Some men are confused about how to win the heart of a special woman. However, it's actually not that hard to take the first step to attract the woman of your dreams. You just need a little charm, adequate preparation and confidence to make the approach. After the sparks of romance start to appear, you can move on to the next level.
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Method 1 of 3: Attracting Women
Step 1. Find out what he likes, and get him to talk about it
No woman wants to hear only about you and your interests. In fact, a woman's attention will be easier to get by often talking about what she likes. You don't have to go into "feminine" topics. The boundaries between men and women have diminished considerably in the last decade. You just have to find out what he likes, and dig deep.
If you run out of topics, start with a broader topic of conversation, then narrow it down. You can start by asking about his hobbies or goals. After bridging the gap, he'll be open to more chat and that's an opportunity for you to dig in. If he enjoys sailing, follow up with another question about his interest. Ask who taught him to sail or where his favorite sailing spot is. This can open up a chat about his childhood, his love for nature, and more
Step 2. Give honest compliments
Everyone loves compliments, especially sincere and specific compliments. Praising women can also be wrong. Anything you hear in the movies will sound tacky or fake. However, if you know how to praise appropriately and in moderation, your interest will be conveyed. Remember the four main guidelines for giving compliments:
- Concise. If you talk too much, you might embarrass yourself, or worse, embarrass him.
- Not exaggerating. There's no need to call her the most amazing woman in the whole world. Compliments are more effective if they are real and sincere, not extreme.
- Specific. “Beautiful” or “charming” compliments will do you very little. If you watch his behavior and listen when he talks, you'll have a basis for real compliments.
- Not excessive. If you give a compliment or two in a date or interaction, that's enough. Any more than that will sound hopeless, and every compliment will lose its impact.
Step 3. Make him laugh
Laughter is medicine, and there's no better way to break the tension than a silly moment shared together. It also proves that you pay attention to him because most laughter comes as a direct response in conversation. Humor is also very tempting. So you can seduce him by trying to make him laugh.
Even if you don't find it funny, there are still ways to make a woman laugh. Try the "pull-and-pull" technique. In essence, "stretch" by thinking you don't deserve him. However, if accompanied by a sweet compliment, you will "attract" him. It will be very tempting. An example of a “pull and pull” technique is “You are cool, sadly you just stuck with me.”
Step 4. Prove that you are happy with him
Every time you can't keep up with the chat, maybe because you're not really listening or you're distracted, your charm will be lost. Usually, to attract a woman you just need to pay attention, it's no different from talking with other people. Respond to the reaction directly. Nod when he nods, laugh with him, and follow his behavior without imitating exactly. This should come naturally, but if you're having trouble, try to be more sensitive to his attitude.
Method 2 of 3: Prepare
Step 1. Dress appropriately
Don't underestimate the power of clothing. While fashion sense isn't everything, proper clothing proves that you value her and shows your social mobility. If you wear clothes that reflect your style and personality, you'll also be mentally more positive. It will help you carry yourself with more confidence. Since the relationship is still in its early stages, both of you will want to impress each other. If she dresses up for you, then you should also meet her with a proper appearance.
- For a dinner date, especially in the city, you need to wear some kind of suit. Try a casual blazer or suit, whatever you like. In certain situations, you may need to wear a full suit with a tie. For date night, don't worry if you dress too much. You can take it off and give him the blazer if it gets too cold.
- If you don't want to overdo it, a safe choice is a shirt, jeans or cloth pants, and good shoes. The choice is a balanced combination of formal and comfortable. Make sure the shirt is not wrinkled and the pants are clean without tearing. For shoes, choose something between sneakers and formal shoes.
Step 2. Keep your body clean
Keeping clean is always important, but don't skip a step when getting ready for the big date. Don't just cover up body odor with deodorant and cologne. Since you will be spending the night with him, do all the rituals of self-cleaning. Some steps that may be missed are:
- Use dental floss every day. Your dentist will be happy if you do this. This extra step will not only help prevent gum disease, it will also make your breath smell better. Using an electric toothbrush isn't a bad idea either.
- Wash feet. By cleaning your feet daily, you avoid other, more strenuous steps, such as smelly foot spray. However, you don't just have to soak your feet. Take a washcloth, then rub between the fingers and soles of the feet.
- Change sheets and pillowcases weekly, if not more. This is often forgotten by men. You have to keep changing the sheets even if he won't stop by. Clean sheets will help avoid acne, or worse, back acne.
Step 3. Choose a good place to start
The first date should be carefully prepared, especially if it involves several locations. You can impress him if you come up with ideas for one night so the date will feel like an adventure. Make sure you choose a place with a comfortable atmosphere. Consider music choices, décor, and noise levels. Don't choose a place where you can't hear him speak.
- Seating arrangements are very important for a first date. Best option is bar stools though for dinner. You can get close to him and have more fun. The sofa is also nice, with an extra table. Try to avoid the booths because you will drown in them.
- Although usually the first date is spent eating and drinking, don't limit yourself to that. Quiz games with friends are also great because you can demonstrate your knowledge of various topics. You and him can form a team that will bond even more. Try bowling as a competitive and very relaxing activity, and you can compete with it. For a more challenging activity, try cooking and salsa lessons.
Step 4. Relieve stress
He will lose interest if you come with excessive anxiety. Don't bring personal issues into the date. If you're stressed, you won't be able to find out what their interests are or maintain a positive attitude. Try reducing stress with meditation or exercise, if you have time.
If you're stressed about the date itself, there are many ways to reduce those negative feelings. Don't let your date fail before it starts. Make a list of what determines the success and failure of a date. Decide what you want out of this date. Talk to friends, especially those with experience in dating. And most importantly, have confidence that the date will go well. You'll never be able to enjoy any experience if you're not sure you can enjoy it
Method 3 of 3: Taking Relationships to the Next Level
Step 1. Announce
If you're announcing your relationship to the whole world, it means you've crossed the threshold of seriousness. It's not just making out in public. Showing a connection by holding hands or hugging when with friends proves that you are ready to get closer. Other people will also understand that you and he are a couple. An understanding person will not approach you or him.
It also means "announcing" the relationship via the internet. Posting a photo together is one step in the relationship. Since there's a lot of socializing nowadays on Facebook and Instagram, you don't have to be afraid to share photos together if you're serious
Step 2. Impress his friends
After a few dates, he's sure to tell his friends about you, especially if things go well. It's only a matter of time before you meet them, and you should be prepared to impress them. It's not much different from a first date. Choose nice clothes, ask them what they are interested in, and display a charismatic attitude without inappropriate intimacy.
- Don't touch him much in front of his friends. They may not be comfortable seeing the intimacy between the two of you. Socializing with friends will be different, and you have to be sensitive. If you treat them as friends, they will gradually become your friends too.
- Even though his friends may have more or less the same temperament as him, never offend them. Avoid sensitive topics like politics at the first meeting. You also shouldn't be overly expressive or offensive. He may have an inappropriate sense of humor, but you don't know if his friends will either. Better to play it safe and keep indecent topics.
Step 3. Make him feel comfortable
After going through the first stage of dating, he will clearly show your affection for you. At this point, you no longer need to find a way to always impress him, but make him trust you. Before long, he will ask you to protect him from emotional pain. If you don't have the capacity to care for him, the relationship will be nothing more than ordinary attraction.
He will be able to trust you if he knows that you are listening. This means that you can remember various details about his past or current predicament. If he doesn't feel you're paying attention, he'll quickly walk away. Remember that if you're listening, he'll want to listen to you too
Step 4. Define the direction of the relationship
If you want to be serious, you have to talk about your future as a couple. While this talk is scary, there's no other way to turn a casual date into a more serious relationship. Here are some tips for starting the conversation. Remember that in this case there is no right or wrong way.
- Evaluate how long the relationship has lasted, and how often you see him. Here you can find some clarity. If you only see each other once or twice a week, you probably don't need to rush into talking. If you and he chat or see each other every day, it's probably best to have this conversation as soon as possible.
- If there's an agreement about sex, maybe you can postpone the conversation. However, if one wants to wait, the conversation may have to be carried out more quickly. Remember that if there is no agreement to have an exclusive relationship, then your relationship is not exclusive.
- When speaking, make sure you use clear terms. The terms “serious” and “casual” have different meanings depending on the person. Make sure you not only ask what you want, but also state what you want. Say what's on your mind without ignoring the feelings or the situation.
- Remember that talking about the seriousness of the relationship is not just once. Even if the two of you come to a temporary agreement, things can still change. As long as both of you are honest about the changes in the relationship, neither party will feel cheated.
