What does it mean to be tough (feisty)? When we talk about tough people, we think of individuals who are strong-willed and lively but who like to joke around and have a zest for life. The word "feisty" actually comes from the 19th century feist, which means "little dog". So it's easy to see where this image of a tough person comes from, someone who is fun, courageous, and passionate. Be more resilient by developing the following qualities in yourself that can be useful for increasing enjoyment of life and also for making you more attractive to others in terms of friendship or love. So, if you're in doubt, read on! See step 1 below to get started.
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Part 1 of 3: Act Bold and Decisive
Step 1. Share your opinion
A tough person is not a fragile and shrinking flower. They don't hesitate to tell anyone what they think. If you want to be tough, start here. All tough people let their opinions get out at any cost. Whether it's just chilling with friends or participating in a serious debate, you want to let those around you know what you think, even if it's something they don't agree with. The benefits of this go beyond just making you appear tough - a fearless expression of your opinion can make others respect you for your bravery, even if they disagree with you.
While you don't want to have any qualms about expressing what's on your mind, normal social etiquette still applies to you even if you're a tough person, so avoid being rude when you're expressing your opinion. For example, if you're with friends and they want to watch a movie you probably won't like, over dinner you can say something light and sarcastic like, "Wow, another teen paranormal romance? That sounds amazing, guys!" You don't want to say something like, "You guys are idiots. I can't believe you're such an idiot." Remember, tough people are opinionated, but they are not cruel
Step 2. Let your emotions show
As a tough person, just as you want to tell the people around you what you think, you also want to tell them how you feel. At some level, what you feel on the inside has to be like what you do on the outside. If you want to laugh, laugh. If you want to cry, cry. If you want to scream in someone's face, go for it and scream in front of them (assuming they deserve it and in the right circumstances). Don't waste time worrying about what other people think of your emotions. If your emotions are genuine, they will respect you for it.
But again, you want to be reasonable about how extreme you are in expressing your emotions. If you get frustrated during a math test, don't moan loudly and annoy other students. If you're at a funeral, avoid giggling, even if you think the joke is really funny. Common sense is key - tough people are open about their emotions, but they're not an emotional mess
Step 3. Be confident
The two suggestions above (to be open about what you're thinking and feeling) are easier said than done, especially if you're naturally shy. A big part of being tough is having the confidence to be open about it. Confidence allows you to be who you really are without being afraid to express yourself without holding back, and caring about what others think by not relying on their approval for your satisfaction. As an overarching social tool, self-confidence can also help your social interactions run smoothly in general, for example ensuring that you are seen as tough rather than confrontational.
- Gaining confidence in certain social situations is something that almost everyone struggles with. Many books, articles, and other resources have been written on this subject. While gaining self-confidence is a process that is too long and detailed to be discussed in depth here, the basic idea is that you should first “fake” confidence by actually imitating confident behaviors (using eye contact, standing with good posture, etc). Eventually, you will be able to live up to this external confidence and begin to focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses, while simultaneously working on improving yourself. This is a sketchy process but it will get easier with practice.
- For more information, check out our fantastic article on How to Be Confident.
Step 4. Enjoy a friendly argument
It's unavoidable - if you're confident and open about what you think and feel, you'll eventually meet someone who thinks or feels differently than you do. Conflict is a natural part of being resilient, so don't run away from it. Instead, accept it. Resilient people enjoy the possibility of a lively (but friendly) debate, so feel free to engage in a bit of a fairly good argument when the opportunity arises. This is not only an opportunity to stretch your mental and verbal muscles, but also an opportunity to gain new perspectives, connect with others, and even flirt, provided you are open to these possibilities. But as always, your "toughness" isn't a reason to be rude so be more careful about how other people feel when you have an opinion.
The hard part about arguing as someone tough is balancing your real emotions with the need to maintain a polite argument. While you're not obligated to serve an opinion that you find disgusting (such as racist or sexist prejudice), you should make sure to be polite to any reasonable opinion your opponent may have. As a general rule, it's okay to attack someone's opinion but not the person themselves (for example, choose phrases like "it won't work" over something like "You're stupid to think it will work")
Step 5. Dress the way you want, not what other people want you to be
While this may sound superficial, the clothes we wear are an important way of expressing ourselves. If you come to a job interview wearing a business suit, you show a more professional image than if you came in sweatpants and a T-shirt. While tough people still have to pay attention to social gatherings when it comes to dressing for important events like weddings, interviews, graduations and so on, but when there are no clear social expectations about what you should wear, then it's up to you!
Dress the way you want - if you feel like wearing a bright color, wear a bright color. If you feel like wearing something dark and dim, we recommend wearing it. Make your clothes a symbol of your inner personality - it may be a bit superficial but it is a visible way of expressing yourself to everyone you meet
Step 6. Be confident, but not arrogant
All of the suggestions above have recommended that you should listen to your thoughts and feelings when expressing yourself, rather than the thoughts and feelings of others. For tough people, it's usually more important to be honest and open about yourself than to soften your opinion because other people may disagree with it. However, when doing this, it is important to maintain a positive and friendly attitude or you run the risk of appearing arrogant or arrogant. Worrying about what you expect of yourself more than what others expect of you is a great mindset to have, but other people's opinions are not completely without merit, so don't ignore them right away! People who never listen to other people are not tough, but they are just closed-minded.
Feedback from others can help you see issues from a new perspective or even lead you to a new understanding of yourself. For example, if you're having a friendly and tough argument with a friend about what's and isn't appropriate dating behavior, if you listen to what she has to say (without letting her beat you up), you can learn something to get more dates on. future. You may not get it either, but if you don't listen, you definitely don't get it
Part 2 of 3: Have a Fun Attitude
Step 1. Have a sense of mischief
As discussed above, tough people are strong-willed and dogmatic, but they are not braggarts. In fact, it's usually nice to be with tough people because they like to have fun! If you want to be tougher, start with your sense of pranks. Resilient people are constantly looking for opportunities to get the better of others in a kind and fun way. In this case, practical jokes and jokes are your asset, although you can also give the impression of being mean just by saying silly things. For starters, try one of the following:
- Deliberately interpreting something your friend said in the worst possible way (for example, with jokes like "that's what he said" and so on).
- Leaving silly messages on someone's computer after they leave the room.
- Mimic telemarketers when your parents answer your phone.
- Telling names that are not yours to people you meet at a party.
- More detailed practical jokes like that are in How to Make a Harmless Joke.
Step 2. Look at the humor in life
Although tough people enjoy arguments occasionally, at heart, they are kind and happy people. If you have a sense of humor, achieving this type of happiness and satisfaction becomes very easy. If you are naturally a bit serious or gloomy, this can be difficult but not impossible. Memorizing a few common jokes or funny stories can be a good icebreaker, giving you a "way" to the conversation so you can relax and start enjoying yourself. Try to keep an open mind and relax during social gatherings. Empathize with others - realize that most people are just like you. Most importantly, practice by having small talk with your friends and new people you meet. Your sense of humor is like a muscle: you have to use it to be strong.
It's hard to have a good sense of humor if you're stressed, tired, or distracted. This means that in order to become more resilient, you must have strong control over other aspects of your life, such as your career and family responsibilities. Ironically, the best way to have a good sense of humor is to be serious about making sure that everything in your life is going well so you can relax and enjoy yourself
Step 3. Be kidding
A tough person's reputation is to joke around without mercy and with good reason. Light jokes are a great way to keep other people's egos under control while subtly building your own. In other words, it's just plain fun! But when you're joking, it's very important to keep your sarcasm light and stay away from sensitive, personal topics to prevent you from hurting the other person's feelings. It's also important to be prepared to take a little joke on yourself. Don't joke if you can't take it yourself!
One of the toughest ways to joke with someone is to reply with the perfect answer after they say something naughty or unsuspecting. Doing this requires quick antics and good comedy timing - it's not easy, but with practice, it might get better. For more, see How to Reply to Antics Quickly
Step 4. Flirt
One of the greatest perks of being tough is the free pass to flirt shamelessly! Flirting should be a fun and exciting occasion and the perfect opportunity to show off your toughness, and not something to be afraid of. Don't be shy - remember that tough people don't keep their opinions to themselves.
- As to be confident, the tantalizing specs are so broad that there isn't enough room to break them down in this article. The basic idea is that you should joke and joke gently with the person you're interested in, showing special attention while still being hard to get along with at the same time. Self-confidence is very important for good flirting skills although good looks, intelligence and personality are also a plus.
- If you're looking for more information, you might also want to take a look at How to Flirt.
Step 5. Be cynical
Fast! Make a list of tough people or characters you know. Now, how many of them have a cynical sense of humor? Chances are most of them are! From Princess Leia, Danny DeVito to Hermione Granger, tough people are known for their extraordinary cynicism. Basically, cynicism is saying the opposite of what you think in a funny way that makes it clear that you're joking. Cynicism is a great tool for joking, joking and teasing and is a powerful conversational weapon in the hands of a tough person.
As an example of cynicism, you might sarcastically say, "Wow, this chicken is just like the one grandma made" if you don't think it's very tasty. You're probably not just going to say, "This chicken is delicious" as a cynical joke, because the funny part isn't really there other than that you don't think it's good. Cynicism requires humor to succeed - cynicism for the sake of cynicism can be very annoying
Step 6. View interaction as an opportunity to have fun
More than anything else, resilient people see the possibility of interacting with others as a way to enjoy themselves. Flirting, joking, joking, and talking are all very enjoyable for a tough man or woman, who is doing this activity essentially for entertainment, not for anything else. By enjoying a good conversational pace and pursuing new, interesting interactions wherever you are, you will make new acquaintances, make new friends, and quickly gain a reputation as a tough person.
Part 3 of 3: Become High Energy
Step 1. Diet and exercise
Being tough takes a lot of energy. Treating every conversation like an exciting new opportunity, constantly looking for ways to joke and joke, and going to great lengths to ensure that everyone around you knows what you're thinking can be physically and mentally demanding. Therefore, it is very easy to become tough if your body can keep up with the demands of your new tough personality. Stay in shape by trying to get a little exercise every day and avoid sugary and fatty foods. You don't have to be a bodybuilder to be tough - you just have to be fit enough to have the energy to seize every opportunity to express yourself.
For detailed fitness advice, take a look at our featured articles on personal fitness
Step 2. Rest and stop a lot
It's important to keep your body in good shape so you have the energy to be as tough as possible, and it's also important to give yourself enough rest so that when you do run out of energy, you can replenish it. Everyone gets tired of social interaction to some degree - some people can go from party to party without losing heart, while others need to recuperate in solitude after a few hours of activity. Only you know how much rest you need to be your toughest self, so listen to your body. If you find yourself groaning inwardly at the thought of interacting with other humans, give yourself some alone time before venturing out.
It is important to remember that rest is also very important at a basic physical level. Most medical resources recommend that adults should get about 7 to 9 hours of sleep each night. Failure to get enough sleep can lead to chronic fatigue, stress, and irritability, all of which can cause you to act more fierce than tough
Step 3. Push yourself when your energy is low
While physically taking care of yourself by exercising, eating nutritiously, and getting adequate rest is the best way to ensure you have the energy to be tough all the time, the truth is that sometimes even the toughest people have a hard time motivating themselves. If you feel like you don't have the energy to meet the world with the tough personality you know you have inside, try using one of these motivational strategies:
- Listen to your favorite songs. If it's a motivational song like Eye of the Tiger then it's a bonus value.
- Watch movie scenes that inspire or suspense. Good choices are Alec Baldwin's lewd speech from Glengarry Glen Ross and the Mexican hostage-taking at the end of The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly.
- Do short, intense physical activity such as jumping or running.
- Listen to your favorite comedians.
- Call a friend you haven't called in a long time.
- Send flirty short messages to people who are important to you.
- Watch scary videos online to surprise yourself awake.
Tips
- Don't be a nuisance. Bullies are cowards who choose people who are weaker than them. A tough person is confident and doesn't have to sacrifice others to show it.
- Prepare witty, witty and insulting replies in response to insults.
Warning
- Don't be too aggressive
- Be careful not to turn into a person who will threaten to punch other people in the face just for looking at them for 2 seconds. Failure to follow this advice will result in suspension from school or suspension at home.
- Don't abuse people emotionally.
- Remember that you don't know everything. Being brave doesn't mean being arrogant and refusing to accept other people's opinions.
