Your crush can drive anyone crazy. You may have a hard time starting a conversation with him, but by building confidence and being yourself, you can win him over and build a relationship with him.
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Method 1 of 7: Making Initial Contact
Step 1. Smile
Try to smile often, especially if your smile is bright or someone has told you that you have a nice smile. When your crush says something funny, laugh. However, don't force your laugh. You can also share your own humor or jokes in the chat to keep your interactions positive and memorable. In addition, humor also makes your smile look natural.
Step 2. Maintain positive body language
Before talking to him, you can emit a positive aura by showing good posture. Also, remember to maintain eye contact during the conversation, stay calm, and show hand gestures confidently.
Step 3. Don't be shy
If you're too quiet, he won't be attracted to you or, worse, won't notice your presence. This may be a challenge if you are an introvert, or simply shy. However, keep in mind that fighting shyness doesn't mean you have to talk a lot. You just need to speak well and wisely, and be able to start a conversation. You should focus more on the way you speak than on the frequency or intensity of your speech. There are a variety of topics and positive ways to get him to want to chat with you.
- Find a topic that you both enjoy or laugh about. This is a good principle in chatting with anyone: look for at least one thing in common or interest in the chat. You can even try not to end the conversation until you find at least one point of agreement or common ground.
- Stay up to date with the latest news or news. Mention a recent movie, book, television show, article, or entertainment topic that he may know about. The more general and popular the topic is, the more likely it is to know your references. This is useful to remember, especially when you feel confused in your chat.
- Keep talking about positive things. Think about the things that everyone usually enjoys: hobbies, pets, vacations, weekends, desserts, and the like. Not everyone likes these topics, but there are at least one or two things that others do. The more general the topics covered, the more likely you are to find common ground. After that, you can direct the chat to a more specific topic or discussion.
- Avoid negative or sensitive topics. Save discussions about politics, religion, social class, or race for future. Of course, don't mention topics that trigger disagreements or even fights. Therefore, it would be wise if you avoid these topics. If a topic is being discussed and you feel like the conversation is going in the wrong direction, try changing the topic with a laugh and saying, for example, “Ouch! I usually avoid such topics when chatting. Let's talk about something else."
Step 4. Be friends with your crush
Before expressing your feelings to him, of course you need to get to know him, and building a genuine friendship is the right step. Friendship with him will give you an idea of the things he is interested in so you can search and find topics and activities that you both like more easily. Plus, friendships also help build trust, which is useful when you want to ask her out. After all, no one wants to date someone suspicious or untrustworthy.
- Befriend him on Facebook if he tends to use social media a lot and occasionally likes a post or two of yours (on other social media). That way, he will see your presence and you can see a picture of his interests.
- Don't ignore your friends. Do not let you give your presence excessively to someone and, on the other hand, leave other people. This means you should still maintain your existing friendship as usual. By maintaining a friendship, you will still have a “hands on”, regardless of what your final relationship with your crush will look like. In addition, you also should not give your presence to him excessively or even approach him "aggressively". Don't stalk her on social media or obsess over her. Think of your relationship with your crush as an early stage of friendship.
Method 2 of 7: Show Interest
Step 1. Ask him a question
One of the best ways to show interest is to ask him specific questions. You can ask her origin (domicile), her family, job, hobbies, vacation trips, or favorite activities. Ask specific and fun questions, but don't let your questions sound too personal or personal.
Step 2. Throw in the seduction
At some point, you may need to throw in a casual flirt. If he does it first, congratulations! Respond to his pleas. If not, you're the one who needs to start it. Physical contact such as a touch on the arm or shoulder during the chat can be a good option. Verbally, you can throw a more powerful compliment. For example, instead of saying that he looks cool, you could say “Wow! You are very beautiful! . Don't forget to smile and be confident.
Step 3. Impress him
Focus on yourself and your own preferences. Having great success at work or joining a gym or sports team can give you the confidence that your crush finds attractive. He can feel the success, but you can also talk about it if you want. It's okay to "show off" your success a little, as long as you don't sound arrogant, self-absorbed, or annoying.
Step 4. Be patient
Building love cannot be done overnight. It's a process that includes small steps and successes (eg a smile or text message in return, an interesting chat, and the like). On the other hand, you shouldn't be in a hurry either. You can make him uncomfortable by taking steps too quickly, or giving him the wrong impression of your intentions. Therefore, be patient and try to enjoy the moment.
Step 5. Show your best
Keep these basic aspects in mind: hair, clothing, hygiene, and make-up (if you will). Use deodorant and cologne or perfume. You really shouldn't overuse it or look "forced", but at least make sure you look good. Therefore, take a shower or wash yourself thoroughly, look for neat and cute clothes to wear, and highlight your strengths (eg hair, eyes, height, etc.).
Method 3 of 7: Be Your Best Self
Step 1. Show the best version of yourself
You have to be the best person you can be in order to not only attract the person's attention, but also increase your chances of having a healthy relationship and feeling happy or satisfied with yourself. Improve yourself by trying some of the steps below.
Step 2. Pursue your interests
Do the things you want and get your attention. Chase your dreams too. In the process, you will get various attractive aspects, such as passion, a strong work ethic, and a positive outlook.
Step 3. Work hard
A strong work ethic, determination and passion are very attractive aspects. People like someone who really likes and is in the field they like, and is willing to work hard. Regardless of what drives your passion or passion, put a great deal of effort into showing others that you are not a slacker.
Step 4. Deal with the problem from the start
If you have bad habits or problems in life, don't ignore them. Immediately handle and resolve the problem before it gets carried away in the relationship.
Step 5. Change for yourself
Your idol must want to love and accept you as you are so if you want to change something about yourself, make sure you do it because you really want that change for your own happiness, and not for the sake of making other people happy.
Method 4 of 7: Being Attractive
Step 1. Take care of your body
Have a healthy diet and exercise to keep your body energized and strong. When you feel refreshed and comfortable with your physical condition, other people can see that feeling and in the end see you as a more attractive person.
Step 2. Keep it clean
Keep your body clean by bathing regularly, washing your hair, and cleaning your body. Wear deodorant and clean clothes. If you still smell bad, try cleaning your room or changing the type of food you eat.
Step 3. Have a fragrant body
In addition to maintaining cleanliness, you can also make your appearance cooler by using a little cologne or perfume. However, don't overdo it! A little perfume is enough. Try to choose a fragrance that you feel fits your personality.
Step 4. Show a cool appearance
Wear clothes that are neat and look good on your body. The choice of clothes is different for everyone. Don't wear clothes that are too tight or loose. Try to choose clothes in colors that match the natural color of your skin and hair, and wear clothes that are trendy. Read fashion magazine or website articles for advice or insight.
Step 5. Reflect confidence
Act confidently so that you appear attractive in another way. Usually, people are attracted to self-confidence. Therefore, increase your confidence or pretend to be a confident person so that no one can see the difference.
Step 6. Let him see or be aware of your presence
Don't hide in the corner of the room! Let your crush see your new figure. Show your presence, be active, and try not to “mingle” with the furniture in your room. You don't even have to talk to other people. Just move in the same room and let him watch you interact with other people.
You don't have to overdo it to get other people's attention. Don't be too loud and annoying. Be yourself
Method 5 of 7: Get to know her
Step 1. Be a good friend
Give him support, as a person supports a friend. This can be an interesting aspect because it shows how much you care and contribute to his life. Listen to him complain about a teacher you both don't like, watch a game he's in, or surprise him by coming to his concert. Say "Hi!" him when you pass him. If he doesn't feel well or is upset, give him a hand and try to calm him down as much as possible.
Step 2. Spend your time with him
You don't have to set aside a special time to be alone with him, but at least spend some time with him. You can enjoy time with him and other friends, and do fun activities like watching a movie or visiting a concert or music venue in your city. Give him a chance to get to know you.
Step 3. Get to know him better
Learn more about him and get to know him for who he is, and don't just rely on facts or things other people tell you about him. A person will be happy when he can feel a strong connection, and realize that the person he is with is able to understand him thoroughly. Therefore, if you know him closely enough, there is a good chance he will take your feelings seriously too.
You can get to know him by discussing things he considers important, such as his hobbies, life goals, family, and beliefs
Step 4. Let him get to know you
He should also get a chance to learn or know the same about you. Be open to discussion and show friendliness. Don't try to "compete" with him when it comes to your life. Let him see you as you are.
Step 5. Find common ground
To build the foundation for a lasting relationship, find out what you both like. Regardless of how adorable or charming he is, if there aren't things you both like, you won't be enjoying the moments together. Find out what he likes and share your interests with him.
Relationships work well if you both share or like the same thing. Believe me. Everyone has or deeply likes something, including general topics like football
Step 6. Try to live or follow his interest
You don't have to really enjoy what he likes, but it's a good idea to try to understand and live what he loves. Try to immerse yourself in the field or activity that he is in and stay open to various possibilities. You can also ask him for help. This will be a memorable moment of intimacy.
Method 6 of 7: Having a Relationship
Step 1. Let him be himself
People are sometimes reluctant to enter into relationships because they are afraid or worried about the impact the relationship will have on their free time or identity. Show him that he doesn't have to worry about it by letting him be himself. Don't rely on him too much. Encourage him to try or do things he enjoys. Meanwhile, show your independence by making time for yourself or with your friends.
Step 2. State your single status
Make sure he knows that you are single and looking for someone to date. You can mention it casually while chatting or discussing the topic in question. However, when you mention it, he should know that you are indeed looking for a partner. Try taking him to a movie or dinner with him.
Step 3. Throw in the seduction
Try teasing or flirting with him with a little sarcasm or a wink and a nudge. Show your naughty side, like hitting or punching a spoiled arm or shoulder every now and then. Physical contact like this shows that you are attracted to him.
Step 4. Start giving touch as physical contact
Touch is a clearer marker of your feelings. Give him a light touch on the shoulder or arm, always for an obvious reason (an unreasonable touch can make you sound scary). When you get closer to him, try to touch his hand.
Step 5. Tell him that you like him
Sometimes, someone does need to be told about this. Tell him that you like him, but don't pressure him to answer right away. He may need to process everything and figure out his own feelings for you.
Step 6. Ask her out on a date
You can skip the previous step if you want to ask her out right away. You can also skip to this step if he hasn't responded to your confession yet. If you are a guy, you may need to ask him out first. However, women also need not be afraid to take the initiative.
Don't worry about rejection. If he doesn't want to date you, he's the loser. You're better off finding someone else who really appreciates you
Method 7 of 7: Keeping Dating
Step 1. Ask her out on a date
Remember that this is the pinnacle of all your endeavors: a date with your crush. Stay calm and build a relaxed dating atmosphere. There's a good chance that if you're already friends with him (or even just had a fairly close conversation with the two of you), you have an idea of what he likes so you can imagine what a memorable first date would be like.
Invite him directly and specifically. You can say, “Want to have coffee together after work?” or “Are you free next week? Want to go to the cafe with me? I happen to have nothing to do on Tuesdays and Thursdays." Once he accepts your invitation, agree on a time and don't forget to ask for his phone number or email address (if you don't already have one) in case anything happens before the date. You can also give him your contact number
Step 2. Continue to communicate after the date
Texting is a “safe” way to continue a chat or communication. If you've contacted him before, it's a good idea to call him and talk in person instead of leaving a voice message. Usually, you need to continue the conversation or communication the next day, but you can also do it the same day saying, for example, "Are you home yet?" or “I'm glad to meet you tonight. We'll continue this conversation tomorrow. Have a good rest!"
Step 3. Keep interacting with him
By repeating the previous two steps (the date and the chat after), you can build a relationship. This is your goal when you have a crush. Ask him if he prefers texting or talking on the phone, and if he prefers to talk on the phone, give him a call. It also signifies a closer relationship. In the early stages of a relationship, try to provide your presence by chatting about what happened yesterday while gradually working on the day-to-day news. Your goal is to do something together about once a week, just the two of you.
Step 4. Remind him of your interest
Sitting down and discussing your relationship status (or relationship status on Facebook) can be scary and can backfire. You may feel confused about the details of your relationship status if or when the details are discussed. However, try to remind him of your attraction to him, as if you were already in a relationship. Sentences like “I love spending time with you!” or “You are so much fun!” into meaningful statements that show interest, not obsession.
- Give him a compliment. Throw in sincere compliments and praise the things you really like about him. Also, since this article is about your crush, your compliments can be a little romantic, but not overly or sexually suggestive. For example, you might not need to compliment her physical features directly, but you could say, for example, "You look beautiful in that dress."
- Call him for no specific reason. You can text him or call him for no particular reason because you're thinking about it. Try calling him to say hello or tell him something cool that reminds you of him. Make sure the conversation is relaxed and meaningful, and your crush will be flattered too.
- Give meaningful gifts. Everyone loves gifts. However, don't give yourself the impression of being pushy or insistent by giving expensive gifts. Also, be careful with gifts that seem too intimate or sexist. Therefore, choose a meaningful gift based on his interests or something the two of you have experienced. For example, you can give him flowers, a small piece of art, or his favorite food (which he told you about). You can also choose a gift based on a topic or area of interest such as sports, cooking, gardening, books, movies, or music.
Tips
- Never stalk him when he comes home. Behavior like this will only make him uncomfortable and scared.
- Don't spend so much time with him that you neglect your schoolwork or work.
- Be honest with yourself and stay on good terms with friends and family.
- Get to know him more closely and occasionally throw hints about your feelings. Give him a flirt or a tease, and make him laugh!
- If your friends make you awkward around them, talk to them when you're not with your friends.
- Don't feel forced to change for the sake of your idol. You need to understand that if you don't feel comfortable changing for the sake of him, you don't have to change anything about yourself. If he can't see how awesome you are without any changes, he's not the right person.
- Show him that if he doesn't notice you, you can forget about him to make him a little jealous.
Warning
- Don't be rude or obsessive if he flirts or seduces other people. Maybe he just wants your attention, or is trying to get you to pay more attention to him.
- If you catch him staring at you, it can be a sign that he likes you too. However, be careful not to stress him out.
- The steps in this article are not guaranteed tricks, nor are they perfect. If he is not your soul mate, get up and find someone else.
- Don't be obnoxious. Nobody likes annoying people.
