Saving feelings for someone is never easy, especially when your relationship with that person is in trouble or ends. Even though it was difficult, being honest with him was the best option. Regardless of the outcome, you will feel better after expressing your feelings. You'll also notice that you've put in every effort to show how you feel about him.
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Method 1 of 3: Consider Your Own Feelings Wisely
Step 1. Make sure you take your words seriously and take them seriously
When you want to tell someone that you still love them, make sure you do. Try to look at the situation from a clearer perspective. Explain why you said this and try to imagine his reaction. Ask yourself what you want to get out of that moment. Maybe you want to win back someone's heart, apologize for something that was done, or simply reaffirm your feelings.
Step 2. Discuss your feelings with a friend
Find a friend who is mature and trustworthy. Ideally, choose a friend who is experienced in dealing with and handling love affairs. Ask him for advice. Test what you want to say. Discuss the situation with him to explain your thoughts.
- Don't take her advice without considering the situation at hand!
- It's a good idea to complain to a friend who personally knows the person you care about. However, be careful that you don't tell someone who will talk and spread your secret!
Step 3. Record how you feel
Try brainstorming and writing down your thoughts as they come to explore your thoughts more effectively. Make sure you don't want him back because of being tormented by loneliness, guilt, power, or fear, or for any reason other than love. Be honest with yourself and the people you care about.
- In the end, you have to be able to forgive yourself and your partner. However, don't give a conditional apology. Forget and let go of what happened.
- Think about what you want, including what is needed in the relationship. If your affection is conditional (eg “I love you, but I want you to stop drinking”), you will need a third-party counselor, friend, or relative who can help you and your partner. In the end, the decision to change is in the hands of the couple. You can't change it directly.
Step 4. Put yourself in his position
Think about the situation from the point of view of your loved one. Ask yourself if he still loves you, and if he's willing to accept your confession. Love is two-way so make sure you don't care or get hung up on your own feelings!
- Realize the impact of your words. Maybe you can rekindle old feelings and upset the balance in their new life. Ask yourself if you are willing and ready to keep your word.
- Remember that sometimes it's better to let things go as they are. If your relationship with him has been over for a long time, it may not be the right way to express your feelings. This is important to remember, especially if he is building relationships with other people.
Step 5. Think about what went wrong in the relationship
Simple mistakes or problems (e.g. forgetting a relationship anniversary date or being late/frequently missing important events) can happen in a relationship, but they can usually be resolved when the guilty party has a logical and wise explanation. Therefore, do not rush to chase back the person you love and express your feelings without understanding what caused your relationship to fail.
- Think about whether distance is the cause of the end of the relationship. Vagueness can encourage you to wonder what your partner is doing, or who he or she is spending time with. If you have to be separated from him for a few months, you may need to make plans to keep the relationship going. You can "take a break" for a while from the relationship, have an open relationship, or even move to a place or city where your partner lives.
- Maybe the two of you are often at odds on certain things that you feel are important in the relationship, such as religion, political views, family conditions, or lifestyle. Maybe your partner wants to have children, while you don't. The two of you may have quarreled about which presidential candidate to be chosen in the upcoming election. Think about whether these aspects are more important than your affection for him.
Method 2 of 3: Planning the Moment of Disclosure
Step 1. Make a plan
Make sure first that you know the cause of the breakdown of the relationship, your hopes for the future, and whether you really still love him. After that, determine a time and place to meet him and express your feelings. If possible, meet him in person. If you don't feel confident enough or you can't meet face to face, you can call her, send her an email, or write her a letter.
Step 2. Arrange a meeting
Ask him if he can meet you at “neutral” places like your coffee shop, city park, or favorite restaurant. If he doesn't want to see you, try an indirect method of communication, such as the phone, email, or written letter.
- Don't express your feelings via text or instant messages. As much as possible, express your feelings wisely and seriously. If there is a platform or media that used to be used to communicate, use that platform or media.
- If he doesn't want to see you, respect his decision. Do not go to the place of residence or work. Do not follow it or order someone to follow it.
Step 3. Limit existing expectations
You can hope and pray that he will return the love, but make sure you are prepared to accept rejection. If you've ever done something that hurt his feelings or made him angry, he may not be ready to accept you back. If he has found someone else, he may want to focus on his new relationship rather than straightening or repairing his old relationship. You do need to be brave and honest when you say what you feel and think. However, you need to do it unconditionally, believing that you really need to express your feelings, regardless of the outcome.
Be prepared to respect his decision. Whether he wants to love you back or wants you (or he doesn't), give him a chance to explain his decision. If you can't respect him and his decisions, you probably don't really love him
Method 3 of 3: Telling Someone You Still Love Him
Step 1. Speak honestly and without rambling
You don't need to play any drama, especially if you've been in a relationship with him before. Say clearly how you feel. Express your feelings openly. Explain your expectations in the relationship and state what you want. If you want to re-establish a relationship with him, it is very important that you establish open and healthy communication.
If you want to get back into a relationship with him, express that desire. If you just want him to know that you still love him, make it clear. If you have a vision of what you want to be next, explain that vision
Step 2. Show courage
Don't wait too long and don't hesitate to show your feelings. The longer you're obsessed, the harder it will be for you to express your feelings. Get up the courage, talk to him, and explain how he feels. Try asking yourself this: "If I don't do it, will I regret it later?"
Step 3. Express your feelings simply
Actually, all you need to say is "I still love you." However, don't laugh or stare into his eyes for too long after you say it, as this will send the wrong message and give the impression that you're joking. Be serious, but show your personality or character that he likes. Explain why you still love him if you can, or tell him how long you have loved him.
If you need to apologize for something, express your apology clearly. You don't have to humble yourself to win it back
Step 4. Wait for the right moment
If you've agreed to meet him somewhere, don't just say "I still love you." Enjoy the small chat first. Ask how he's doing, tell how you're doing, and build a positive atmosphere. However, don't beat around the bush or beat yourself up. From the start, he's probably guessing why you want to see him, and he's waiting for what you really want to say. Be patient, without having to waste time and rambling.
Tips
- Respect the person you care about. Be patient and show kindness, and treat him the way you would like to be treated. If he no longer loves you, learn to let him go.
- Regardless of the situation, be honest. If you want to start a new relationship, express your desires openly and frankly.
- Be honest about how you feel when you talk to him. If you want to start a new relationship with him, it's a good idea to start the relationship as friends, just like when you first met him and developed the friendship that was lived. However, remember to keep an open mind and be honest about your feelings for him.
