You finally got the contact of the woman you like. Then what to do? If you're too nervous to call, try sending a text on your cell phone. But first you have to know how to seduce a woman via text without looking too much. Here are some tips.
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Method 1 of 3: Make a Good Start
Step 1. Be unique
Send unique and unusual messages. Saying hi or hello and sending emoticons are common. Find another way to get his attention and make him think “hey, this guy is interesting,” and then reply to your message. Here are some ways to be a unique person.
- Captivate him with your wit. Making intelligent observations can reveal your unique way of seeing the world.
- Make him laugh. Show that you can be creative and funny even by texting.
- Say something he's never heard of. If you hear news or information that has taken him by surprise, share it.
Step 2. Create good questions
By asking questions, women understand what kind of reply you want to get. You don't want him to be confused about replying to your messages (and maybe not replying in the end). So maybe it's better to ask a clear question. Here are some ways to ask questions.
- Ask about his experience this day or this week. If you know that he or she has recently attended or attended an event this week or today, try asking.
- Make sure that he can answer it easily. Don't ask questions that are too heavy and/or difficult to understand.
- Keep it as simple as possible. You can say a lot in just one sentence.
- Don't be too specific. Don't get too attached to the question. Make questions that are open enough and allow the woman to express herself freely and don't answer with just a word or two. Instead of asking "what time did you get home from the concert yesterday?" try asking "how was the concert yesterday?"
Step 3. Pay attention to the sentences and words you use
This is trivial, but it's a good idea to pay attention to every word you type before sending a message. While you don't have to be a writer to send messages, you do have to show that you care enough about him by crafting good and correct sentences.
Don't be lazy to use punctuation and capital letters. But don't overuse punctuation either. Then, double-check your message before sending it
Step 4. Don't overdo it and pretend
If you put in too much effort, he'll notice and run away. Be natural and don't go overboard with saying things you never said. Women can quickly spot a fake person. So you shouldn't do it.
- Just relax. Don't send messages that are too long and confusing. Send one by one.
- Don't force yourself to be funny. If you're really funny by nature, that's fine. However, if you have to type “hahaha” after making a joke, it's best not to start the joke.
- Remember, the woman you're after may be just as nervous as you are. So relax and be yourself when interacting. Don't push yourself too hard to say the perfect thing.
Method 2 of 3: Keep His Attention
Step 1. Make the conversation interesting
Show that you can have a fun conversation, even if it's just on your phone. That way, he'll be able to think that you can be a fun chat with him the next time you see him in person. Your goal when texting is to tell him a little bit about yourself and make him curious and find out. If interested, he will continue to message or reply to you. Here's how.
- Look for common ground. By having something in common, you have something to talk about. However, look for common ground in light things. Don't try to find common ground on deep topics when messaging.
- Share your interests and passions, whether it's football or cooking, whatever. Maybe he's interested in knowing more.
- If you really have to do something that's your hobby or interest, say so. He can be interested if you really have a life and interests that are involved.
Step 2. Tease him
Flirting with a woman not only makes her want to continue chatting with you, but it also gives an indication that you like her. However, don't overdo it and make him dodge. Here's how.
- Just kidding. If the moment is right, show that you can also joke and make funny comments. Women don't like men who are too serious.
- If you know them well enough, try joking with each other. But make sure he can get along with your jokes and knows that you're not serious and just kidding.
- Feel free to send out emoticons once in a while as a way to flirt. But don't use it too often.
Step 3. Show your concern
There are many ways to show that you care about a woman without showing it outright. Sending messages at the right time shows that you care about them and think they matter. Here's how to show your concern through text messages.
- Value his opinion. Ask her opinion on a specific topic, such as the latest movie or a new song that is currently popular.
- Ask personal questions that are not deep. Ask simple things like what the plan for the weekend.
- Show that you remember the previous conversation. If he ever says that he has an exam next week, don't forget to give him a message of encouragement or pray for him the day before his exam.
Step 4. Don't overdo it
Make sure that your messages are responded to well and that you don't shower them with unwanted messages. You can show that you're interested, but avoid being overly pushy, annoying, or even embarrassing. Here's how to avoid it.
- Make sure the number of outgoing and incoming messages is balanced. If you only get one or two replies after sending ten messages, pause.
- Don't just reply immediately after you receive a reply. If he takes a long time to reply, take it easy. If you reply back immediately after he's been replying for a few hours, you'll come across as being too pushy. Just relax and be confident.
- Avoid excessive emoticons. While occasional use of emoticons is a great way to flirt, don't use them too often.
- Avoid excessive capitalization and punctuation. Giving ten question marks to a question is a strange thing. Do not do it.
Method 3 of 3: End Well
Step 1. End the conversation when it's time
To maintain his interest in you, end the conversation at the right time. Otherwise, he will be bored, busy, or run out of topics to discuss. End the conversation at the right time, and start again another day. Here are some signs you should end the conversation.
- If it's the woman who ended the conversation, then it's a good idea to not text her for a while, until she starts the conversation again herself.
- If you only receive a one- or two-word reply, he may be busy or not interested in texting you.
- If you only get a reply after waiting a few hours or a day, don't push it. Appreciate the life he lives, and live yours too. But do not be discouraged, one day you will definitely get a chance to interact with him.
Step 2. End positively
Make sure once the conversation is over you can easily do it again another day. It's easy; tell him that you can't wait to talk to him again, or tell him what you're going to do later so you can talk to him the next time you talk. Here's a good way to end a conversation.
- Pray for positive things about what he will or is doing (“have fun”, “good luck”, and the like).
- Find a nice way to let him know you're thinking about him.
- Say good morning or good night when appropriate. But of course, don't do it too often in the early stages.
- Tell your destination if you are on the road. Maybe he'll take it as an invitation to meet.
Step 3. If you've been chatting a lot, and it's been going well so far, ask to meet
The right moment will present itself. He may refuse, but that doesn't mean it's over. If he accepts, great. Here's how to invite him.
- You don't have to be too formal. Just tell him where you want to go, then ask him if he wants to come along.
- If you're discussing something deep and detailed, try bringing it up with "let's talk more about this in person at a cafe or restaurant."
Tips
- Don't text too often and expect him to reply to everything. Remember, he also has a life as well as other friends.
- If your message is not answered right away, be patient. Do not send messages that contain only one question mark as a form of asking what is being done.
- Don't think like that. Be yourself.
