Have you ever accidentally offended your female friend? Everyone has made mistakes, but the most important thing is to be aware of them. As difficult as it is, apologizing is an important step in any relationship. If you can express a sincere, honest, and clear apology, you and your girlfriend can get back to being friends as usual.
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Method 1 of 2: Expressing a Sincere Apology
Step 1. Find out what's offending him
Did your comment unintentionally offend someone he cares about, such as a family member or friend? Do you bring up stories or events in his past that he doesn't want to talk about? Is there a misunderstanding between the two of you? The easiest way to find out is to ask, but there are other methods you can try.
- Talk to his friends. Do they know what offended him?
- Recall the incident in question. Did you accidentally say something that actually offended him?
Step 2. Express your apology in person
Keep him private and say you didn't mean to offend him. Briefly explain what you mean and don't make excuses. This is not the time to dodge and make excuses; It's time to admit and atone for your mistakes.
Immediately convey your apologies. The longer you wait to apologize, the harder it will be for you to convince him that your apology is genuine and serious
Step 3. Apologize sincerely
Don't apologize just so he can "get back" with you because he can easily figure out your intentions. Some steps you can follow to show your sincerity are:
- Make eye contact.
- Lower your head a little.
- Speak slowly, calmly, and in control.
- Don't apologize in a hurry so "the problem can be solved quickly".
Step 4. State the effect your actions had on him when you apologized
This way, you can reflect empathy and show that you are truly sorry. If you simply say "I'm sorry", you're actually showing that the apology is not sincere. You're apologizing simply because you know he's offended, and not because you're sorry for what you did.
Step 5. Admit your mistakes
A simple confession like this is the greatest thing you can show in your apology. Whether you realize it or not, you've made a mistake, and you need to make up for it so you can be friends again. Why are you guilty? Do you understand why what you did was offensive? Show him that you have learned from your mistakes.
- "I'm sorry for saying that. I didn't mean to hurt you and I won't say it again."
- "I'm guilty of feeling like everything's okay. I promise it won't happen again."
Step 6. Listen to the response
Your apology is an opportunity for him to share how he feels about what you did, as well as a way for the two of you to end the problem and get back in touch. Listen carefully to him and pay attention to what he is saying. If possible, you can repeat what he said to show that you really listened to him. This is why it takes you a long time to apologize to him.
Step 7. Apologize to him
Even though it's difficult, you have to be willing to admit your mistake, apologize, and hope that he will forgive you. If your mistake wasn't intentional, there's a good chance he will laugh at the misunderstanding and forget about the problem.
There's no more effective way to apologize than to say "I'm sorry."
Step 8. Forget the problem at hand
After apologizing, it's time for you to rekindle your friendship. If you accidentally offended him, the best thing you can do is apologize and admit your mistake. If he doesn't want to accept your apology, give him time to let him know your sincerity. However, don't feel that you have to do "everything" or even torture yourself to make things right. Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and he should be able to forgive you.
Method 2 of 2: Avoiding Offending Words and Actions in the Future
Step 1. Ask him about something you can do to make amends
Is there anything you can do to make her feel better? Is there someone else you need to see to apologize to (eg a friend or family member who was nearby)? By showing an effort to make things right, you're proving that you're truly sorry and don't want to offend him again in the future.
Remember that you should never feel that you "ow" him anything. Your actions are done out of concern for him so he shouldn't take advantage of you by asking for something ridiculous or unnatural
Step 2. Prove your apology with concrete actions
If you say that you will behave better in the future when you apologize, keep your word and show that you are someone who can be trusted.
Step 3. Be polite
You do need to be polite at all times, but in this situation, try to show that you respect him, regardless of what happened. Treat him with respect and humility to heal the wound in his heart that you accidentally inflicted.
You don't have to treat her like a queen. The manners and manners were enough to show him respect
Step 4. Understand why your actions or words offended him
To make a real difference in your friendship with him, don't just apologize to him. Ask him to explain why your words or actions offended him, and make sure you listen to why.
Step 5. Don't get defensive
You may also feel entitled to an apology from him. After all, you didn't offend him on purpose. However, now is not the right time to fulfill your ego. If you want to avoid the same problem in the future, you need to know the situation or condition. Don't fight back or try to convince him that he "has no right" to be offended or to be "exaggerated."
Offenders cannot simply determine what is considered offensive, and what is not. If he feels offended by your words or actions, you have offended him
Step 6. Remember what offended him and prevent the same thing from happening again
Even though it's obvious, sometimes after sincerely apologizing you feel that the insult could be "repeated" as a joke. Apart from being rude, this is also rude. You have to be able to respect their desires and find new ways to express yourself.
Tips
- Don't force him to accept your apology right away.
- Don't hold a grudge if he doesn't forgive you right away.
- Don't try to apologize to him through another friend.
- Never insult, curse, or mock him after apologizing.
- For bigger mistakes, you can write an apology letter. Usually, women like to get letters.
- If you really want to apologize, don't just apologize and explain that you're "not entirely at fault." For example, never say things like "I'm sorry for calling you fat, but I think you've been gaining weight lately."
Warning
- Don't keep following him and persuading him to forgive you. Say your apology once, then give him time.
- Not all women are the same. Some women may never forgive a small mistake, while others don't even think about yours. How you apologize will depend on the type of woman you are dealing with.
