relationship the right way.
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Part 1 of 4: Finding Dating Friends in Cyberspace
Step 1. Join an online dating site
In fact, online dating sites are the ideal place to find a date, especially since everyone who joins there is meant to find a date; In addition, you can also read their profile details to determine which person fits your criteria. After finding the right person, invite him to interact in cyberspace first before making plans to meet him in person.
- Don't fake your profile. No matter how tempting it is to manipulate your job, height, or hobby information, sooner or later the lie will be caught by your date.
- Broaden your perspective. Even if you don't feel 100% compatible with someone's profile, don't hesitate to try to get to know them first. Who knows, the match will actually arise along with the increasing interaction between the two of you.
Step 2. Look for dating partners on various sites that accommodate specific interests or hobbies
Many people are successful in finding a partner on sites that relate to their interests or hobbies. If you have an interest in a particular sport, television show, or hobby, try joining a site specifically for fans of those things. Once you find someone you have a lot in common with, try starting a conversation with them and getting to know them better.
Step 3. Explore online gaming sites
In fact, some people are able to find their soul mate through virtual reality gaming sites like Second Life or World of Warcraft. Try interacting with other players and get to know them better. If you've found one person that feels right for you, find out their social media accounts so you can continue the interaction process there.
Don't join online gaming sites just to find a date. Chances are, the women who join it will be more attracted to men who are able to share their interests, not just men who are seriously looking for a date
Step 4. Join your alma mater alumni group
Some schools and universities provide online groups to accommodate alumni; some online groups on social media are even formed by the alumni themselves. Therefore, try to find out if your alma mater has a group for alumni and join there. Who knows you too will find a soul mate there, right?
Part 2 of 4: Sending Messages
Step 1. Don't convey too much information in the first message you send
Excessive attitude in conveying information actually has the potential to keep him away from you! Save more intimate conversation topics to discuss when the relationship between the two of you is more intense. In other words, make sure the first message you send is dense enough to show you are serious, but not too long so as not to make him feel intimidated and lazy to respond.
Don't tell too much about your life either. Focus on getting to know him better instead of trying to impress him
Step 2. Ask genuine open-ended questions
In the world of online dating, open-ended questions that sound original are more likely to receive a response than simple questions like, "How are you?" If you find a date on an online dating site, try reading their profile carefully and sorting out questions based on their interests. Open-ended questions that require long answers (not just “yes” or “no”) are ideal if you want to get to know them more in less time.
- If you find a date on another site, try asking questions based on what you know about them. For example, if you found this woman on a gaming site, try asking her what attracted her to the world of gaming. If you find the woman in the school's alumni group, try asking her how she is currently and what education she took after graduating from high school.
- Don't send the same message to everyone that catches your eye. Instead, tailor the question to each person's personal life to show that you do pay more attention to him and share his interests.
Step 3. Compliment her actions or personality instead of her physical appearance
As much as the temptation to compliment her facial beauty in photos, try to resist it. Instead, compliment his sense of humor or interest in football. Believe me, a compliment directed to "beauty of heart and personality" will sound much more written than a compliment that targets physical beauty.
Remember, most people prefer to hear compliments about “who they are”, not “what they look like”. By following the tips above, your potential to hear a positive response will increase
Step 4. Interact for a few days or weeks online before asking her out
Spend time getting to know each other before you decide to meet up. The more you know each other, the higher your potential to click in real life will be. Go with the flow, and when you feel comfortable with her, suggest meeting up in person.
Let him determine the right time to meet in person. Some women will not want to meet a stranger who has not made her comfortable; therefore, give full control to him to decide the most appropriate meeting time
Part 3 of 4: Asking Him To Meet
Step 1. Choose a lively and casual location
“Safe” first date locations include restaurants, gyms, and city parks. Remember, even though the two of you have often chatted in cyberspace, you actually don't really know him. Therefore, meeting in public is the safest option for both of you.
Although most men claim to prefer having a first date at a restaurant, the fact is that women actually prefer to have a first date at a coffee shop. Always remember that a more relaxed location can help him feel more comfortable
Step 2. Be polite and don't be late
If you don't show up at the right time, he's likely to think you don't appreciate him. Therefore, value your precious time and arrive at the time you promised. Be manly and don't make jokes that have the potential to offend or hurt him. Remember, your goal is to create a positive first impression in his eyes.
Step 3. Avoid controversial topics
On the first date, focus on positive and broad topics. As much as possible, avoid arguing with your date, especially about topics that have the potential to increase the tension of the conversation. That's why it's best to avoid the topic of previous relationships with each other, especially if you haven't really gotten over your ex. Be careful, mentioning your ex's name on a first date gives the impression that you're comparing your ex to your date. Trust me, no one wants to be a comparison or second option.
You've probably heard that one of the topics to avoid on a first date is politics. In fact, this understanding is not entirely correct. If you both like the topic, feel free to bring it up; however, always remember that their opinions may differ from yours, and you should respect them
Step 4. Give him your full attention
Treat him as if you believe he has reciprocated your feelings. Trust me, worrying too much about the response will only make you nervous; in fact, excessive nervousness can actually sabotage the seeds of romance that are starting to grow between the two of you. If he wants to meet you, it means he's already opened up an opportunity to date you. If you both already like each other, it means that the possibility of officially dating is very wide open.
Remember, most of the time your anxiety won't show on the outside. So if you don't feel confident, at least pretend you do until you get used to it
Part 4 of 4: Strengthening Relationships
Step 1. Increase the frequency of dating and communication with him
Once the first date is over, don't back down or stop there! Instead, send a short message of thanks; Also tell him that you are very happy to be traveling with him. After that, try asking if he'd like to go out with you again another time. Also, make sure you keep him in touch, either in person or via text message.
In fact, the potential for rejection will remain with you. If he's reluctant to communicate or see you again, don't despair! Keep meeting (and dating) new people until you find the perfect match
Step 2. Slowly, increase the intimacy of the conversation between the two of you
In fact, it takes time and a process that is not a moment to increase the emotional closeness between the two of you; but after the emotional relationship is strengthened, the relationship that exists will also strengthen. In other words, the more often the two of you date, the more it opens the way for both of you to get to know each other on a deeper level. Once you feel comfortable enough around him, try to start sharing more personal ideas, thoughts, and feelings. Don't worry, he'll definitely do the same if he feels ready.
Step 3. Set aside time to take your relationship more seriously
After dating and chatting regularly, ask if he wants to officially date you. After that, try to discuss the direction of the relationship between the two of you and what you both need to do to achieve that goal.
- Keep communication between the two of you light and fun. Be careful, he can panic if you start the conversation by asking, "What do you think we are, anyway?".
- Make it clear to him that you respect his decision and will still care about him, even if he doesn't want to be romantically involved with you.
Step 4. If things don't go your way, don't keep blaming yourself or your date
If he rejects you, don't be too down. Chances are, he's just not ready to commit to anyone right now; Alternatively, the two of you are simply not suited for a romantic relationship. Make sure you're still thanking him for telling the truth; if you want, try to maintain the friendship that you both have built so far. Respect the decision, respect yourself too.
- Sometimes, lingering feelings of love and hurt can get in the way of your desire to maintain a friendship with him. Therefore, if you need time to process your emotions before continuing any relationship with him, don't hesitate to tell him what you want.
- Do not give up! Whenever you're ready, go back online to find another date. Sooner or later, you will definitely find the right person to be your life partner!
Tips
- Even if you are determined to find a date online, don't ignore the women you meet in real life. Trust me, you can find the right woman anywhere!
- Expand your mindset! Don't shut yourself off from people who don't live up to your standards; Often times, interest will emerge over time.
- Avoid dating apps that have a bad reputation or are not well regulated; usually, such applications are filled with people whose identities are unclear and don't really want to build meaningful relationships with other people.
- Limit the time you spend using the internet. Be careful, your time can be wasted if you get used to using the internet excessively.
Warning
- Don't trust everything you find on the internet. Remember, anyone can fake their online profile. One way to build trust is to ask him to meet in person.
- If you're an adult, make sure your date is also over 18. Dating an underage woman is a criminal offense in many countries; therefore, you should date an adult woman who is close to your age.
- Put your safety first! Make sure your first date is in a public place.
