Do you like an amazing man and wonder if he feels the same way? If so, then there's no need to worry – help is coming soon. If you want to find out if he really likes you, then you have to pay attention to what he does, what he says, and how he behaves around you. As long as you don't do it too flashy, you'll quickly find out how he really feels. See step 1 to get started and to find out how your crush really feels right now.
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Part 1 of 3: Watching What He Does
Step 1. Pay attention to his body language
Body language often reflects how a man really feels – no matter how hard he tries to hide it. Although body language doesn't always tell you exactly how he really feels, you can still predict whether he's looking at you in a special way or not. Here are some signs that may reflect that he likes you:
- His hips are pointing at you even though he's facing a different direction from you.
- He will look at you, smile, and will look down.
- If he catches you looking at him, he'll smile.
- He will never put his hands in his pockets or cross his arms while he is talking to you.
- He may lean towards you when he is talking to you.
- He may point his feet towards you. If his feet are pointing elsewhere while you're sitting next to each other, he may not be interested in you.
- He may inadvertently elbow you while you're talking, or gently touch you with his hand.
Step 2. Watch when he passes you
If he's traveling the longer distance to his class just to run into you, or he's offering to walk you to class when your class isn't close to him, he probably likes you. He may make excuses for why he's suddenly around you, such as asking to borrow a book you know he has. This will be his way of letting him know that he wants to spend more time around you.
- See if he offers to drive you home when he lives on the other side of town.
- See if he waits for no apparent reason just until you appear before him
Step 3. Notice if he treats you differently from his friends
The bigger the difference, the bigger the probability. For example, he may often burp or swear in front of his friends. But he tries very hard not to do it around you. If he's trying to put on his best attitude, he probably likes you. If he thinks of you as “one of his friends”, then he won't try to be very nice around you.
If he treats you just like a friend, swears, burps and tells you about his crush, you may have entered the “friends only area.”
Step 4. See if he is being nice to your friend
If you're having a joke with your friend and the guy is in on it, pay attention to how he treats your friends. If he likes you, then he wants to make a strong impression so your friends will tell you he's absolutely amazing. Men know that women love to talk, and if he likes you, he'll be smart enough not to show your friends a cold attitude. The next time he hangs out with you and your friends, see if he becomes more polite to them and does things out of the ordinary to be nice to your friends.
The same situation applies to your family members. If around your mom and siblings he tries very hard to be nice, he's probably doing it because he likes you
Step 5. See if he wants you to meet his friends
If he likes you, then he wants to show you off to his friends. If he's being cautious when he wants to see his friends, it may be because he just wants to have some time with his male friends–or because he likes that time to be close to other women. But if he wants to introduce you to his friends, that's a great sign. It means he wants to show you off–and that he doesn't think you're an obstacle for him to approach other potential women.
There's one exception to this rule: he probably doesn't want you to see his friends because he's too shy of them!
Step 6. See if he always does your request
If he likes you, then he will always find a way to do sweet things for you. He'll probably get you lunch when you're having a busy day. He might do your homework for you when you're not in school because you're sick, or he might give you a ride when you need it. Think about it: is he just a nice guy, or is his attitude towards you suggesting something more? If he's always doing nice things for you and doesn't bring anyone lunch, then chances are he really likes you.
He may text you asking if there's anything he can do to help make an excuse to talk to you. If he's trying to spend as much time around you as possible to the point of helping you, maybe he's really in love with you
Step 7. See if he always ends up a bunch with you
The next time you're out with another guy and some of your friends, see if he ends up coming your way. If it feels like he's always by your side in the group, it's likely because he's in love with you. In other words, why does he only talk to you and not to his friends or other women around him?.
This may not happen quickly, but if you find that you always end up having long conversations with him late into the night or sitting next to each other when the rest of the group of friends are out having fun, then this could be a sign that he is likes you
Step 8. See how he reacts around other women
This can be a big sign of his true feelings for you. If he's just a great seducer, then he'll treat every girl the same way he treats you. If he flirts, seduces, and does things like compliments, and pays a lot of attention to every woman he meets when he meets you, then he's probably not distinguishing between you. But if you're the only woman he's flirting with–“or the only woman he cares about”–then it could be a sign that he likes you. He may like you and therefore feel too shy to seduce you compared to other women he doesn't really care about.
This can be confusing, but it can make sense. The point is to find out if he treats you differently from other women
Step 9. See what he does when he's separated from you
When you are not in his eyes, are you not in his mind? If you and he haven't seen each other in a while and he doesn't even ask how you're doing, then you probably aren't on his mind. But if it turns out that he's texting you, calling you, or just showing up to say hello when you and he haven't been out for a while, then maybe he's in love with you. The same goes for social media–if he comments on your Facebook posts or likes a lot of your Tweets, it could be his way of letting you know that he cares about you.
If you're online, see if he's trying to greet you on Gchat or Facebook. This could be another sign that he wants more status than his current relationship with you
Step 10. Be aware of the things the two of you often do together
Another way to see if he really likes you is to see if you've been on a date before without you even knowing it. If much of your outing with him has led to close, dating-like relationships, then it's possible that he likes you. Here are a few things to note:
- Do you go out for coffee and lunch in the context of a date? If he sees you during the day, not after he's had a few drinks with his best friend, then chances are he sees you as the girl he deserves to be in a relationship with.
- Do you often go out together? Are you going to watch a movie at the cinema? Going for a walk? Just watching television together? Guess what--perhaps you've been on a date without you even knowing it.
- Does he plan to go out with you in the future? If so, maybe he's really serious about making sure he gets to spend time with you.
Step 11. See if he's trying to impress you
If he really likes you, maybe he's trying to show off his strengths when you're with you and let you know how amazing, reliable, and brave he is. This may be out of date or not applicable to all men, but it may just be because he's just trying to make sure he gets your attention. When he does these things, see if he makes sure that you pay attention to him. Here are some things he might do in front of you:
- Casually showing his strengths, such as playing basketball or soccer.
- Often picks up a guitar and starts strumming it.
- Jump from a high place into the water to show you how brave he is.
- Challenge his friends to a friendly match or contest.
Step 12. See if he laughs louder around you
Of course, you'll probably be the next Sarah Silverman, but if she's laughing around you all the time, it could mean that she's laughing because she likes you and naturally gets nervous around you. If he laughs more than usual at your usual jokes, or even laughs a little at general comments that aren't even funny at all, then this could be a sure sign that he likes you.
The next time the two of you are together, notice how much he laughs. Try watching him when he's with other people – does he always laugh a lot, or does his laugh only get more intense around you?
Step 13. See if he behaves nervously around you
If he really likes you, he'll probably be more nervous than usual because he's afraid to mess it up. He'll probably laugh more often, sure, but he'll also probably stammer, forget what he was going to say, ask you the same thing twice in ten minutes, repeat himself, stutter for no apparent reason, or generally just acting nervous and attractive because he really cares about what you think of him.
When you're around, pay attention. Is he restless? Did he take a while to ask the question? Did he comment self-deprecatingly? If so, it could be because he likes you and doesn't really know how to act
Step 14. See if you see he is watching you
This could be another big sign. If you are in the same class or if you are in the same place, see if you can see him looking at you. This is a surefire way to see if he has feelings for you. The only problem, if you're always trying to get him to look at you all the time, then he might think that you like him…and it's true! But if you can do it sensibly, see if he sees you the next time you two are close to each other.
If he notices you're watching him and his face turns red and immediately looks down at the floor and looks down, then this is an added sign that he likes you
Step 15. See if he often brushes his hair around you
If he likes you, then this is normal behavior and he will care more about how he looks around you. You'll probably find him doing a few things while you're with him:
- Doing hair with his hands
- Trying to tidy up her clothes and clean up any stains.
- Always secretly checking her appearance in the mirror.
Part 2 of 3: Pay Attention to What He Says
Step 1. Watch how he talks to you
If a guy calls you by your nickname, but suddenly calls you a new nickname, or refers to you by your pet's name, this is a big sign. Anything he says that makes you feel special and shows he cares about you can tell you he likes you.
- Also pay attention to when he says your name more often than he needs to.
- See if he speaks slowly and more often in a softer tone when speaking to you. This means that he takes great care of you because he likes you.
- See if he makes eye contact when he talks to you. While he may look away a few times, eye contact shows that he's paying attention to you.
Step 2. See how long it takes him to talk to you
When you know he's in the same room as someone else, pretend you're not aware of him. See how long it took him to find you and how long it took him to come and greet you. If it's less than a few minutes then he might be interested. However, if it takes longer just to say hello to you, it's probably just because he's really shy.
You can also try to see how he reacts when you enter the room. Does his face look happy, or does his face not react at all?
Step 3. See if he talks about other guys in a negative tone in front of you
Whenever you hear him say something negative about another guy, it means that he sees this guy as a threat–especially if this other guy knows you well. He clearly wants you to only pay attention to “him”, not anyone else. If you mention a guy friend to him and he immediately becomes suspicious, it may be because he thinks you have romantic feelings for another guy.
- If he finds out that you're going out on a date and often says things like, “that guy isn't good enough for you,” then he's just trying to tell you that he thinks he's actually a good enough guy for you.
- He may want to tease you about you liking a guy who is just your friend. This can be another way of showing that he is thinking about a relationship with you.
Step 4. See if he's always teasing you
If he really likes you, then he will always make fun of you all the time, you might think that he is just being mean or just making fun of you, but if you can see that he pays special attention and is always mocking you, it's probably because he thinks that you are like his brother's son. If you see that he is really mean to you, gives you funny nicknames, likes to make fun of your appearance, or in other words makes fun of you, then it's probably that he really likes you. Because why did he put so much effort into it?
Teasing is a big part of flirting. Maybe you won't even notice that he's thinking about flirting with you while he's having fun teasing you
Step 5. See what he has to say about other women to you
This can be a big sign of his feelings for you. He could mention all the interesting things he has to attract women in an attempt to impress you, when he really just wants you to go after him. He can also tell you that he can't find the right woman because he just wants to be with you. If you find him saying there's no other nice/attractive/cool/beautiful woman he's met like you, then yes, he's basically telling you that he wants to date you.
If he frequently says things like, “I can't seem to find the right woman…” then this could be his way of telling you that the right woman is standing right in front of him
Step 6. See if he really opens up to you
If the guy really likes you, then he may start to open up to you and treat you as more than just a friend (make sure he doesn't just see you as a good friend.) If he wants to take it to the next level, he might starts telling you that he won't be that easy to tell other people. Here are some things he might talk to you about if he's attracted to you:
- His childhood.
- Hope for the future.
- Relationships with family and friends.
- Some of his hobbies are weird or tacky.
- Whatever is said after, "I've never told anyone this before…"
Part 3 of 3: Ask Him If He Likes You
Step 1. Make sure you ask it directly
In the end, the best way to really tell if he likes you is to ask him. Don't ask his friend, don't ask your friend to ask him on your behalf. Don't ask her via message or text, but be brave and approach her and ask in person. If he's too shy to do anything about it, then your future relationship potential is in your own hands, this isn't as scary as it sounds.
Step 2. Find the best place and time to ask him
Her place doesn't have to be the most perfect, magical place, but choose a place where you can get some privacy without being disturbed by the friends around you and a time where she's not stressed and has to rush somewhere. If you want to bring out the romantic factor, you can ask her in the afternoon or somewhere special to both of you.
Step 3. Just come and say
Make small talk but then ask how he feels about you. You can tell him that you have feelings for him and just want to know if he feels the same way. Make eye contact, but don't put pressure on it. Try to keep things relaxed and ask him how he feels without pressure.
Step 4. React moderately
If it turns out that he likes you too, then you can personally celebrate. You can both decide what the next step is after this. But if not, it's not the end of the world, and you don't have to torture yourself wondering what he's thinking anymore. Be proud of yourself for being brave and being able to ask him questions and keep moving forward.
Tips
- Don't be cold to him. He may think that you don't like him.
- Don't try to act like you don't like him, or he'll think so.
- Don't ruin your friendship in the process of going after him.
- If you ask him if he likes you, or your friend does and he says no, that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. It could mean that he's just embarrassed or wants to keep it a secret. Sometimes, men want to have a secret relationship.
- Don't try to make him jealous.
- If he's flirting with you about you liking another guy, he's trying to figure out your reaction to another guy, which he sees as a potential threat.
- Sometimes the best thing to do is to ask, and in person.
