All teenage girls need close friends who they can spend time with and look out for and share secrets with. Turning casual friends into close friends takes time and doesn't happen quickly. However, the close friends you get will be worth the time and effort you put in.
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Method 1 of 3: Making New Friends
Step 1. Talk to other children around you
One good way to show that you want to be friends with him is to say "Hi" when you meet him. Make eye contact, smile, and say "Hello." If you know his name, say, "Hi [his name]."
- Make sure you speak clearly so people can hear you.
- If you are shy, you can practice with your family members.
- Try to always smile and say "Hi" when you meet him at school. You should try to be as friendly as possible.
Step 2. Give praise
Giving compliments indicates that you are a friendly child and want to be friends with anyone. Pay attention to the child you want to make friends with at school and look for good things about him. After that, you can give compliments about things you notice. Give simple compliments, such as these compliments:
- "Your hair is so beautiful."
- "I like your clothes. It suits you very well."
- "You were great in practice."
- After giving a compliment, you can also add a question to start a chat. For example, "I like your clothes. Where did you buy them?"
Step 3. Start a chat
Saying "Hi" or giving a compliment is a good way to start a conversation. When talking to someone, it's a good idea to tell them what you like and don't like. When he asks a question, answer the question. After that, ask him a question. You should give him a chance to talk and not just talk about yourself.
- It is important for you to share information that relates to yourself. To make friends, you must encourage two-way communication.
- Listen when he talks and don't interrupt him. Wait for him to finish speaking before you start talking.
Step 4. Be nice to your classmates
Being nice to other people is one way to show that you like them. You don't have to do anything significant to show that you care about him. You just need to do simple things, like lend him a pencil or paper, offer to help if he brings something, or give him candy or other snacks at lunch.
Don't give money or your favorite things. In fact, close friends are people who are always there for you and can accept you as you are, not because they expect gifts from you
Step 5. Find people who have similar interests
To make friends, you and other people must have the same interests, such as music, television shows, movies, sports, food, and others. Therefore, you should determine the things you are interested in before approaching other people.
- Watch your classmates to determine if they share your interests. Do they carry bags featuring movie characters or band names? Do they use songs from certain music groups as their cell phone ringtones?
- Ask questions to find out what they like. For example, "Hey, have you seen [name of movie]? It's really fun!" or "You like [name of music], don't you?"
- Don't pretend you like something just to be friends with someone. If you want to make close friends, you have to be honest with yourself and show your true self.
- If you are a shy person and see other girls sitting alone a lot, she might be the right friend for you. You two understand each other better than the famous girls who are often the center of attention.
- You can find people who share the same interests by joining extracurricular activities that you enjoy.
Step 6. Invite the person to play with you
After finding people who have the same interests, invite them to play at your house. You can also invite him to do activities that both of you can do. Spending time together is the key to making friendships.
- If he agrees to play at your house, think of activities you can do together. Choose an activity that you both enjoy. You should try to please him as much as possible when you are together.
- Here are some activities that you can do: go for a bike ride, decorate your nails, watch a movie at home or at the cinema, and cook a cake.
- If you can't decide on a fun activity, ask your parents to help you come up with ideas.
Method 2 of 3: Turning Ordinary Friends Into Close Friends
Step 1. Ask for a friend's mobile number
Ask a friend if he or she has a cell phone. If you have one, ask for his cell phone number. Send a short message once you get home and see the reply. If he replies to your messages and asks you questions, he may be interested in making friends with you. If he doesn't reply to your messages or just texts him, he may not be interested in being friends with you.
- Texting is a good way to chat if you are shy or nervous about speaking in person. Once you know a lot about a friend, you can more easily talk to them face-to-face.
- If you message a friend and he doesn't reply, don't message again. Wait for him to reply to your message.
- It's best not to start the whole chat. Give your friends a chance to contact you.
Step 2. Be patient
Turning ordinary friends into close friends takes time. To become close friends, you have to spend a lot of time with him and find out a lot about him. In addition, you also have to be open to him and share your thoughts with him. You may have to keep in touch with him for a few months until he turns into a close friend of yours.
- Some people aren't cut out to be your close friends. There's nothing wrong if your relationship with him is just an ordinary friend.
- Over time, you'll find out if he wants you to be his close friend too. If he wants to be your close friend, he will try and make time for you.
Step 3. Build trust
A close friend is someone you can trust. You also have to convince him that you can be trusted. Don't talk bad things about him with other people. If your friend tells a secret, don't tell anyone.
- If your friend tells you things that make you worry, let them know you're worried about them and suggest talking to an adult you trust.
- If you have a fight with a friend, you should try to improve your relationship with him without involving other people and
Step 4. Try doing new activities together
Doing new activities with someone will strengthen your relationship with them. If you and your friends do activities that you've never tried before, you can make beautiful memories with them.
Step 5. Spend time with friends regularly
If you don't see your friends regularly, you will have a hard time making them close friends. You and your friend's schedule affects how often you get to see them. Try to meet him in person and schedule regular appointments.
- Do not be too pushy or presumptuous when asking friends to meet. If he seems hesitant to schedule regular appointments, don't force him to do what you want.
- Let your friend know that you're happy you and she can be friends. Also, it's a good idea to let him know that you want to be able to see him again.
- You can also send a message after meeting him and write, "I'm so happy to meet you today. Can't wait to see you again!"
Step 6. Focus the conversation on the things you both enjoy
You can make close friends more easily if you and he have a lot in common. You can talk about the things you like and don't like. However, it's best to focus the conversation on the things that you both enjoy. If you and your friend tend to laugh at the same kinds of jokes or have similar tastes in music and movies, you have a better chance of making them your close friends.
- You're not going to like everything that has to do with your friends. However, you should focus your attention on the traits you like and the fun you feel when you play with them.
- Note that you will have similar habits to your friends if you spend a lot of time with them. Therefore, you should be careful when choosing people who are your close friends. Choose friends who can make your life better.
Method 3 of 3: Making the Right Choice
Step 1. Know when you should stop trying
When you try to get close to someone, you may find that they don't want to be your close friend. This might hurt your feelings. However, you must realize that he is not the right person for you. Unfortunately, he may not be able to tell you directly that he doesn't want to be your close friend. Therefore, pay attention to his attitude to find out if he wants to be your close friend or not. If you see any of these signs, you may have to make new friends:
- The person often makes excuses or can't make time to meet you.
- The person does not take the initiative to call or message you or take a long time to reply to your message or phone call.
- You're always the one to start the conversation with him.
- The person doesn't want to spend time with you on the weekends or after school.
Step 2. Pay attention to the way he treats other people
If your friend is lying, gossiping about other people, or being rude to other people, she may not be a good friend to you. See how he treats and interacts with his friends. Does he often gossip when he's not with his friends? Does he like telling his friends?
- The way your friend treats other people may reflect how he or she treats you if the two of you are friends.
- Since you want to make close friends, stay away from girls who gossip and divulge other people's secrets and private information. You need close friends you can trust.
Step 3. Disclosing personal information in stages
Building friendships takes time. It's best not to share too much personal information with your friends when you're just getting to know them. You have to make sure that he can be trusted.
- If you're new to friends, it's a good idea to talk about lighthearted things, like school, music, television shows, or hobbies you like.
- Avoid talking about fears or family issues if you're new to friends. Wait until you have been friends with him for some time.
- If your friend starts sharing their personal information with you, this indicates that you can also talk about personal things.
Tips
- Don't depend too much on your friends or try to approach them too much. It's best not to upset or scare him.
- Try to find out a lot about him before you close your relationship with him. He may not be the right person for you.
- Sending messages is a great way to chat without causing any awkwardness. By chatting via text, you have plenty of time to reply to messages or think up funny stories.
- If he's avoiding you, it's a good idea to stop contacting him for a while before trying again.
- If he has several friends, try to talk to them and find out more about them.
- To get friends who accept you as you are, you should not change your personality and lifestyle when trying to approach them. You just need to be confident and show your true self.
- If he does things that make you uncomfortable, like being rude to other people, find another friend.
- If you fail to make him your close friend, keep looking. You will find people who like you and accept you for who you are.
- You don't have to feel sad seeing your close friends hanging out with other people. You can make friends with that person or make new friends and do new activities.
