You may feel excited the first time you spend the night at your boyfriend's house, but you're also a little nervous at the same time. If you feel comfortable enough to spend the night with your boyfriend at his house, this means that your relationship is developing harmoniously. How to get around this thrilling moment? Be yourself, plan well, and try to talk openly with your boyfriend so that your first night at his house goes smoothly.
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Part 1 of 4: Packing Everything You Need
Step 1. Prepare a small bag
Don't choose a bag that makes you feel like you're going to be staying at her house for a week. Just make sure you bring some personal hygiene items to help you in the morning. You'll need a toothbrush and a makeup remover if you apply daily makeup.
- Try to include everything you normally take with you when you leave the house. If you usually carry a small bag or purse, you may need something a little bigger or only carry the essentials.
- If your boyfriend's house is a long way from where you have to travel for hours, you may be able to pack more stuff. In this case, you'll need all the things you normally need when you travel.
Step 2. Bring everything you need for bed
You may find it awkward to borrow a toothbrush, but the situation will be even more unpleasant if you decide not to brush your teeth. Pack essential items that will make your life easier.
- If you wear makeup, bring a makeup remover product. Some women prefer to sleep wearing makeup because they don't want to look without makeup in front of their girlfriends. However, this action can be harmful to the skin and sooner or later your boyfriend will see you in a no-makeup state.
- Pack the items needed for the hair. Some women use curling hair at night, but choose not to do it when spending the night with a boyfriend. Of course you don't want to be seen with rollers on this special night, but at least you should bring a comb, hairbrush, or product to deal with frizz.
Step 3. Bring the things you will need in the morning
Usually women carry a lot of things to anticipate the situation in the morning after spending the night with her boyfriend. Think about what you need for your morning routine and how much time you will spend with your boyfriend before going home.
- If you're used to getting up early, bring a charger, a book or a magazine with you. That way, if you wake up early before your boyfriend, you can do something to pass the time.
- If bag size allows, bring a pair of shoes that are more comfortable than the shoes you wear on a date.
- Do not forget to bring the medicine you must take regularly. You can't be sure what time you'll be home the next morning.
Step 4. Bring a condom if you need one
If you are planning on having physical intimacy, it is important to bring a condom with you. Don't assume your boyfriend will have supplies at his house. Even if you're not sure whether to have sex or not, it's best to take it with you just in case.
- Condoms are the only form of contraception that protects you against the risk of pregnancy as well as against sexually transmitted diseases.
- There's nothing wrong with bringing lubricant or other sexual accessories if you prefer.
Step 5. Bring cash
This principle is good to apply whenever you plan to spend the night outdoors. If you haven't thought of a mode of transportation to get home or the situation has turned out to be unplanned, having cash can be very helpful in an emergency.
Cash will also come in handy if you suddenly decide to go out for coffee or have ice cream or breakfast. Don't always assume your boyfriend will pay
Step 6. Wear clothes that are multifunctional
Maybe you will spend the whole morning or even the afternoon with your boyfriend. If you go to her house wearing very specific clothes or just wearing them for a date night, you'll feel uncomfortable walking in the park the next morning or when you go to breakfast.
It's a good idea to have some clothes that make you feel sexy, but that can also be worn comfortably in the morning
Part 2 of 4: Managing Expectations Around Sex
Step 1. Know what you want
The first thing to consider when deciding to spend the night at your boyfriend's house is the possible implications. Don't think that you have to have sex just because you're staying at his house for the first time. However, if you want it, prepare everything.
- Having sex can help you get closer to each other and create a more intimate bond.
- Sex can also provoke sensitive topics such as monogamy, sexual history, sexual health, and possible pregnancy. If you're not ready to discuss this with your boyfriend, chances are you're not ready for a relationship that involves sexual activity.
- It's natural to have doubts about sex, especially if you've never had it before. Don't worry if you're not ready to make a decision right now. You just need to make sure that you can make an informed and mutually agreed decision when having sex.
Step 2. Talk to your boyfriend about expectations
Discussing expectations with your boyfriend may feel awkward at first, but sooner or later this topic will come to the fore. There are several ways in which you can ask your boyfriend's expectations in a charming and even seductive manner.
- If you want to maintain a tantalizing conversational atmosphere, you can ask how the sleeping arrangements at his house will be. Say, "So are we going to sleep in the same bed or should I bring my own sleeping bag?"
- You can also ask a direct question by saying, “I know we've never slept together before. I'm really excited, but I want to talk about our respective expectations for tonight. I want to know what you think about sex. Do you think we're ready?"
- If you know exactly what you want, just say, "I can't wait to spend the night together, but I just wanted to tell you that I'm not ready to have sex yet," or "I'm so excited to be staying at your house tonight and I think I'm done." time for us to have sex and enter a new chapter in our relationship.”
Step 3. Be firm, but flexible
If you've made the decision for yourself whether you want to have sex or not, that's great. However, you should know that certain circumstances can affect how you feel and you can change your mind in an instant. This is normal. Just follow your instincts.
- Maybe you haven't decided to have sex yet, but when you're at his house, you feel very comfortable and are curious to try it.
- Even if you are planning to have sex, you may suddenly feel uncomfortable or nervous. It doesn't matter if you change your mind.
- Make sure you make decisions based on your own will, not coercion from girlfriends, friends, parents, or other pressure.
Part 3 of 4: Behave at Boyfriend's House
Step 1. Enjoy each other's company
You may be nervous about spending the night with your boyfriend for the first time. However, remember that he loves you for who you are. Not only that, he's just as nervous as you are. To reduce tension, try to relax together and do activities that you both enjoy.
- Your boyfriend may be nervous because you will see what his house or room will look like. Relax him by commenting on what you like there. You could say, “I love that poster” or “Wow, your house is in a great location.”
- If your house isn't a comfortable place to relax and chat, you can take a walk or go for a drive. Go somewhere for a date and come back just to sleep.
Step 2. Do your nightly routine
Your routine may involve washing your face, brushing your teeth, combing your hair and other things you normally do before bed. Maybe your routine is more at home, but for tonight just do what's important. That way, you won't be spending a lot of time in the bathroom while your boyfriend wonders what you're doing.
- No need to explain what you do in the bathroom. He might wonder, but there was no need to worry about it.
- If you usually braid your hair or wear rollers, it's probably best not to do this routine on the first few nights you spend with your boyfriend, as long as you're comfortable.
Step 3. Be prepared for not getting a good night's sleep
When someone first sleeps with someone else, the brain will stay awake during the night as a defense system to keep you safe. You may wake up when your boyfriend moves or changes position in bed.
- Don't plan to spend the night at your boyfriend's house for the first time before an important day at school or work.
- You may need to make up for the lack of sleep that night with a nap the next day, even if you try to go to bed early.
Step 4. Wear comfortable clothes
If you don't plan on staying overnight, you may not need to bring a change of clothes or think about what to wear to bed. Even if you do plan to, it might not make sense to bring pajamas or a change of clothes. What you will wear to bed will depend on your comfort and level of intimacy with your boyfriend.
- If you end up having sex or engaging in other physical intimacy, you may find it more comfortable to sleep naked or in only your underwear.
- If your boyfriend still lives with your parents, it's a good idea to choose a more closed nightgown just in case your parents or siblings enter the room or you have to go to the bathroom at night.
- You can always borrow a T-shirt to sleep in. Many men like it.
Step 5. Go to bed when you are both ready
When you both feel tired, go to sleep. If you both sleep in the same bed, find a position that is comfortable for both of you. There may be several things that can disturb your comfort, for example:
- If he snores. You may need to bring earplugs just in case!
- If one likes to pull the blanket or has a different room temperature preference.
- If he likes to sleep cuddled up, while you don't (or vice versa).
Part 4 of 4: Build Together
Step 1. Let him sleep
If you wake up early, let your boyfriend sleep a little longer. Either way, you'll be happy if he does the same for you. If you wake up early, stay in bed hugging him or go to the bathroom to do your morning routine so that when he wakes you are fresh and beautiful.
If he gets up early, he might as well go to the bathroom to brush his teeth and groom before you get up
Step 2. Think about how you will spend the morning
You may want to spend the morning and afternoon together, but you may have other plans. Ideally, you already know what to do on the day. If not, don't assume that you'll be spending the whole morning with him.
- Did you talk about the possibility of having breakfast together? If not, you can suggest something or ask him what he wants to do. Just say, "Would you like to make breakfast together?" or “I want some coffee. Are there any good coffee shops around here?”
- Does one of you have to go to work or school? If you're the one, let him know. Say, "I have to be at work in an hour, but I'd be happy to have coffee with you, if you want." You could also say, “Do you have any plans for today? I'm free, but I can understand that you have other business."
- Your boyfriend should care and respect you. So don't be shy about letting him know if you want or don't want to spend the morning with him. In a healthy relationship, you must be able to express your feelings honestly.
Step 3. Leave something out if you want
This is a common tempting trick. Even if you're already in a serious relationship, this trick can turn your boyfriend on. Plus, there's nothing wrong with leaving something behind that will remind him and reassure him that the two of you will see each other again in the near future. Some items that can be "accidentally" left include:
- Clothes
- The jewelry you always wear
- Toothbrush or cosmetic
- The book you are reading
- DVD series you watch together
Step 4. Show polite behavior if he lives with his family
If he lives with his parents or siblings, you may have to respect their existence. Follow the rules in their house and be polite.
- If the parents decide you will sleep in separate rooms or beds, follow the rules. If they find you're secretly breaking the rules, it can lead to chaos.
- Do not show excessive affection in front of his family. You can be nice to each other, but don't kiss or make out in front of them.
- Choose modest clothing for sleeping or hanging around his house. For example, don't go to the bathroom wearing just a t-shirt and underwear.
Tips
- Try to be relaxed the first time you spend the night at his house. Don't try to show off your skills or show all your lovemaking skills or make the best of it right from the start.
- If she lives with her parents or other family members, discuss in advance what is appropriate to wear, whether you need to bring anything specific and how the sleeping arrangements are made there.
Warning
- Remember that approval is important. Before engaging in physical or sexual contact, it is important that both of you get the explicit consent of each party.
- Before deciding to have active sexual activity with someone, you should find out if he or she is free of STIs. You must take the sexual health of your partner and yourself seriously.
