Everyone has enemies. However, you must know how to deal with your enemy so that he doesn't interfere with your life so that you can live in peace and security. You can start by learning to understand your enemies, get rid of them, and defend yourself against your enemies if you need to.
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Method 1 of 3: Understanding Your Enemies
Step 1. Find out and understand what kind of enemy you are facing
The enemies around you are different. Depending on who your enemy is and your natural relationship with that enemy, you will need to learn how he or she antagonizes you so that you can deal with it effectively.
- Nemesis is a completely opposite version of you. You can find enemies like this at work, school, and anywhere else where you're bound to be paired with people who think like or similar to you. You've probably heard a lot that you should be able to befriend your arch nemesis -- you have the same interests, goals, and hobbies -- but you don't get along like oil and water.
- Frenemies or are friends you don't like. Indeed, no one wanted to befriend an enemy, not even one of these frenemies status. But when you're with him, he never stops bragging because that's what an enemy is like -- annoying and can depress you.
- Ordinary enemies are people who are difficult to deal with. Common enemies are everywhere, from classrooms to offices, and can pose a serious threat to your abilities, productivity, and mood throughout the day. An enemy is someone who thinks that you want to take away his popularity and so hates and always wants to win over you.
Step 2. Always stay near your enemies
The advice from parents is right -- while keeping your friends close, keep yourself close to your enemies. If you want to face and eliminate your enemy, you must know how to win over him at all costs. That means talking to him, watching him, and learning how your enemy thinks.
- Many bullies, frenemies, and other types of enemies act out of jealousy. Your enemy will often make a fuss about everything in his life that makes him nervous. If your enemy is making a fuss about something, it may mean that your enemy is nervous about something or he just wants to be mean and embarrass you.
- Your enemies also hate people who are perceived as a threat. In the office or any place where competition is involved, your enemies will prevent you from getting ahead or winning over them.
Step 3. Observe your enemy
Analyze how your enemy is blaming you so you can figure out how to retaliate. Who are your friends or associates with? What's his interest? What has your enemy always wanted? Learn the motives of your enemy and what difficulties he has. How is your enemy's life at home? Where did your enemy come from? In essence, do research by answering such questions.
Step 4. Find your enemy's weakness
Everyone, including your enemies, has weaknesses. No matter how strong and superior your enemy is, look for a vital weakness that you can use to plot your revenge and make him feel ashamed and humiliated. Some of the weaknesses that your enemies have include:
- arrogance. Like the ancient Greek story, excessive pride can be a weakness in front of the enemy. If you have an enemy who is arrogant and haughty, humiliating him will be a heavy blow to him.
- Confident. Most bullies are just big babies who have no self-confidence or belief in their own abilities. They are mostly just looking for friends because they feel unloved by most people. Bullying like this may need to be dealt with in a kind way.
- Sense of competition. Most of the people who are your enemies are overly competitive and allow their excessive sense of competition to smother the common sense and kindness they truly possess. Knowing how to get away and silence an enemy like this is the best way to deal with him and keep him from bothering you at all. If you don't follow his game, he can't possibly win with you.
Method 2 of 3: Avenge Your Enemies
Step 1. Ask him to stop being hostile to you
If someone is bothering you and you want him to stop doing it, there's a very effective way to get him to stop: say something he's never heard of. If someone is hostile and bullying you, make body language as if you want to stop something, then take a deep breath, and say "Stop. Now!" in a firm tone.
- If asking him to stop doesn't stop him, keep repeating the same thing. If he feels like he's failing to get you to stop saying the same thing, he'll be dissatisfied with constantly bullying you. After failing to provoke, most bullies usually prefer to leave you alone.
- If a bully makes things worse for him after you asked him to stop, report it to someone else, such as a teacher, parent, or your boss/senior at work. Find someone who can defend you.
Step 2. Avoid your enemies as often as possible
The best way to defeat your enemies is to eliminate them from your life. Avoid your enemy as much as possible so he can't do bad things to you. If you're having a hard time getting away from him, use your observations to find ways to get away from him and spend time elsewhere. Don't give him a chance to find out and do bad things to you.
If you are going to meet your enemy often (eg you are in the same office) and you inevitably have to meet and interact with him, your job will be more difficult, but still doable. The best way to avoid enemies that are near you is not to listen to them. Plug in earplugs when your enemy starts to be mean to you so you can't hear him. Or, find a time when it's impossible for him to see you (eg come to class right before class time so you can find a seat away from him). In essence, pretend that he is not there
Step 3. Be calm
When your enemy is in a confrontation, the best tactic is to remain calm and thick-faced. Don't appear angry, sad, depressed, or trying to fight his argument when he's trying to do something bad to you. Look at him like you feel a little disgusted. Your emotional reactions are like water to plants to your enemies. The more you give, the more his ego grows. So, if you don't give it, the "plant" will die.
- Learn to imagine your enemy doing something ridiculous like singing opera, wrestling, or something that would look weird if he did. Imagine that especially when he's confronting you.
- Do not listen and assume the babble that comes out of his mouth. Try to ignore all the words that come out of him, and focus on listening and turning the words he uses into positive words or lyrics to your favorite song, poem, or prayer.
Step 4. Ignore your enemies
Ignoring your enemies can be an effective way to fight them. Your enemy usually wants to get attention by threatening others so that he stands out in front of others. The best way to deal with such a thing? Just ignore him.
When your enemy appears, act as if nothing happened and no one is near you. Don't give him any reaction when he shows up. Even if your enemy is right beside or in front of you and is calling your name, just ignore him and do something else as if he wasn't calling
Step 5. Find a group or friend who can make you feel safe
You know the phrase “My friend's enemy is also my enemy”? Until now, the sentence is still valid and true. Your enemies may be hostile to other people besides you as well. Therefore, find someone else who equally hates your enemy. Even if you want, plan a revenge with them.
Bullies only want to intimidate lone people who they perceive as a threat. But if you have a group of friends that you always hang out with, you can fend off evil intentions easily. He couldn't possibly face so many people at once
Step 6. Move on. One of the best ways to avenge your enemies is to throw them into your past and move on as individuals. Laugh at how stupid your enemy is, ignore him, and move on with your life better. If your enemies see that they can't interfere with your life, they will feel inadequate or lazy to do something to you.
Step 7. Trick or prank your enemies
In certain situations, the right pranks can be a great way to get back at your enemies. That's a great idea especially if the enemy you're dealing with is someone who is selfish and arrogant who can't stand being humiliated. Some types of pranks you can do include:
- Hack your friend's email or social media accounts and create embarrassing messages or statuses for them.
- Order something embarrassing like a wrestling magazine, adult diaper catalog, or pornographic item, then send it to his office. Make sure you send it to his office so others in his office can see the item.
- Remember, set limits you can prank him. Don't do anything excessive or too evil.
Method 3 of 3: Self Defense
Step 1. Avoid fights, but if you want to fight, learn how to defend yourself
You should as much as possible avoid provocations that could lead to fights. But if he does force you to fight, you'll be more confident if you know a move or two in self-defense. Don't be afraid and be prepared.
Step 2. Learn how to punch
Unlike in movies where a fight can last a very long time, a fight that actually happens very quickly. Knowing how to swing and land a hit properly will ensure you can easily beat your enemy as soon as possible.
- Make a fist by clenching your fingers tightly, but not so tightly that you block air circulation between your fingers. Place your thumbs right on the backs of your knuckles.
- Slightly lean the joint between your lower knuckles and the middle knuckles of your middle finger. This section will be the main part of landing your fists.
- Boxing in a straight line by pulling your elbows back and pushing them forward instead of swinging them to the side. This will make your punches much stronger.
- Aim for the nose, neck, or stomach. Hitting your enemy in the chin, cheek, or forehead area will make your hands hurt. Aim for the weak spots on his body.
Step 3. Learn how to survive
Maintaining good defensive posture is an important part of making a strong hit. Remember, this is not a movie. One punch right in the face can knock you straight to the ground and lose.
- Hold your fist close to your face and focus the weight of your dominant side on your shoulders and waist, aiming that side toward your enemy. Don't put your body directly in front of him. Tilt to the side so that the point he can aim for is less.
- When not swinging a punch, make sure your hands are in line with the chin area with a position slightly to the side.
Step 4. Move forward, not backward
When you punch, move your body toward your enemy while maintaining your defensive posture. Don't let yourself be pushed back. Keep going ahead.
While this move is quite difficult because it may go against your instincts, advancing towards it will make all of its attacks less painful when backing away from it. Go ahead and threaten your enemy so that he retreats. If you get hit, the punch won't hurt as much as it should because the swing isn't perfect
Step 5. Keep moving
If you're in a fight, don't just stand still and take the perfect footing. Standing on the bone under your thumbs, move your body up and down and your head back and forth as if you were dodging an insect that was lunging at you from the front. Move your head so that your enemy is difficult to target and attack him accurately.
Step 6. Continue to stand
Whatever happens, don't fall to the ground. Fighting standing up is the best way to fight an enemy. Avoid wrestling on the ground no matter what.
If you manage to take down your enemy, step back and say that the fight is over. Then leave him
Step 7. Find the fastest way to escape
End the fight as quickly as possible and find the moment to get away and run away. If you manage to bring down your enemy, don't give him a chance to get up and vent his anger. Just say that you don't want to fight anymore and run as fast as you can while you still have the upper hand. By the time he's removed, you should have won and eliminated your enemy.
