Perhaps you have observed a beautiful girl in the office. Or maybe you're out of town and find a pretty girl across from you in a room full of people. By following the steps in this article, you will be able to start a conversation with a girl in any situation.
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Method 1 of 4: Flirty Conversation
Step 1. Praise him
Praise sincerely and politely. Tell her that she has a beautiful smile, that you like her necklace or that her laugh is special. Make him feel special. Be careful not to over-praise him, as this will make you appear insincere.
- Try telling her "You have a beautiful smile, there's something special about that smile!"
- Or say "That's a cute dress, red suits you very well."
Step 2. Try seduction words
A good flirt will make a girl laugh and will definitely get her attention. Avoid anything that sounds cheap or scary. The key to successful seduction is confidence, so don't be shy!
- For romantic flirting, try “Hi, I'm Andrew. I think we should at least have a chat before we get married."
- For a unique seduction, try “I can't think of anyone other than you to survive the undead catastrophe.”
- For flattery, try “My friends bet that I won't be able to strike up a conversation with the prettiest girl in the nightclub. Do you want to buy drinks using their money?"
Step 3. Focus on indirect cues
You can use indirect cues, such as body language or facial expressions, to turn a flirty comment into something romantic.
- Keep your body language open and inviting. Maintain good eye contact and smile, smile, smile!
- Gently touch her hand or arm as she talks, this helps to create intimacy and get you out of the friend zone.
- Avoid negative body language such as crossing your arms, frowning or looking down.
Method 2 of 4: Casual Conversation
Step 1. Introduce yourself
Approach the girl you want to talk to, smile and say hello. Say your name and ask for his name. Keep it simple. A polite and sincere greeting trumps seduction.
- In any case, try to get acquainted in person. For example: “Hi, my name is Bob. What is your name?"
- At a nightclub, you can offer to buy him a drink. For example: “Hi, my name is Joe. Can I buy you a drink?”
Step 2. Ask how he is today
Politely asking a girl how her day was or how she was feeling is a great way to get her to talk. It also makes a good impression because it shows that you are genuinely interested in him and are willing to listen to him.
- Simple words like “How are you?” never fail. Be sure to listen to the answers, and questions should be non-rhetorical!
- Ask him “How was your day? Did you do anything fun?” This will encourage him to give more than one word in response and also give you the opportunity to show off your listening skills.
Step 3. Comment on the weather
You can never go wrong with the weather as a topic of conversation, or any other subject based on the facts. Make a comment about the sunny/windy/rainy weather at the time. This will give you a safe topic to break the silence. Once he responds then you can move on to more interesting topics.
- Turn it into a question, not a statement. Say something like "Today's a beautiful day isn't it?" or “I hope the rain stops soon, how about you?” This will give him the opportunity to respond to you.
- If you don't like the approach of using the weather topic, try another safe topic. For example, you can comment about your surroundings. At a nightclub, you can say something like "Wow, there's a lot of people tonight, right?"
Step 4. Ask questions about class or work
Finding some common ground can help with awkward situations in a conversation. Ask him questions about work or class to keep the conversation going.
- If you're taking the same class, ask him what he thinks about the class, if he likes the professor teaching, or if he's interested in anything you're currently studying. Say something like “Do you know the topic of next semester's essay? Have you already chosen which topic to write about?”
- If you're working together, ask him if he's working on an interesting project at the moment.
Step 5. Talk about the latest movies and music
' Talking about the latest movies and music is a smart way, and will indirectly indicate a personal hobby. By finding out what kind of movies or music he likes, you can get an idea of him and what he likes. Valuable information like this can help you plan awesome future dates!
- For television shows, ask something like “Do you watch Mad Men? Who is your favorite character?”
- For music, ask “Have you heard Daft Punk's new album yet? What do you think?"
- For the film, “Have you seen Tarantino's latest film? I heard that the film was really great!”
Step 6. Mention upcoming events
Mentioning an upcoming event, such as a music festival or an exam, that will be a topic to talk about with the girl and can make both of you excited or nervous. This will create a connection between the two of you and allow the girl to see how much you have in common!
- If you're both taking the same exam, you can say something like "I'm scared of the math exam next week. I'm not good with algebra! How do you feel about this?”
- If you're talking about music, you can mention upcoming festivals. Say something like “Are you going to Coachella this year? I went with a group of friends last year, we had so much fun! What band would you like to see?”
- If you're going on vacation soon, you can say something like “I can't wait for Halloween next week. My friend had a party at her house and I had prepared a wolf costume. Did you do anything fun?”
Method 3 of 4: Friendly Conversation
Step 1. Mention a friend you both know
Bringing a friend you both know into the conversation will help you get closer to the girl, even if you don't really know her. The girl will feel more comfortable, because you no longer seem like a stranger! Having friends in common also gives you something (or someone) to talk about.
- Try saying something like “I heard you are good friends with Allison. How do you two know each other?”
- Or “Oh so you know Dan? Dan and I have known each other for a long time! He's a funny person isn't he?”
Step 2. Talk about experiences
Talking about an experience – be it working as a volunteer or growing up on a farm – will help to create a connection between the two of you and spark the beginning of a bond.
- If you notice that you both grew up on a farm, you can say something like “No way! I am also the same! The worst time was in the morning, my dad would wake me up at 5 am every day during the summer to help him! How about your experience?”
- If you are both working as volunteers for a project, you might say something like “I thought it was a very rewarding experience. What inspired you to get involved?
Step 3. Ask interesting questions
Asking unconventional or thoughtful questions can avoid awkward situations and give the girl a chance to say what's on her mind. This will give the girl a chance to express herself while you make a good impression by asking interesting questions.
- Try something like “If you could be an animal, what kind of animal would you be?”
- Or something like “Which five places would you like to visit before you die?”
- Or maybe “Have you ever considered skydiving?”
Step 4. Talk about a common hobby
Finding out that you share a common hobby is a great conversation material and will really help you start bonding with the girl. It doesn't matter what hobby it is – be it reading, running, rowing or rock climbing – the most important thing is that it is your same hobby.
- If you find out that you both love running, you can ask him what his favorite route is, or if he's ever considered training for a marathon.
- If you both like reading, you can ask him who his favorite author is or what he thinks of the latest film adaptation of the famous novel.
- If it's something truly unique, ask him how he got involved in it and compare the stories!
Step 5. Ask personal questions
If things are going well and you both seem to like each other, it might be time to get a little more personal. Remember that the goal is to show that you are interested in him and want to get to know him better, not to make him feel uncomfortable. Don't ask a question that you wouldn't feel comfortable answering yourself.
- Keep the questions positive! Don't ask her what her biggest fear or biggest secret is, ask her about her hopes for the future or where she sees herself in ten years. Leave it to him whether he wants to take it seriously or keep it casual.
- Try asking about his family, starting with something simple and less offensive like "Do you have any sisters or brothers?"
- If you want to find out if he already has a partner or not, ask him "Are you close to anyone right now?"
Method 4 of 4: Overall Behavior
Step 1. Be confident in what you do
The basic key to all seduction is self-confidence. What women want is a man who is comfortable with himself, a man who is happy, established and confident.
- Update your clothing collection. When you feel good about how you look, you will naturally become confident, so leave your pants that are too big and invest in pants that are good quality, and in the right cut to help you look and feel like James Bond.
- Speak clearly and confidently. This doesn't mean talking through other people or interrupting them constantly, just try to speak a little louder than usual. Avoid overusing “like” and “you know” sentences.
Step 2. Listen carefully
Try not to dominate the conversation. Ask lots of questions and listen carefully to the responses. Listening to his response will show that you are interested in him as well as what he has to say.
Step 3. Stay engaged in the conversation
Open up about yourself, giving the girl more reasons to like you. Respond to his questions and let him know more about you, the goal is to engage and interact with him, not bore him.
Step 4. Make eye contact
Maintaining good eye contact will make you appear attractive and more trustworthy. Looking someone in the eye will come naturally when you feel comfortable and confident. Be sure to look the girl in the eye when one of you is talking, but remember to look away when the conversation is not going on.
Step 5. Smile
Smiling makes you look happy, approachable and more attractive. That's the kind of guy girls want to be around, so flaunt your big smile.
Step 6. Avoid “yes” or “no” questions
Questions that can only be answered with a "yes" or "no" are not a recipe for engaging in conversation. Closed questions are not effective at getting the girl you like involved in the conversation. Try more interesting, open-ended questions that require longer and thoughtful answers. Closed questions only have the potential to be used in the early part of a conversation so they put less pressure on them. Starting a conversation with a stranger can be a very awkward experience and it will be even more awkward to pressurize with open-ended questions which can be counterproductive. You can start with open-ended questions like “Is this your first time here?” or “How are you?” to become more comfortable with the situation before you move on to more open-ended questions.
Step 7. Avoid controversial topics
Bringing up controversial topics in conversation can make them feel awkward, uncomfortable, or angry. Avoid asking his opinion on topics like politics or religion at the start of a conversation or any relationship you're trying to create will risk failing before you even begin.
Tips
- You should appear interested but not overly excited. If other people are competing for their attention, be willing to walk away from them so you don't look like you're desperate. Most girls like a challenge, so your willingness to walk away during the conversation can make them more attracted to you.
- If the girl seems interested in you, take the plunge and ask for her number. The next day, send him a text message saying you enjoyed talking to him.
- Send him a text message two hours later that says; "Hey I really enjoyed talking to you today, would you like to meet again another time?" This way he will know that you are "interested" in him.
- If you know him well enough, try to ask him questions without being rude.
- Comment on something the two of you are working on. If you take the same bus, comment about the driver or make jokes about traffic jams. If the two of you are in line for coffee, make a joke about the long line or ask him what coffee he bought.
