Your crush is there, sitting across from you. Close but far. It's just how you start a conversation with him. Not as difficult as it sounds, with a little advice from Wikihow. Start from step 1 to go kissing and holding hands!
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Part 1 of 3: Preparing Yourself
Step 1. Learn about your crush's hobbies and interests
Pay attention to what he does for fun. Ordinary people enjoy talking about things they know and like. Look at the similarities between the two of you for topics to talk about.
For example, find out what extra-curriculars are or what they do on the weekends. You can ask his friend or just pay attention to what he says or does
Step 2. Find out your crush's personality
Is he shy? Or is he very social and extroverted? Looking for clues from his social interactions will give you ideas on how to approach him.
For example, if he is shy. Talking to him in public or showing your strong interest in him will frighten him, and should be avoided
Step 3. Get a rough idea of your crush's schedule of activities
You can start a conversation if you are in the same place and time. This information increases the chances of you “accidentally” running into him!
If just paying attention doesn't work, you can ask a friend to help. A good friend will help his friend to get a girlfriend. Just make sure he's trustworthy
Step 4. Look good to feel good
You want to look your best, to show your crush that they deserve more effort. Being comfortable with your outward appearance will give you confidence! Pay attention to this:
- Hair – cut your hair in an attractive style. But don't be totally different than usual or it will just look weird!
- Clothes – wear clothes that your crush might like. More than that, make sure your clothes are clean, fit on the body, and not wrinkled.
- Cleanliness – shaving and smelling good will help! Check information about body hygiene here.
Part 2 of 3: Talking to Him
Step 1. Choose a time and place
Depending on what you have learned about your crush, this choice of time and place will be very important. If you want an intimate one-on-one conversation, start the conversation with your own crush. If you are in a group or noisy location, the conversation will be more casual.
Step 2. Start the conversation confidently
Speak clearly and make eye contact with him. Your body language will tell you about your interest. A smile really helps!
Remember that he is just an ordinary person, like you. You don't have to be nervous, and even if things don't go as planned, things will still be fine
Step 3. Use open-ended questions
This question cannot be answered with just a yes or no. The point of this is to keep them talking, as this will give you a chance to respond, and start talking!
Open-ended questions usually start with “why” or “how”, or on somewhat complex subjects. For example, you might ask, “What was it like growing up in New York and having to move here?”, “Why did you choose this class?”, or “Did you like working with him?”
Step 4. Listen actively and pay attention to his body language
Try asking follow-up questions about topics that seem interesting to him. Your tone of voice and body language can give you a clue as to how this conversation is going.
If they seem disinterested or bothered, walk away from the front. You certainly don't want to give them the impression that you are very clumsy. Make excuses like, "I have to call my aunt's birthday!" and try again next time
Step 5. Be yourself and let your crush do the same
When the conversation is over, express your opinion and interest while giving him the opportunity to do the same. Just make sure you focus on them at the beginning of the conversation to get to know each other. You certainly do not want them to think that you are only self-oriented.
Part 3 of 3: Conversation Starters
Step 1. Talk about something that happened at school or work
You can start a conversation about that.
- "Are you taking Maths with Mr. Heiser? I'm figuring out whether to take it next semester."
- "Did you know they were going to renovate the break room?"
Step 2. Comment on something happening around you
You can also comment about something happening around you. Just make sure it's not too important or offensive to anyone else.
- "Did you see that? I wish there were more people like him. So nice to see."
- "It's a shame how to talk to him. He deserves more respect for working so hard."
Step 3. Comment something about them
Comment on something like what they wear, asking about their origin. Take a look at what they are very proud of, such as shoes, clothes with band logos.
- "That's a really cool Burning Man shirt. Have you been there? I really wanted to go there too."
- "Sweet Adventure Time. Who is your favorite character?"
Step 4. Ask questions
Ask questions about something they know. This is a great way to talk to him, but the subject needs to be changed quickly if you want the conversation to take place.
- "Do you know where the Smith Building is?"
- "Do you know how to open this? I've had a hard time opening it."
Step 5. Ask for help
Ask him for a small favor, which can be resolved in a moment. People like to feel useful and that will help you start the conversation in a positive light.
- "Can you help me pick up the stuff on top of that?"
- "Can you hold this coffee for a second while I put this thing down? I don't want it to spill."
Step 6. Ask about their history
Ask them why they are at a certain place. For example, if you are at a party, ask how he or she knows the host.
Step 7. Talk about the current event
Talk about something that is fun to talk about. This is a great way to start a serious topic, if you want to really get to know it.
- "Are you with the news about yesterday's demonstration? I was thinking of joining in."
- "Did you hear the news that the toll road will be torn down?"
Step 8. Talk about a movie or TV show
Comment or ask about it, the one you like the most or haven't seen. Get their opinion to start the conversation. Even if they haven't seen it, you can change the topic to another conversation.
- "Have you seen Spiderman? I'm trying to find out if it's worth watching."
- "Tell me you've watched Game of Thrones because I need someone interested in it! You don't? You should. It's amazing!", etc.
Step 9. Praise them
Compliments about things that don't frighten them. Compliment about something they can control like how they dress or what they do, rather than something they can't control like the color of their eyes.
Step 10. Be honest
Just tell him that you want to talk to him because he looks interesting and you want to get to know him. Many people value honesty, especially people who are used to people trying manipulative ways to get to know them.
Tips
- Don't force the conversation. If your crush isn't interested, there could be a reason behind it. Try another time.
- While you want to know a lot of things before your crush starts talking, you don't have to know everything. Too much information about a person can sometimes make him feel uncomfortable.
- Be patient. If the moment is not right, stop and collect your thoughts.
