Arrogant people seem to think they know everything. If you silence people like that, they can really upset or upset you and will continue to do so. Instead of feeling upset, sad or stressed, why not look for the best approach to dealing with the arrogance and comments of those who feel the best and make sure that approach fits your personality.
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Method 1 of 3: Your Own Sense of Security
Step 1. Deal with arrogant people with strong awareness and believe that you are okay and tough
When you feel confident in yourself, nothing arrogant people say or do can weaken you. Self-confidence and self-respect will prevent you from appearing vulnerable in front of arrogant people. Arrogant people may not be able to connect with you and even say mean or hurtful things, but you can ignore them if you feel confident about yourself.
Step 2. Use the meeting as an opportunity to improve your listening skills or tolerance
Maybe impatience, frustration, or annoyance are your weaknesses. Maybe you feel intimidated. Try to reverse your usual negative approach and think of this as a learning opportunity that allows you to listen without judgment. Be willing to tolerate the person, while trying to understand what underlies his arrogance, and how you would feel if you were in the same position. Of course there's no room for tolerance for bad behavior, but at least you can listen with an open mind. You might surprise him.
Step 3. Consider ways you can interact with other people
Are you being assertive, or do you want to please everyone? Are you a grouch or a shy person? Arrogant people look for people who are not assertive because they like to intimidate others or make others angry. If you have a weakness for this, it might be a good idea to increase your assertiveness and learn how to deal with arrogant people.
Method 2 of 3: Recognizing and Understanding Arrogant People
Step 1. Assess the situation
Why do you feel the person is being arrogant? Has he ever looked down on you or never even greeted you? If you've had an incident that shows that the person is superior to you, don't be too quick to call him arrogant. You may have been unfair to him.
If you feel that your interests and needs are not being respected at all, this could be a sign that you are dealing with an arrogant person, especially if he insists that only his opinion is right
Step 2. Listen to their conversation
Is the talk always about them? Do they get angry or upset if the center of attention turns to someone else? Boasting, ignoring others, and acting like they know best are the hallmarks of arrogant people. Interrupting a conversation or cutting it off suddenly can be another characteristic of arrogant people when interacting.
- Pay attention to people who keep telling you that they are better than you and other people. The trick may be subtle or overt, but you definitely know it.
- Consider whether he is belittling you and your ideas or thoughts. Disdain is a sign that he feels sure he is better than others.
- Does the person demean things that are important to you, especially in public?
- Does the person's words and/or actions sound bossy? Notice if the tone of his voice is bossy or dismissive.
- Does the person even notice that you are bored with the conversation going on? Arrogant people never pay attention to it!
Step 3. Pay attention to whether the person involves you in the decision making or not
Arrogant people rarely include other people in decision making because they believe they are right and have the answers in their hands. He doesn't even care if the decision affects you or not.
Does the person associate, cooperate, or conspire with high-status people? This is because arrogant people believe that they only deserve to be associated with these high-status people
Step 4. Recognize that arrogant people are often insecure
They seek to dominate and control because it makes them feel in control, which reflects that they have a great fear of being dominated and controlled. Arrogant people have a hard time admitting mistakes and, even though it's very irrational, they often maintain the belief that they know everything even when their knowledge is outdated or can no longer accommodate a wider perspective. Unfortunately, many arrogant people actually don't have as much experience as they tout. It's all just camouflage studded with imagination and envy.
- Being pretentious is a classic trait of arrogance. Pretending or even trying to dig up as much information as possible about something was considered the only thing that gave them the upper hand and he wasn't afraid to show it off.
- It is very difficult for arrogant people to understand complexity. He prefers predictable, black and white situations and tends to view all aspects of life from that perspective. This can cause arrogant people to make exaggerated assumptions despite having very little knowledge.
- Anxiety can create a sense of pride even if it is not accompanied by a genuine intention to put you down. In this case, the anxious person who is only worried will appear weightless in the conversation and try hard to appear intelligent. This action ultimately makes him sound superior, and when combined with a domineering attitude, can appear arrogant. Be careful to take a closer look before judging someone's motivations. Anxious people remain interested in your response, while arrogant people don't care and won't feel guilty even if they have mastered the conversation.
Method 3 of 3: Dealing With Others' Arrogance Effectively
Step 1. Don't take it to heart
This may be easier said than done, but by ignoring the superiority that is characteristic of arrogant people, you can destroy the purpose of the behavior. Don't be presumptuous when interpreting the person's exaggerated behavior and try to find a way to make sense of the big talk (especially if it's a relative or someone you see regularly). Look for the positive side that you can enjoy from the meeting. Maybe there is something in between the big boasts that deserves to be known or explored more deeply together. Maybe this person is suitable for a story or very interesting despite the arrogance he displays.
Step 2. If you're meeting someone for the first time, it's best to give them a chance to reveal who they really are
This means you have to listen carefully and let him speak freely. Show courtesy and comment as necessary without trying to get too involved. When he talks, his personality will be exposed and you will recognize whether he is a friendly and fair person or trapped in his own insecurities and therefore prone to various annoying behaviors.
If the person turns out to fit into the latter category (i.e., unattractive and annoying) despite your efforts to fit in, make a tacit plan to get the information you need from them or a business transaction you need to complete and then try to end the conversation calmly. and fast, but very polite (aka escaping from his presence)
Step 3. Be tactful
By being tactful, you can still see the obvious or the bad without worrying about the person's actual abilities. Think how much you owe to the good fortune and kindness of others. Think, too, that many people lead difficult lives, and you will be amazed at how such people can progress despite the hardships. This will signal that you don't need to sit back and listen to the snob's supernatural powers.
Step 4. Change the subject
This move can undermine the self-confidence of the arrogant person who tends to dominate the conversation on topics that make him feel comfortable. If he tries to return to an old topic, politely say that you've already expressed your opinion and move on to another new topic. This will help confirm that you won't be standing there all day listening to a solo comedy show.
Step 5. Avoid too much interaction
There are surefire ways to reduce the impact of a snob who dominates the conversation and exaggerates or intimidates as if he or she is acting on stage.
- Smile often. Limit your speech. Nod your head occasionally. Don't get caught in the trap. The occasional mutter of “ah” “yes, yes”, or “mmm” can help. Then try to end the conversation and leave.
- Laugh out loud at the most inopportune times. Doing so will confuse him and give you a chance to change the subject.
- One of the comments that teens often use is “Oh, yeah?” Say it in disbelief, look him straight in the eye, and say nothing more. Practice in front of a mirror to perfect it.
Step 6. Disagree politely
You are not a punching bag or a mirror. You have the right to voice your opinion politely. So take the opportunity to do it in a way that just shows that there are also different views. Remain calm and polite while doing so. For example:
- “Your opinion is very interesting. However, in my work it is not like that. In my experience, what will happen is X, you could say almost 99% of it. The 1% doesn't seem to need to be taken into account."
- “I'm sure you can see it from that point of view. However, in my experience, what happened was something very different. For example…"
Step 7. Laugh at their arrogance
This is important. Oftentimes, arrogant people are too selfish to realize that others are laughing at them. Pretend like you don't understand a simple concept, and watch how they will grab the bait and try to prove their superiority.
Step 8. Keep your distance if you want to keep your sanity
If you haven't found a method that works for dealing with such a person, try to avoid it as much as possible. You'll have the opportunity to think of a better way to respond, or you'll be freed from their annoying presence.
If you, say, have to greet him in a group, you can get away with greeting the group instead of speaking directly to the snob. For example, instead of saying, “Hello Wanti,” just say, “Hello everyone.” Also, don't say, "How are you?" because this would provoke a harsh response from him
Step 9. If you work in an office with rude and arrogant people, every time you see them coming, act like you're really busy
Pick up the receiver and pretend to talk. If they need to talk to you, let them wait as long as possible. Prepare a worksheet containing the numbers that must be added three times. When you finally have to serve them, do it in an unfocused, fast, impersonal way while starting to do other work. For example, say something like, "Well, how can I help you?" while picking up the phone. This technique is often very powerful because you are, in fact, “breaking his pride.” This goes against what they want.
Step 10. Be honest
If this doesn't work and the snob continues to annoy you, be honest about how you feel about the snob and let them know how you feel. Don't yell or swear or insult him more than you should because that will make you look mean.
Step 11. Try to be polite at all times
Courtesy will help you not to look like the bad guy in this situation. He will clearly see that you have tried and be patient. However, he will also see that you have zero tolerance for stupid people.
Once you've freed yourself from the presence of demoralizing people, you can pride yourself on your professionalism, your intelligence in understanding dynamics and your knack for escaping quickly without wasting precious time dealing with annoying people. On the other hand, they will be very surprised to have such a pleasant encounter with someone who is completely emotionally stable and polite and will feel “like a fool” by comparison, knowing that their condescending arrogance has had no effect on you and they will not. can control, hurt, provoke or destroy you with their negative energy that they cannot even control or contain within themselves
Tips
- Usually arrogant people will not listen to what you have to say. So sometimes you just need to smile and nod, and feel good that you're the safer person.
- If someone's arrogance is driving you crazy, you can ask them very politely, “May I ask how you got to be so good at this? Are you doing research? Did you learn it after a bad experience? Is there anything you don't know that I can help you with?"
- Keep in mind that the reason many arrogant/narcissistic people behave this way is because they have problems with their own self-image. This causes many people to overcompensate themselves, not only strengthening their own “confidence”, but also trying to destroy the confidence of others.
- Don't be afraid to be assertive, but "be careful" with people whose actions you cannot tolerate or approve of. Tell them outright what you think about their actions so they know what is right and wrong.
- Sometimes, arrogant people can be very competitive and point out minor flaws and faults. If they do this to you, respond calmly, and say something like, "thanks for letting me know." Just make sure your tone isn't cynical.
- Tell them politely what they do. The key word is “it seems” or say, “It looks like…” For example, if you say “it looks like you are defending yourself” then they will sometimes pull away a little. Most of them will maintain that defensive attitude, but with their help you make sure they know it when they do. Don't argue with your opinion. Just forget it.
- Tell them how you feel when they always assume it's all about them!
- Also, don't let them piss you off. Sooner or later they will stop bothering you.
- Don't acknowledge their existence. Ignore their arrogance.
- Challenge them. They will stop being arrogant once you prove them wrong and make them realize their bad behavior.
Warning
- Try not to get into any kind of debate with them because they won't listen to your opinion, and if they do, they'll keep telling you you're wrong. Often times, arrogant people will try to make “you” feel insecure and guilty. He does this in an attempt to show that he is in control of the situation. If this happens to you, don't be mad because that's what they want. Instead, try to understand their disparaging actions and see their expected conclusions from their point of view. Act wisely and in control, but don't escalate the situation by responding in an angry or hostile manner.
- Ignoring arrogant people may be an effective way to get them to stop bothering you, but know that arrogant people have a way of upsetting the mood. So even if they don't talk to you, their presence around you will still annoy you.
- Some people may be so arrogant that you feel they are too negative. These people tend to overestimate the value of their own existence. If this is the case, it's best to avoid them. If this is impossible (for example, you work with them, live with them, etc.) try to be logical when dealing with them, and try to be as non-confrontational as possible.
