Country singer, Hylo Brown, performs a song about a man who is abandoned by his lover because of his arrogance, but is unable to realize his mistake. In everyday life, we often meet people who want to look great, like to argue, or refuse the help of others to cover their shortcomings. This article explains how to build a meaningful and rewarding relationship with an arrogant person.
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Step 1. Be calm
Arrogant people tend to get angry easily and act aggressively because they want to cover up their weaknesses. Do not try to correct the behavior because it will be futile. Instead, try to understand its nature. If you're having trouble talking to him constructively, it's a good idea to understand his refusal for a while.
Step 2. Do good
Doing good will not harm anyone. When you see him again, think about what he likes or how to improve his mood, for example: treating him to coffee, buying him some rye bread, or sharing a useful humor story. Being kind selflessly can change things. When he feels reluctant to ask for help, he may be willing to accept the help (or gifts) of others that are conveyed sincerely.
Step 3. Use intuition
Instead of figuring out the causes of negative behavior, you can observe and analyze to identify the triggers so that you have the intuition to recognize when tensions are rising so that they can be quickly relieved. The following articles explain how to reduce tension:
- How to Defuse Quarrels
- How to Have an Open Mind
- How to Prevent Quarrels with Friends
Step 4. Don't be offended by the negative behavior
Read the wikiHow "How to Avoid Being Offended" so you don't get offended easily because he's not acting this way because of you.
Step 5. Look for things the two of you have in common
Maybe you have to complete a task together in a workgroup, share the same hobby of cooking, like TV shows or the same musicians. If this problem makes you both less cohesive in the workgroup, try to work it out by making an agreement and focusing on getting the job done. If you have to interact with him in a social or family setting, improve the relationship by finding common interests, for example: asking him to cook together at home or buying him a cookbook as a gift.
Step 6. Know your limits
This term is often used in yoga and can be used to establish relationships with arrogant people. In addition to trying to understand their behavior, determine how much you can accept someone with a negative personality. For example: if he is being aggressive, try to avoid politely. Say that you have to complete a task or fulfill an appointment to someone, such as helping with the house cleaning, delivering goods, etc. Set boundaries to protect yourself.
Step 7. Recognize territorial behavior and confrontation techniques
Dealing with a stubborn person doesn't mean being stubborn as well, instead, providing a point of view so that both of you can work things out. If your opinion is better, this can certainly be a joint solution, although it will take time.
Step 8. Communicate clearly, logically, nonjudgmentally, and unemotionally
Learn to accept differences of opinion. To get your emotions under control, read the wikiHow article “How to Maintain Emotional Stability.”
Step 9. Rely on your ability to succeed or do good
Don't be upset if he doesn't appreciate or thank you for your effort or help. Maybe he's feeling grateful, but isn't able to express it in a way that you understand or want.
Step 10. Realize that your relationship with each person is unique and requires different self-carrying skills and interactions
Maintaining good relations with all people requires the ability to reflect, adapt, and generosity. Keep these aspects in mind so that you can build relationships with anyone, including people who are arrogant and difficult to deal with.
Step 11. Ask him to help you
Arrogant people tend to want to control others and feel powerful. However, ask him to give his opinion and respond to show him respect. Everyone will respond well to this!
