According to traditional etiquette, women should sit with their backs straight with their legs together, pull the bottom hem of the skirt as low as possible, and dress as neatly as possible so that the underwear is not visible. When wearing trousers, women still seem elegant when sitting with that posture. In addition, there are various ways to sit with your legs crossed when attending a formal event so that the clothes you wear remain neat. Sitting with the following postures in formal events or daily activities makes women seem more classy.
Step
Method 1 of 2: Sitting in Traditional Posture
Step 1. Stand in front of the chair as close to the seat as possible
This will help you sit more easily without attracting attention or falling over because the chair is too far away.
In formal events, there is usually a man who will help when a woman wants to sit on a chair. He will pull the chair back, wait until you are standing in front of the chair, then slowly push the chair until the edge of the seat touches your feet. This step is usually done by your date, partner, waitress, or the guy next to you
Step 2. Bring your knees and feet together
Before sitting down, make sure you have your knees together and the insides of your feet together. Don't let one foot get in front of the other. Even if you're wearing a short skirt, your underwear won't be exposed if you sit with your knees together.
Step 3. Lower yourself into the seat slowly
When lowering yourself into a sitting position, don't lean forward and keep your back straight. While keeping your knees together, bend your knees and sit down gently. The calves will be pushed forward naturally. Right now, you are in a sitting posture that needs to be maintained.
Don't hold on to balance. Straighten your arms at your sides in a relaxed state or bend your elbows slightly
Step 4. Trim the bottom of the skirt before sitting down
If you are wearing a skirt or dress, the area you sit on will usually get wrinkled or the skirt hem may move up when you sit down. So that the skirt does not wrinkle or look shorter, first trim the back of the skirt with your hands slowly.
Step 5. Determine the position of the feet
There are 2 options for positioning your feet: keeping your feet flat on the floor or crossing your ankles. If your feet can't touch the floor, cross your ankles. Whatever option you choose, make sure your knees are always close together and that there are no gaps in your ankles.
Step 6. Tilt both legs
If you have long legs or if you don't want to cross your ankles, tilt your legs to the left or right. Thus, the sitting posture does not seem stiff and looks more feminine. You don't have to tilt your feet during the event. Make sure you point your knee at the person you are talking to.
Step 7. Sit with an upright body
Don't sit back. For formal events, the best way to sit is to sit up straight in the middle of the seat without leaning back. Also, don't lean forward or bend over.
Step 8. Place your palms on your lap
When not in use, leave your palms together or intertwine your fingers as if in prayer and place them in your lap slightly upwards. However, if you are attending a formal dinner in France, make sure you place your palms next to the plate, one hand to one side. Putting your palms under the table on your lap is considered rude.
Method 2 of 2: Sitting with your legs crossed
Step 1. Sit in a chair with your knees together
Straighten your back without leaning forward. If you want to sit with your legs crossed, do so according to the traditional sitting posture described above.
Remember that sitting with your legs stretched out is more polite than crossing your legs because your legs will be more exposed when the hem of the skirt is lifted
Step 2. Place your palms on your lap
After sitting down, put your palms together and place them on your lap between your legs. Place your hands like this when not in use. In addition, you can hold the hem of the skirt so that it is not exposed so that the underwear is not visible when crossing your legs.
Step 3. Move the right leg to the left
Start moving by lifting your right thigh slightly and then touching your right calf to your left calf. Make sure you keep your thighs together. Even if you just want to adjust your sitting position, the loose legs do not reflect the sitting position of an elegant woman. In addition, this method has the risk of exposing the underwear even though the palms are on the lap.
Step 4. Touch the right calf to the left calf
At this time, the right knee is directly above the left knee. Both calves touch each other in an oblique position with the soles of the feet pointing to the right or to the left. In this position, you can't put your feet on the ground with your feet on the floor.
Step 5. Make sure the calves are parallel
The right and left calves must remain parallel and pressed together. Don't forget to keep your feet together while sitting and point your toes on the floor.
Make sure you always sit with your back straight
Step 6. Reposition your feet if needed
When sitting, you can cross your legs in the other direction, unless you are wearing a very short skirt. Make sure you change your leg position as quickly as possible in a graceful motion. Lower the crossed legs so that both legs return to the parallel position as if you had just sat down. Then, lift the leg you want to cross to sit back down while crossing your legs.
Make sure your palms are in your lap as you change your leg position and cross your legs again
Tips
- If you want to stand up, pull the hem of the skirt down to cover your legs so you can't see the underwear.
- While sitting, do not spread your legs apart even if you are wearing trousers.
- Keep in mind that this article describes the traditional "lady lady" style of sitting that is often used when attending formal events. In everyday life, every woman can choose how to sit according to their wishes.
