Acting in front of men is actually not as easy as turning the palm of the hand, you know! Even if you know you have to be yourself, there will always be some nervousness when it's time for you to open up a conversation or establish a positive relationship with a guy you don't like romantically. In general, all you need to do is maintain your confidence, become an expert in the act of communication, and have a good sense of humor.
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Part 1 of 3: Knowing What to Do
Step 1. Find common ground
One of the things you can do to interact with men is to look for common interests in order to keep the conversation going. The similarities need not be rooted in things that are too heavy or serious. Just like watching the same television series is also effective in perpetuating your interactions, you know! Therefore, try looking at his clothes, binders, or notebooks to find common interests between the two of you and raise relevant topics of discussion.
- No need to rush to find it. But sooner or later you'll notice his interest after allowing him to talk for a few minutes or so. Trust me, this method is much better than asking her favorite band, hobby, or movie directly!
- If you are embarrassed to ask him directly, you can also check his Facebook profile to identify his interests.
Step 2. Be yourself in his presence
Even though this advice seems very cliché, in fact the benefits you feel by doing it are enormous, you know! If you want to get a guy to like you and want to get to know you better, the most important thing you need to do is be real and honest. Of course, you can keep information that is too personal or more suitable to be told to your closest friends. However, in general, you don't need to change your character and personality just to fulfill the image that you think guys like!
- When talking to a guy, don't turn yourself into the version you think he'll prefer. Don't try to imitate the most popular female character at your school. Trust me, doing so will not have any positive impact on you.
- If you're more shy, there's no need to open up to him all at once. Instead, show your identity slowly as your friendship develops.
Step 3. Wear clothes that make you comfortable
You can, you know, wear whatever feels comfortable in front of men! If you like babydolls, wear them as often as you want! If you prefer to wear tights and long skirts, short skirts and sleeveless shirts, or jeans and t-shirts, don't be afraid to wear them either. Remember, there is no need to wear clothes that are too tight or revealing just to fulfill the image that you think men prefer. After all, your appearance will feel more attractive if you wear clothes that make you feel comfortable!
There's no need to limit your style or image. In other words, you can wear a star-studded leather jeans today, then a pink babydoll the next day. Most importantly, make sure the clothes you wear make you comfortable and don't pretend in front of other people
Step 4. Show a friendly attitude to everyone
You may think that men actually prefer women who look cold or often act superior in front of others. But the fact is, you actually have to be friendly to everyone except those who don't deserve it. Whoever you're talking to, whether it's your quiet classmate or a new student at your school, keep smiling, asking questions, and being friendly. By doing so, men will realize that you are a fun person to make friends with.
If you're a shy person, there's no need to pretend to be very friendly and welcoming. However, try to at least smile and wave to others, introducing yourself when necessary
Step 5. Show a real interest in him
If you want to have fun with him, show him that you really care about him, romantically or not. In other words, don't hesitate to ask questions about her life, compliment her, show concern for her feelings, and make eye contact when talking to her. Don't monopolize the conversation or keep checking your phone while she's talking. Show that his existence is important to you!
Of course, showing you care will be more complicated if you don't harbor romantic feelings for him. If that's the case, just be nice and friendly and make it clear that you just want to be good friends with him
Step 6. Impress him with your confidence
Feeling like the only woman who is not confident with her identity, appearance, and activities? In fact, you'd be surprised how many women feel insecure about themselves, and try to cover up those feelings with fake big smiles or negative behavior. Remember, you can be much better than them! Therefore, try to always love yourself, treat those around you well, and feel capable of doing anything. Believe me, positive behavior and maximum energy are effective in making men want to stay close to you.
- Don't constantly complain about your weight or height. Instead, focus on the character you like.
- Of course, it takes a long time to love yourself for who you are. However, you can shorten that time by learning to accept the things you can't change and improve on the things you can.
Part 2 of 3: Knowing what to Say
Step 1. Talk about things that interest you
Don't change your character just to attract men's attention. For example, don't pretend you like Star Wars or keep talking about a band you hate for hours on end! Instead, talk about your favorite television show, an interesting movie you recently watched, a hobby you enjoy the most, or anything else that interests you. Think of the guy as a girl friend who is used to listening to you and telling them the things you usually tell them, except of course about your ideal guy, huh!
- Maintaining a balance of true communication is far more important than the topic you bring up. Therefore, try not to dominate the conversation and always provide space for the other person to talk.
- If you're talking to him alone, make sure you only fill in at least half of the conversation!
Step 2. Know when it's time to change the subject
While you will feel more comfortable talking about things that are important to you, learn to read the situation. If his interest is starting to wane and his body position is starting to look uncomfortable (changing his feet, playing with his phone, or looking for someone to save his boredom) because you've been talking about horses for the whole twenty minutes, try changing the topic and throwing the ball at him..
Learn to read his body language and facial expressions to gauge his interest. If he's really listening to you, he'll definitely look you in the eye (unless he's really shy or likes you too!) and turns to face you
Step 3. Praise him
Try praising him implicitly from time to time. There is no need to call her eyes the most beautiful eyes in the world. Instead, just give a light compliment about the shirt he wore, his achievement at last night's basketball game, or make some other comment that shows you care about him. After all, you don't have to like someone romantically to compliment them, do you?
You can say, "You're really good at chemistry. Can I have some tips, please?” or, “Your laugh is unique too, isn't it. I even knew right away that you were the one laughing from the end of the hall.”
Step 4. Ask questions
If you want to spend a good time with the guy, try asking him questions about more personal things without appearing as though you're interrogating him. By doing so, surely you can get to know him closer slowly while showing your attention to the things that are important to him. There's no need to look like you're interviewing him. Instead, just ask a personal question or two throughout the conversation. Some questions to ask to show your concern:
- Favorite music group
- Hobby
- Favorite television series, movie or actor
- Weekend plans
- The pet
Step 5. Don't get angry when you're teased
In fact, men prefer women who are not too serious. While you shouldn't be mocking yourself or actually putting yourself down in front of her (like admitting to be fat, stupid, or expressing your self-hatred), there's nothing wrong with using light humor to show that you're an easygoing and fun girl. Remember, this is different from badmouthing yourself to get someone else's attention! Therefore, learn to laugh at yourself, surely your life will feel much easier after that.
For example, you might comment, “Get ready to be surprised! I stumbled again, just now," or, "Seriously, I wonder how many pink sweaters I can wear," to show your awareness of your goofy and charming qualities, without pushing yourself to look perfect in front of him
Part 3 of 3: Avoiding Common Mistakes
Step 1. Don't pretend to be feminine if your real character isn't
If you are feminine and like to wear skirts, do it in front of her. However, if you are a tomboy, dare yourself to show that character with pride! Don't pretend to be someone else by laughing more than usual, playing with her hair in front of her, or acting more feminine because she thinks that's what she wants. Remember, the most important thing is to be yourself. Trust me, he will be impressed with your confidence!
If you want, you can also combine the two characters, you know! For example, you may occasionally wear a skirt even though you have a character that tends to be a tomboy. After all, no one forbids, right?
Step 2. Don't ask your friend to help you talk to him
Want to say something to the guy you like? Do it yourself! Although the situation will feel easier and less stressful if you ask your friend for help, trust that doing it alone will improve the flow of conversation between you. Plus, boys will be impressed by your confidence! Worst case scenario, he doesn't have the same feelings as you. However, at least you're satisfied enough that you've ventured to start a conversation with him, right?
Do not dare to do it directly? Try getting your point across in a letter or online chat. Most importantly, make sure you say those words without anyone's help
Step 3. Don't laugh at everything
Again, one of the misconceptions you need to fight is that men like to see women laughing all the time. Of course you can laugh if the joke is really funny, but don't do it if your goal is just to make him like you more! In other words, laugh at the jokes, but don't hesitate to make your own personal jokes too. Remember, even such interactions must go both ways!
If he's really funny, laugh all you can. However, don't do it just to look adorable in front of him
Step 4. Don't show off
If you think men prefer women who constantly brag about their wealth, flaunt the celebrities who follow them on social media, or other things that seem superficial, you're wrong. In fact, men will prefer women who like to talk about their interests and passions. After all, sooner or later he will surely realize your achievements or strengths through other people's praise, right?
Most importantly, try to show the best version of yourself in front of him. Are you good at speaking foreign languages? Or good at playing tennis? Show it to impress him
Step 5. Don't make fun of other women in front of him
Do you think it would be funny for him to make fun of other women or tell the drama between women you just experienced? If so, you are wrong! In fact, most men prefer women who are unemotional and don't like to complain about other people. In other words, someone who feels the need to ridicule other women in order to feel better will not look attractive to them. Therefore, always say positive things about other women around you and avoid gossiping. As a result, men will like you more easily because your attitude looks very relaxed and free from drama.
Making fun of other women is a symptom of your insecurities. As a result, this behavior will also be seen as your way to make yourself look better in front of the man of your dreams. That's why, instead, you should compliment other women to show that you are very comfortable and confident with what you have
Tips
- Respect her privacy and keep her secret.
- Be calm and mature.
- If he's out with a boy friend, there's nothing wrong with joining in but don't annoy them with your presence.
- Don't be afraid to crack jokes or act stupid in front of them. Smile if he shows a positive reaction.
- Too shy? There's nothing wrong with asking a friend of yours to lighten the mood when you're on a date. However, don't let your friends dominate the conversation, okay?
- Don't interrupt what you don't like.
- Recognize the shortcomings so that you don't end up in the wrong hands.
- Be yourself in front of him.
- Don't be around him all the time. This behavior is seen as childish and unattractive by most men.
- Don't act smart when you don't have to.
Warning
- Don't imprison him! Give him the space, time, and privacy he needs.
- Avoid guys who lie, cheat, or constantly force you to do things you don't want to.
- Don't keep looking into his eyes! This behavior will make him angry and feel uncomfortable.
- Don't be a drama queen in front of her. Most men don't like this behavior!
- Don't abandon your friends for the man. Remember, men tend to prefer women who are loyal and don't stay around them all the time.
- Don't let him be the only one talking.
- Do not offend other men you find attractive in front of him.
- Don't joke too much. Trust me, doing so will only make you look desperate!
- Don't be rude or say anything offensive, even if it's just a joke.
- Don't seduce him too much.
