As a girl, making friends with guys may seem challenging, but it's actually easier than you might think. You can take small steps to get to know him and build a strong and timeless friendship. Start by getting to know him and build a friendship with him. After that, you can keep the friendship alive.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting to know her
Step 1. Find out what he is interested in
Ask his friends about hobbies or activities he usually does in his spare time. Visit her social media profiles for her favorite music, movies and television shows. Pay attention to the types of sports he plays at school or when he's with friends.
For example, you could ask another friend who also knows him, "What activities does he usually do outside of school?" or “Can you tell me his favorite television show?”
Step 2. Follow him on social media
Look for him on social media platforms like Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, and Facebook. Follow his profile so you can get to know him better through social media. If he follows your profile, your friendship can be built more easily.
You can also use social media to learn more about the things he's interested in, as well as communicate in person. That way, you can feel more comfortable when chatting with him and your friendship can develop
Step 3. Focus on the things you both have an interest in
In general, people are attracted to people with similar backgrounds, and it will be easier for them to connect with you if they see similarities in you. Think about things you both share an interest in, such as a favorite television show or sport. After that, use the topic or interest to start your first chat with him.
- For example, you may find that you both love action movies. Maybe you are both interested in video games.
- Don't pretend you like something she likes just because you want to be friends with her. There's a good chance you'll find one thing you both like so you don't have to pretend.
Step 4. Approach him when he is with other friends
If you didn't interact with him much before, you can get to know him more comfortably when you're hanging out with other friends. If you have friends who also know her, ask them to help introduce you to her when you're together.
If you don't have friends who also know him, try joining a group or club he's in. Apart from increasing your interactions with them, you can also quickly build a more natural similarity or match
Step 5. Show open body language in front of him
When you are with him or around him, reflect an open and friendly attitude. Do not display aggressive body language such as clenched fists or arms folded in front of your chest. Maintain an open body language by keeping your arms at your sides and smiling or nodding.
When chatting with him, maintain eye contact to show that you are interested and focused on what he is saying
Part 2 of 3: Building Friendship
Step 1. Invite him to work with you
Although it can be challenging and thrilling, spending time alone can strengthen your friendship. Decide on an activity that you like and invite him to join. When asking her out for activities, keep a balance between openness to plans and specific choices.
For example, if you know that he likes bowling, you can invite him to play bowling. You can provide flexibility by not choosing a specific date or time, while by specifying an activity to do, you show that you consider his interests and take the burden or responsibility of planning activities out of him
Step 2. Maintain positive interactions
Your brain associates positive experiences with good feelings so engage in lively and enjoyable chats and activities. He will also associate your togetherness with fun and will want to spend more time with you.
Step 3. Be a reliable person
Try not to promise something you can't deliver. When making plans, choose a date and time that you can leave blank. Maintain consistent communication and message him. If you don't, you'll just sound "weird" and make him feel like you don't care about him.
Part 3 of 3: Building Long Lasting Relationships
Step 1. Open up to him
Once you feel more comfortable, you can ask him for advice on personal matters or tell him something personal. Trusting him with personal things can build a closeness in a relationship that only the closest of friends feel.
For example, you can invite him to spend some time alone so that he can talk about difficulties he is experiencing at home or at school. You could talk about how difficult it was to get along with your parents, for example, or how difficult it was with certain subjects at school
Step 2. Be a good listener
Another thing you can do to build a meaningful relationship with him is to be a good listener. Pay attention to what he's saying and ask thoughtful questions to show that you're paying attention. Maintain eye contact and nod occasionally as he speaks.
- Don't interrupt when he's talking and encourage him to keep telling the story by saying, "Tell me more!" or “I'm interested in your story.”
- You can also ask insightful questions, such as “How do you feel?” or “Why are you acting like that?”
Step 3. Reflect trustworthiness and honesty in front of him
Show that you can be a great friend by reflecting a trusted and honest attitude about what you think. If he tells a secret or pours out his heart, say that you won't tell anyone what he said. Keep any personal information he says, unless he clearly says you can share it with someone else. Although difficult to obtain and must be maintained, trust is the foundation of a good friendship.
You also have to be honest with him so he knows that you're not faking or lying. Tell me how you feel or think honestly and openly
Step 4. Enjoy new things together
Trying new things might sound scary, but you can invite them to join. In addition to easing anxiety over the unknown, this will also keep your friendship exciting.
For example, if you've never camped before, take him camping so you can have a new experience together
Tips
- Be yourself! You don't have to be someone else to be friends with someone.
- Remember that men are humans too. Often, guys get nervous when they make friends with girls.
