Starting a relationship is not easy. With so many dating apps and film adaptations or romance novels, it's hard to tell the difference between expectation and reality in the modern world of romance. Although this sounds complicated, there are still many ways you can do to find the right partner.
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Method 1 of 3: Making Friends
Step 1. Be honest about what you want
As people say, there are a lot of fish in the sea. This means that there are many potential partners for each person. You have to understand from the start why you are interested in spending time with someone. It's best not to think about "dating" at the first meeting. You don't need to rush because all relationships should be built on good communication and a clear interest in someone.
If you see a woman often in public, whether it's at school or near where you live, greet her. Small talk in helping you find common ground. It's also a great way to get in touch personally before getting into more serious stuff. In reality, this method is not as scary as one might think; be yourself and show that you are interested in talking to him
Step 2. Speak confidently
If you think about failure, you will usually fail. Try to be calm or speak in a high pitched voice; the tone of your voice can indicate that you are not sure. If you believe in yourself, you should be able to speak straightforwardly without hesitation. This kind of confidence is very attractive and makes your interest more obvious. Even if he doesn't say "yes," you'll feel more confident the next time around.
If you carry on a conversation while showing arrogance, your chances will be slim. There is a big difference between appearing confident and assuming that he will accept your invitation. Don't show arrogance; Your honesty and straightforwardness are more than enough to maximize your chances of winning her heart
Step 3. Don't assume you will always be successful
There are various reasons why a woman might not want to accept a date offer. Don't take it to heart if he's not interested. You probably didn't do anything wrong. Maybe he's not interested in dating right now, or he might like someone else.
Method 2 of 3: Changing Relationships from Friends to Boyfriends
Step 1. Don't go too fast
If you're starting to get close to someone, there's no need to rush into asking them out. You are happy with his presence. So deepening your friendship through casual events should still be fun. You'll also find it easier to maintain friendships if he's not interested. In the end, you should still be friends if he declines an invitation to go out on a date.
If you have friends in common with him, make sure you don't sway his opinion of a relationship. There's no way he can understand how you feel. Even if his opinion is valid, you and the woman will know if you two are compatible
Step 2. Compliment him
Do not be shy. Say you like her necklace, or her new haircut, or her sense of humor. However, make sure everything you say is sincere; no one wants fake compliments. If the compliment sounds pushy, you'll appear obsessed with it. Remember that the simplest compliments are the best.
Even if physical praise can work, it's a good idea to compliment the positive behavior you see in him. If you notice his interest in other people, tell him about it. Praising someone's character or moral compass is very powerful to make him happy
Step 3. Show a genuine interest in what he enjoys
When he talks about something he likes, you should seem interested and want to hear more. Keep asking and dig deeper. He'll know you're interested and want to talk more about him.
- You're not sure what he likes? Try asking some of the topics below to find out. It's important to ask a lot of questions about what he likes. You want to get to know the person as soon as possible, and that's hard to do if you don't do a good investigation.
- If you're not really interested in what's being said, it's a sign that you two don't get along. He may be attractive or seem interested in you, but if you don't have anything in common, your future relationship will be weird and awkward.
Step 4. Be more sensitive
Since a relationship requires intimacy, you will benefit more if you start a conversation sooner rather than later. Don't be afraid to ask about your family or their biggest fear, especially if they talk about it first. You have no obligation to take care of it because your relationship status is still developing. However, if you want your relationship to take you to the next level, it's best to show that you can listen to sensitive things about him.
- It's a good idea to find out early on whether a woman is independent enough to be in a stable and serious relationship with you. If you feel like she's always in need of someone to talk to, there's concern that she's becoming too spoiled and unable to do everything on her own. Make sure you're both comfortable with each other. If you are both comfortable with yourself, but also happy to be around each other, you will build a more successful and healthy relationship.
- The same goes for your initial attraction to someone. Make sure you're attracted to just one person, not just someone to support or be nice to you. Your relationship will feel more authentic if you are one hundred percent sure that the person chosen is the right person, not just guessing.
Step 5. Be a good listener
Not listening to the other person is one of the main reasons why a relationship fails before it starts. No one wants to feel unheard. You should not be half-hearted when talking at the beginning of the meeting or busy talking about yourself. Make sure you've practiced some of the basic techniques of the art of listening:
- Make eye contact and smile.
- Use simple words and special sounds to show your interest. “Mhmmm” and “Right” can have a huge positive effect.
- Ask open-ended questions to keep the conversation flowing. This proves that you are not only listening but also want to know what the other person is saying.
- Don't act fidgety or play with clothes. Little things like that can make him think you're not interested or fun to talk to.
Step 6. Look for opportunities to ask about future plans
This is a moment that is a bit difficult to find because the situation is always different in each case. The hope is that at some point in the conversation you can find common ground that allows you to exchange contact information with the other person. Some examples of this are:
- A song you talk about. Say that you will share the link via Facebook.
- A restaurant or bar that you both love. Take her out with you, then use the plan to ask for her number.
- A cool video on Youtube you tell him. Everyone loves to laugh, and you can send them the video to continue the chat.
- Your love for a sports team or television show. Invite him to watch the game or television show together.
- All of the options above, as well as other methods, can also be used. However, if you're not good at asking him subtly, you can simply ask him for his number without further ado by saying that you'd like to take him out for coffee or dinner. He may be able to appreciate your honesty.
Method 3 of 3: Setting a Date Time
Step 1. Provide assurance as soon as possible
No one wants to wait too long. If you have time to text and schedule a date, be honest with yourself and send the invitation as soon as possible. If he has already provided his contact information, there's no reason to wait too long; call him at the end of the day, or maybe the next morning to find out what his next plan is. If you need time to prepare, or you don't have the time to spare, you can wait until the time is right.
Step 2. Don't take too long to respond
While rushing into plans can make you seem overly aggressive, waiting too long can strain your relationship. It is not easy to plan for the future, but it will become much more difficult if the people involved do not respond.
- It's not good to spend too much time between the phases of texting each other casually and scheduling dates. Since you've already made some real personal steps, don't waste time texting aimlessly. Show clarity in a simple way. Thus, you can meet with him more often.
- There are situations where you want to make room. If she isn't sure about her plans for the weekend, and says she needs to double-check her schedule, don't be too aggressive. People have their own busyness and have to make plans based on that busyness.
- Don't think too hard about texting, whether on your phone or on social media. Just because he doesn't text you in two hours doesn't mean he's not interested. He may, just like you, get nervous when asked out. His anxiety may prevent him from replying to messages quickly because he doesn't know what to say.
Step 3. Create a flexible plan
If you set your dating schedule rigidly, you will be disappointed. He may not have time to go out to dinner and see a movie. So, just dinner is enough. You also have to accommodate the advice he gives. Prove that you're more interested in spending time with him than thinking about trivia about the date itself.
Step 4. Remember that he has said yes to you
By providing contact information, he has agreed to continue contact. So don't be frustrated with making date plans. He is interested in seeing you. So, once you've agreed on the details, you'll both enjoy spending time together.
