If you weren't born cool, you have to find it. Miles Davis found it on some notes at the end of the stage, and Audrey Hepburn found it in the gaze. Everyone who's ever ridden a motorcycle, plugged in an electric guitar, or found a leather jacket that fits perfectly knows it: cool is a role. Even the most boring shyness can increase their cool factor by learning to stand out from the crowd, be competitive, and develop a cool look. See Step 1 for more information.
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Method 1 of 5: Stand Out in the Crowd
Step 1. Decide who is “cool” and who is “not
Before you put yourself out there as super cool and make other people jealous, you need to know what cool means. Is this the right place to put on your glasses and stoop? Is this a good time to talk about the Chocolate Vomits show where you jumped off the stage last night? Acting cool at work may be a lot different from acting cool in middle school, but you can learn to identify cool and uncool crowds, and adjust your cool behavior accordingly.
- In very large groups, such as middle school or entire companies, try to find a smaller group to be your friend and act cool. Position yourself as the “cool” group against the common people.
- In smaller groups, it may be more appropriate to avoid acting too cool. If you overdo it, people will likely think you're weird, uncool. Find other cool friends to act cool with and position your small group as the cool group.
Step 2. Act like you have a lot of experience
According to one “cool kid” analysis, one of the signs of being cool is that other people see cool people as more experienced, mature, and knowledgeable about it. This doesn't mean you have to spend a lot of time under the bench, at an underground rock club, or in a foreign country to sound cool, and it doesn't mean you have to start showing off things you never did. You can learn to play mysterious and experienced roles that others will trust.
- Practice new responses to specific questions about your experience that will sound cool. If someone asks if you're a virgin, or if you've ever smoked, say, “Is this a sewing circle?” or “That's a boring question” and change the subject. Give it back to them.
- Never make up a lie. You won't be cool if you lie and say you've been to Europe, or that you've done some dark stuff in the back of a car even though you haven't. The truth will be revealed and you will be ashamed.
Step 3. Don't agree with popular opinion
Acting cool means being different, doing things that make you stand out in the crowd. You float above the boring world in your cool cloud. You can't be a follower and act cool. Other people should want to be like you, because you set new trends, surprise others with your new views and opinions, and go against public policy.
- Give debate in group discussions and casual talks. Don't always be right or wrong, just go against other people's expectations and share your opinion once in a while to be cool. All your friends hate a teacher? Defend him. Being different is cool.
- Alternatively, it might be "cooler" to join the crowd in some ways. In middle school, acting cool might mean liking the latest Justin Bieber song, even if you weren't crazy about Biebs. You can still listen to good songs when you're alone. But try to be yourself.
Step 4. Don't rush
Let the world come to you. Acting cool means taking it easy, not rushing because the fuss isn't cool. Better, relax and wait.
- Let the other person speak first. Practice good listening skills, remaining silent until the other person wants to start a conversation. Acting cool means you don't want to be talked to. Just relax. Whatever.
- Take a long pause before you speak, even if you are very sure about what you are going to say. Dramatic pauses will give others a chance to think about your cleverness and seriousness. Be patient, like Kathryn Hepburn, Clint Eastwood, and the cool gods.
- Don't forget to slow down your movements, too. Go slower. Look around, look at the environment. Breathe flowers, Walk at a cool pace, not in a hurry.
Step 5. Ignore the haters
Uncool people usually want to destroy cool people. Cool people from Kanye to Picasso to Yoko all have haters, and that's pretty boring. If you're going to follow the ranks of super cool people, and start acting like a cool person with the amazing life you have, you're going to have some haters. Learn to deal with them.
- Monitor your social networks, unfriend or ignore anyone who hates your charms. You don't have to listen to it. Instead, surround yourself with people who will lift you up and support your cool self.
- Prepare cool responses for haters. If someone tries to make fun of the style you're trying to display at school, say, "What are you wearing?!" have a cool response prepared: “Maybe I should let my mom pick out clothes for me, like you do.”
- Spread your cool nature and pass it on to others. The bigger your cool group, the less chance the haters have of influencing you. Build a strong group of cool friends with similar interests so you don't become a loner.
Step 6. Make lots of friends and keep them
One common misconception is that "cool" kids are an exclusive group, like the Navy SEALs, and if one of your friends doesn't pass the cool test, they'll be kicked out. Cool people treat everyone with respect and kindness, whether they're "cool" or not.
- Find a diverse group of friends. Accompany other students at your school who are not considered “cool” and stand up for them. Build kindness, not hate.
- Several recent studies have shown that children who are considered "cool" in middle and high school end up having trouble in early adulthood, because they pretend to have early adult experiences, thus alienating friends and closest people. Don't make the same mistakes as the bad cool guy. Keep your real friends.
Method 2 of 5: Look Cool
Step 1. Find cool idols
The “latest” appearance doesn't just happen. Unless you want to wrap yourself in a space blanket and put on some scary make-up, it's easy to create new style trends. A better and faster way to improve your cool style is to pick a cool inspiration or idol and borrow his advice. Actors, musicians, and even relatives or local people can be great style idols. Some of the classic idols include:
- Paul Newman in "Cool Hand Luke". Work shirts and banjos have never looked cooler than Newman wore in this classic. Learn about his cool looks and witty answers as you develop your style. Bonus: getting to know this old movie will make you stand out among the Transformers-obsessed. Also watch: Steve McQueen in “Bullitt”, Peter Fonda in “Easy Rider”, and Johnny Cash's video.
- Audrey Hepburn in "Breakfast at Tiffany's." Hepburn's smuggled glamor made him a '60s style idol. Elegance and whimsical coexistence, he teaches us that. Also watch Brigitte Bardor in any film, Anna Karina in “Band of Outsiders” (French dark film bonus points!), and Nancy Sinatra videos on YouTube.
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Vintage style photography. Check out Mae West, Betty Page, and Vogue issues from the mid-50s to 70s. There's a lot of cool stuff hidden in the cool library. You need a new style in your life? Go back to the source.
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Step 2. Have cool and attractive clothes
Buy clothes that make you look good and make you feel cool. Cool clothes are not a particular style but they make you feel confident and give off a cool look. You want to make sure that the shirt fits you and makes you look good, so that you feel modern and confident.
- Some trends like skinny jeans or high-waisted pants may not look appealing to everyone. If it doesn't look great, it's not cool. Find something you like to wear.
- Wear sunglasses for a classic cool. One thing remains in the world of cool style: sunglasses look cool on everyone. Buy cool, prescription sunglasses if you wear glasses, and wear them outdoors. Wearing it indoors is not cool.
Step 3. Relax and be comfortable with yourself
Check out old videos of Johnny Cash, or Meryl Streep interviews. They seem like they know something you don't, that they are relaxed about their world experience. That is cool. The most important thing in acting cool? Relax. You want to give the impression that you are comfortable being yourself, that you are relaxed in your world.
Try not to nervously tap your feet, or bite your nails, even if you're just sitting. Sit quietly and contemplatively. Anxiety makes everyone restless. Silent dignity? That is cool
Step 4. Choose your “style”
It's hard to be more than one type cool when it comes to style. You know yourself best and you know what you think is cool, so if you want to commit to a cool style that will wow others, it's very important to choose a style and stick to it. Are you a rocker? Athlete? Bookworm? Each branch of culture has its own cool dictionary. When you decide what kind of cool you want to pursue, put yourself in it.
Method 3 of 5: Being Cool-Athletic
Step 1. Improve your physical physical condition
From Michael Jordan to Mia Hamm, athletes and athletic types are all cool. We, the regular type, are in awe of an athlete's natural ability to always win, which makes them super cool in the eyes of many. If you want to be athletically cool, the first step is to improve your physical condition and use your body for sports and other physical activities. You don't have to be a professional athlete to be athletically cool, but you do have to be in good physical shape.
- If you like sports games, pick one and join a team or build a specific skill. Play soccer, basketball, golf, tennis, or any sport game that boosts your competitive energy. Be as proficient as possible and improve your physical condition by playing and exercising frequently.
- If you're not into traditional ball and net sports, many people are athletically cool by doing yoga, long-distance running, lifting weights, biking, or hiking. It's a good way to be in good physical condition without joining the team.
Step 2. Prove that you are cool in the competition
Cool athletes are usually driven by a desire to win, so it's a good idea to get out on the court and see what you're capable of in your pursuit of gold. Whether you're on a team or alone, whether you're playing a board game or starting the Super Bowl, win.
- Take every competitive opportunity seriously. When Rafael Nadal is injured and recovering, the loss of the tennis competition drives him crazy, so he throws himself into competitive poker to keep his competitive nature honed. That is cool.
- Try to be a good winner and loser. Cool means that you push others and yourself to succeed at the highest level, but also realize that you are playing a game. If you lose, congratulate your opponents and have the dignity to reward their achievements. Whining like a loser isn't cool.
Step 3. Demonstrate your skills regularly
Cool athletes always want to be physically active, be competitive, and get moving. All day at home watching “Battlestar Galactica”? Just forget it. Cool athletes like to start the day with a 5-mile bike ride, fuel up with fruit and oatmeal, then play basketball until the last minute before going to work or school. Cool athletes take every opportunity to push their bodies to the limit.
Visit public parks and gyms to meet other cool athletes. Play a sports game in your area to meet other friends and hone your competitive side. Be a wild creature in the field
Step 4. Get the right gear
Athletic gear and apparel is big business. In any hobby, from basketball to cycling, there's a lot of expensive gear and “stuff” you can buy to keep your cool look. Stores like Dick's, Cabela's, Outdoor World, and REI make custom gear for cool athletes. It's easy to spend a lot of money buying sports equipment, but try to spend money that fits your budget.
- Some great brands for cool athletes include North Face, Patagonia, Under Armor, Nike, and Adidas. The company manufactures extreme wear clothing and equipment for many uses. Choose equipment that suits your preferences. Each sport has specific equipment that you can take a look at as you learn more about your sport.
- Team memorabilia and jerseys are also very often used by cool athletes. If you like basketball, buy an old Sixers shirt and hat. Support your favorite team.
Step 5. Watch sports games and choose your favorite athlete
Cool athletes usually look to other athletes for inspiration and role models. If you want to be an athlete, it is very important to follow the sport of your choice. Follow the team, even when not playing. Cool athletes always check the Bleacher Report to see if Kobe is really going to retire, if Cristiano Ronaldo's knee has recovered well, if RGIII can prove his worth.
Choose your favorite teams and rivalries, with extra bonus points for local and regional teams. It doesn't make sense to support the Yankees if you live in Atlanta, unless you have a relationship with the source. To be cool, be authentic
Method 4 of 5: Be Cool-Rockstar
Step 1. Read cool books and magazines
One way to keep up with the cool world is to read the latest books, magazines and online readings. If you want to act cool, follow the cool intellect center. Look for things you like, it will also make you cool in secret.
- Read cool books, cool books like “On The Road” by Kerouac, “The Bell Jar” by Plath, “One Hundred Years of Solitude” by Marquez, and other contemporary books: anything by Tao Lin, Karen Russell, Roberto Bolano, or Haruki Murakami.
- Read cool culture magazines, such as “Vice”, “Bomb”, “The Believer”, “Aesthetica”, “Oxford American”, “The Brooklyn Rail”, and “Interview”.
- Check out cool cultural sites, such as The Onion, Aquarium Drunkard, Slate, Narrative, and Brooklyn Vegan.
Step 2. Listen to cool music
Music is a cool child's life. Probably nothing will give you cool traits like the latest taste in music and contemporary knowledge of what's cool. You don't want to be the person with the old taste in music, asking everyone if they've ever listened to Radiohead.
- Check out the archives of cool record labels like Numero Group, Tompkins Square, and Light in the Attic, to learn about old dark music. While other kids are crazy about Mumford and Sons, explore Laurel Canyon desert folk, Minneapolis soul comps, and whimsical ambient music from the 80s. Good + dark = cool.
- Visit local shows and learn more about the local stage in your area. If you can get to know the next cool band before they hit it big, you can tell all your friends that you knew them while they were still practicing in the basement. Cool points +1000.
- Collect vinyl records, old and new. CDs are dead, and MP3s don't have the same cache as a stack of vinyl. Most new recordings come with a download code, which means that you can also listen to the same recordings with an iPod. Bonus!
Step 3. Stay relaxed
Don't get too excited about anything, or anyone. Stay cool and relaxed. Like you always have cool activities every night after school, or on weekends. You just found out that you won a trip to Mexico? Shrugging your shoulders: “That sounds cool.” Your boyfriend broke up in front of all your friends? Just laugh. After all, he's a loser.
Alternatively, if you're at a party with the "cool kid" type, who grins and won't take off their leather jackets, it might be cool to talk more. Be the one to tell jokes and make noise. Go for the mainstream and act against it, if you want to act cool
Step 4. Don't commit to anything and don't be afraid to change your opinion
Some cool things don't fade with time. Plain white T-shirts, Levis, and Chuck Taylors? Always cool. But you should always keep up with the trend by looking for the “new big thing,” which might mean quitting the “Harlem Shake” before it gets uncool. Cool game is very cruel.
When you see Ninja Turtles t-shirts at K-Mart, that trend is probably not cool anymore. When you hear bands in diamond commercials, chances are they're not modern anymore. Move on to something new once he's reached the pinnacle of pop culture. Do not be shy
Step 5. Hang out with musicians, artists, and creative types
There's nothing cooler than joining a rock band, doing weird performing arts, or being an eccentric. Hang out with people like that and their cool nature will spread to you.
- Head to a modern coffee shop to meet the bohemian type in your area. Bring the latest book and wear your coolest clothes. Visit art openings, concerts and poetry readings. You will attract other types of cool.
- At school, see if there are art, guitar, or foreign language groups you can join to hang out with other cool people. This is a great way to make cool friends. If your school doesn't have a music appreciation society, start.
Step 6. Develop unique or “weird” habits
Acting cool means having an interesting interest in unexpected fields, topics, and issues. Cool people change the ordinary and do surprising things that make others want to learn from you and get your cool. You can develop some unique traits that will make you stand out and be noticed.
- Maybe you can carry a stick with a snake in its handle for no reason. Maybe you can develop a love for exotic butterflies, and decorate your room with a collection of specimens. The line between weird eccentricity and “cool” is sometimes blurred. Have fun and do things you love that are weird, quirky, and cool.
- Try doing unique things that will make you different and cool. Even something as simple as ordering a bloody mary at night, or deciding never to see “Forrest Gump” might be “cool”. Being the one who never watched an episode of Seinfeld? Why not?
Step 7. Do a chaotic but controlled look
Acting cool means that you want to look cool but also look like you really don't care about how you look. You can look cool by organizing your mess of hair, clothes, and make-up.
- Jeans and T-shirts should not be ironed, but not too wrinkled or dirty. Holes in cool jeans, paint-splattered boots and sneakers are cool too, like you just stepped out of the studio.
- Necklaces, bracelets, and piercings are usually cool too, if they make you comfortable. Use your judgment. A shark tooth necklace looks cool on Johnny Depp, but it might make you look uncool. Combined with other cool arrangements, you can start building an appearance for yourself.
- Wash your hair the night before school, not before school. Sleeping with slightly damp hair can give you rockstar-style curls, giving it a controlled, wild look. You can also comb it if it looks too messy.
- Cool make-up is usually minimalistic. Use natural accents, highlighting your natural features and colors.
Step 8. For clothing and entertainment, look for classics
Classic usually trumps modern for cool clothes, movies, and music. Classic Ray-Bans are cooler than Oakleys. Old Italian art house movies from the '70s are cool, whereas Michael Bay movies aren't that great. Old guitar analogue synthesizers and effects may be cooler than digital counterparts. The tape engine is cooler than Ableton Live.
Method 5 of 5: Being Cool-Smart
Step 1. Find the latest stuff, and follow it
Technology, clothing, culture, many different things can change fast. Coolness is a moving target. Always try to keep up with the latest and greatest.
- Cool-smart people always know what's up, they've always seen a meme three days before it appeared in your newsfeed, always have an opinion on the latest news, and are more efficient, and the most innovative in technology. The latest Facebook privacy update? Cool-smart people have been reading that from three days ago.
- Always try to keep your hardware up to date as soon as possible. The latest apps, devices, games and trends are usually cooler than the older variations. The new iPhone is cooler than the old iPhone. Why do you read books? Get an e-reader. You want to be the person with the latest equipment, attracting envious glances from others.
Step 2. Find new ways to do things
Shopping, eating and traveling the old fashioned way? Boring. Cool-smart people don't waste time going to the mall, instead shopping online at stores like Frank & Oak or Warby Parker. Cool-savvy people don't go to hotels, but look for cheaper options on AirBnB, and get there using an Uber ride. Follow the latest start-ups and innovations in consumer culture.
You don't have to always keep up with the latest technology to stay on top of consumer innovative trends. Even within your own area, you can search for the newest restaurants, always go elsewhere, looking for the next best thing. Don't stop moving
Step 3. Develop your online presence
Cool-smart people pride themselves on their Twitter followers and are serious about their online presence. From your social network to your personal website to your World of Warcraft account, your online presence must be attractive and developed. Your avatar is blank on a wikiHow account? Seriously.
Online friends are real friends. Make connections and friendships with people online, who understand your sense of humor, interests, and personality. If you spend a lot of time thinking to yourself, online communities can be very welcoming. Maybe it will feel like home
Step 4. Be serious about school and pursue a good education
Being cool-smart means you have to be smart. Be happy that you can have a career of your own intelligence by learning about innovative fields and cultural developments. Think of school as a means, and continue to pursue your bright future.
- Develop a thirst for knowledge in many ways, not just what you are passionate about or what you are good at. If you want to be a hacker, be a hacker who can read Macbeth's excerpts. If you want to be a novelist, learn how to do something with your hands, in addition to that brain work.
- You know that not doing homework isn't cool, even if the "cool" kids at your school don't always do it. Gain confidence in the knowledge that you'll be at university, surrounded by cool, smart, and interesting people, while that fake cool kid isn't going anywhere.
Step 5. Dress however you like
In the cool-smart world, looking like you pay attention to brands, styles, or other trends isn't cool. Smart people want to look like clothes are the last thing on your list. Dress comfortably, not to be "cool". Wearing a T-shirt with a big logo on the chest, like a billboard? Do not.
Novelty T-shirts are usually worn by cool-smart people. Shop online for funny t-shirts with jokes that you and your friends understand, that will leave dumb athletes scratching their heads. You found a Monty Python t-shirt you like? Cool
Tips
- Cool hairdos come in handy.
- You should text her once in a while. Otherwise, the person will think you forgot about them.
- A smile is the best thing you can give someone.
Warning
- Don't be a bully.
- Don't judge other people. If you always do this, it will make you insecure because you are afraid that other people will think like you and judge everyone.
