While you may not have control over how other people like you, you can influence their decisions in a positive way. Increase the likelihood that someone will like you (either a new friend or a crush) by smiling and being a cheerful person when you're with them. It's also a good idea to find out what he's interested in and encourage him to talk. Whatever happens, make sure you are yourself. If he doesn't like you for who you are, he's not worth fighting for!
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Method 1 of 3: Make Yourself More Attractive and Approachable
Step 1. Maintain good personal hygiene
Before meeting him, keep yourself clean and tidy: take a shower, comb your hair, brush your teeth and floss between your teeth, apply deodorant, and wear clean and fresh clothes. You can also chew mint gum or squirt a little cologne or cologne.
You will feel comfortable when showing a good appearance and body odor. As a result, you will appear more confident and pleasant in the eyes of others
Step 2. Smile when you see it
A real smile reflects interest and joy about him. Therefore, show the charm of your white teeth when you greet him. If you smile when you meet him, you will appear more attractive and fun.
Step 3. Demonstrate good posture and open body language
The way you position your body can make you appear more confident and encourage others to approach you. Sit up straight, pull your shoulders back, and lift your chin. Don't cross your arms or legs. Make eye contact with the other person and turn your face towards him.
- You can also show a more "strong" pose to appear more confident by placing your hands on your hips or folding your arms behind your head to form an inverted triangle.
- Whatever pose you choose, make sure it feels relaxed, and not forced. Forced body language will appear very stiff and make the other person feel that you are acting or faking it. You need to practice open, confident body language when you're alone.
Step 4. Remember his name and something about him
He will feel special if you can remember and use his name. Therefore, try to use his name frequently in conversation. You can also show your interest in him (and eventually make him like you) by sharing what little information you know about him.
- For example, you could say, “Hello, Nono! How was the math exam?" if he told me he had to study for an exam the last time he spoke to you.
- Refrain from snooping on the internet to find out what he's interested in. If you immediately tell him about things he's interested in, while he hasn't told you yet, the situation will feel awkward. He may also conclude that you have an "unhealthy" attraction to him.
Step 5. Respect other people's boundaries and personal space
You need to increase the chances of someone liking you by avoiding any awkwardness or discomfort. Get to know his personal space by standing within (at least) an arm's length away from him while chatting. Also, don't inquire into his personal affairs or discuss sensitive topics.
- Once you're sure that he likes you, you can stand or sit closer to him during a chat.
- Plus, he'll eventually feel more comfortable sharing more personal topics as he gets to know you better.
- Respect for personal boundaries also needs to be applied to social media. Don't flood his social media profiles with your posts or force a virtual relationship beyond what it should be (in the real world). He may view your actions as "out of bounds" and disrespectful.
Method 2 of 3: Show Interest
Step 1. Get him to tell you about his hobbies and interests
If you can find something you're both interested in, that can be a great start to direct the conversation. If not, ask open-ended questions to learn more about what he likes.
- For example, you could ask, "What prompted you to attend this meeting?" or “What music do you like?”
- Open-ended questions require long answers that can keep the conversation going.
Step 2. Demonstrate understanding action
Do something for him without being asked. However, make sure your actions remain polite and appropriate. Choose things that friends or acquaintances usually do, or whatever feels right for your relationship with them.
For example, if he misses a class, ask him if he needs a copy of your notes. If he is sick, bring him warm food (eg chicken soup)
Step 3. Be an attentive listener
People love to talk about themselves so let him talk about himself. Turn your face to him and listen to what he has to say without interrupting him.
- When he pauses, repeat what he's saying in different words to make sure you're listening to his story clearly. This shows that you are really listening to him and gives him an opportunity to clear up any misunderstandings so you can get the full message.
- Listen to him with your whole body. Make eye contact with him, lean slightly toward him, and nod your head when you agree or understand what he's saying.
- Keep in mind that if you spend all your time talking about yourself, you won't get to know him any better, and he may feel that you're not interested in him. Let him tell more.
Step 4. Give him a compliment
Compliments make the other person feel special, and also cultivate feelings of love for you. Comment on his appearance, any special skills he has, or the insights he shows in conversation. Try not to focus on one area only (eg appearance).
You can say, “Your t-shirt is cool! I'm a Harry Potter fan too, you know!" or "Wow, that's a great idea!"
Step 5. Make him laugh
People like other people who can bring joy. Therefore, make a witty comment or tell a joke. Laughing together can strengthen your bond with him. As a result, he will like you more.
Try dancing a little to show your happiness, throw a little tease at him, or send him a funny meme. By making him laugh, you can make him like you even more than before
Step 6. Ask him for help or advice
People are naturally attracted to someone who is receptive to direction and willing to learn. Plus, if someone gives you advice or helps you, they'll feel more connected to you because you're usually helping someone you care about or care about.
You can say, “Hey! I remember you once said that you were good at computers. My laptop keeps crashing. Can you check it out?”
Step 7. Give him some help
The same logic (that someone will like you if you ask them for help) can be applied in reverse. Give him a small favor to make him like you even more.
If you know that he always forgets to bring his pencil to class, prepare a pencil for him. If he's having trouble finding someone to look after his pet on the weekends, offer to help him
Step 8. Prioritize time to spend with him
Generally, people want to spend time with other people which shows that they want to spend time with them too. Therefore, show him that you like his presence. When you're apart, say that you enjoyed the fun with him and can't wait to spend more time with him.
This means you have to show your presence according to speech. If you say you want to take her out on Thursday, don't cancel the plan just because you want to have fun with someone else
Method 3 of 3: Be Yourself
Step 1. Show your uniqueness
You may feel that it's a good idea to be calm and "cool" in front of him. In fact, he too has his own quirks and will feel much more comfortable if you don't hide your uniqueness. Sing a discordant song without shame, admit that you still watch cartoons from your childhood, or tell them that you enjoyed dipping french fries in ice cream.
Sharing the little things that make you unique can bring you closer to him. In addition, a small openness can also deepen your relationship because you may have never told anyone about it
Step 2. Communicate honestly, but tactfully
Most people like someone who can tell something frankly. Lying or falsifying the truth will only make you untrustworthy. Therefore, try to be an honest person. However, you still need to be wise.
For example, if he asks if you like his favorite movies, you could say, “Hmm, it's not really my type of movie, but I was impressed with the main character's personality. He's a cool character. It wouldn't be strange if you liked the movie!” Don't say, for example, "No. I hate that movie."
Step 3. Stand up for your values and beliefs
One of the things that sets you apart are the principles and beliefs you hold dear. It's these things that make you who you are that it's important that you stay true to yourself, even if this honesty runs the risk of making other people dislike you.
Holding on to a belief takes courage. It is not easy to be someone who can stand up to the oppressor or refuse to commit dangerous pranks. Being honest with yourself may make you unpopular with some, but you can also attract the attention of those who share these values
Step 4. Respect yourself
Having a "healthy" respect for yourself allows you to like yourself, despite your flaws. When communicating with others, do not compare yourself to others or belittle yourself in any way.
- Remind yourself of your strengths by writing them down and telling yourself about them. You can say, “I'm a great listener,” or “I can make other people laugh.”
- Respecting yourself also means you shouldn't do things that go against your personal beliefs and values.
- Respect for yourself is the key to earning the respect of others. It will be difficult for others to treat you with respect if you do not treat yourself well.
