If you're in 5th grade, then this is the age when boys start showing interest in girls, and it can be very difficult to figure out how to get her attention. You may be somewhere in between teasing and teasing and may not know how to keep his interest. The most important thing is that you are comfortable with yourself and don't change yourself just for him. More than that, all you have to do is smile, be friendly, and show the boy that you're more than just pretty. So how do you get the boy you like in 5th grade? See step 1 to find out.
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Method 1 of 3: Getting His Attention
Step 1. Let him see you enjoying your time
If you want the boy to like you, then he has to see you as a fun girl to hang out with. You don't want him to see you as a child who depends on others for pleasure, or as a shy, worried person. You want to look at you and think, “Hey, that girl is always laughing and having fun. I have to meet him. It has to be genuine – you have to aim to be a person who enjoys time, whatever it may be.
- This doesn't mean you have to fake a smile when you don't want to. But you should try to generate positive action by focusing on the things that make you happy in the conversation rather than complaining on the little things.
- Even if you're alone or on a math test, try to look on the bright side and keep smiling. Not all moments in life are beautiful, but you can think of something to look forward to later as you struggle to stay positive.
- When you walk to class alone, you don't have to laugh alone, but you should avoid looking down, looking bored, or unfocused. If you avoid distractions, look ahead with a happy face, or at least a natural face, the boy will notice you.
Step 2. Have confident body language
When it's time to show you're confident, body language is half the battle. You should walk with a straight posture and avoid slouching, whether sitting or standing. Keep your arms at your sides instead of bent in front of your chest to make you appear approachable. Look ahead when alone or make eye contact when talking to other people, don't look at the floor. Even if you don't always feel confident, showing confidence with your body language will make you feel more secure.
- Another way to have confident body language is to not fidget. Avoid biting your nails, playing with your clothes or hair, or anything that makes you look nervous.
- When standing in a group of people, try to stand up straight rather than snuggle up to make yourself appear comfortable.
Step 3. Don't be afraid to smile at him
You may be shy, but a small smile can get him to notice you. All you have to do is smile at him when making your contact, and this will make you appear more friendly and approachable. You shouldn't be trying to get his attention and smiling all the time, but you should be trying to smile at him at the right time. You should do this when you meet her in the corridor, to make her look friendly.
If you're really embarrassed about this, you can give him a smile and then look away. You don't need to be too passionate, the goal is to appear friendly and approachable so that he notices you and wants to get to know you better
Step 4. Stand out in front of it
In order for him to notice you, you have to make him see that you are different. You don't need to show off of course. If you like fashion, let her see a dress or necklace you made yourself. If you like football, talk about how you really like the sport, or even invite him to watch you. If someone is known to be humorous, make a funny joke in front of him. The goal is for him to see you as someone different from the others so he wants to get to know you better.
- Don't show off. Try to talk about your passion for something, not how great you are at it.
- Don't do this just to stand out. Coloring your hair is not a great idea. Remember if you're just doing things just to get his attention, he'll know.
Step 5. Don't use your friend to talk to him
At your school, it's very common to ask friends to talk to the boy you like. You can ask if he likes you. However, if you want to impress him, then you shouldn't ask your friends to do it. Show that you're more mature than girls your age and comfortable enough to talk to boys face-to-face.
- Whether you say hello or even say you like him, you have to say it yourself. He will be impressed by this and will want to get to know you better.
- Asking your friend to write him a message, or even writing your own, also makes you seem afraid to talk to him. Take a deep breath and talk to him directly.
Step 6. Amaze him with your confidence
Boys can be very impressed with a girl who knows herself and is happy with herself. While developing self-confidence takes time, you can work on loving yourself and your life, so you can use your energy to make other people feel like they like themselves too. If you want a boy to notice you, then he has to see you smile, be proud of yourself, and give positive energy to those around you. Here are some ways to impress a boy with your confidence:
- Don't humble yourself in front of him. Focus on the good in you, without showing off. Condescending yourself will put him in an awkward position, and you want him to feel comfortable, and not to feel like you need him to be proud of who you are.
- It's okay if you get a little nervous when you talk to him. If you forget what you're about to say, or mumble to yourself, make sure you can laugh at yourself and cover it up. It's okay if he thinks you're not the smoothest person in the world; what matters is that he sees you as a person who is comfortable with who you are.
- When you talk about other girls, talk about positive things. Don't badmouth them because you look insecure.
Step 7. Be kind to everyone who deserves it
Don't think you have to be the bad girl or make other people look stupid to get attention. If he's a nice guy, he'll be more impressed if you're a nice girl than if you like to put other people down. Try to be friendly to everyone who is nice to you, or even to someone who is shy. If you are a nice person, then the boy will be interested in getting to know you.
- Everyone has their own reputation. If you are known as a snob, then the boy will know. Try to be genuinely friendly to everyone so that you are more open to new friendships and experiences. You don't have to be too open either. Simply saying hello to other people and asking how they are can make you a good person and like to make new friends.
- If you hang out with friends who are gossipy and mean to others, ask yourself if you would want to be friends with someone like that. Even if you don't go along with doing bad things, it's not fun to hang out with rude people.
Method 2 of 3: Keeping His Interests
Step 1. Ask her a question
If you want the boy to like it, then it's not about making him feel like you're an extraordinary person. You have to show interest in him too. To do this, you can ask him questions about his life to keep him interested and show that you are more than just beautiful. Make sure there's a balance between talking about yourself and asking her. He will love talking to you. Here are some questions you can ask:
- What did he do last weekend
- The plan is in the school holidays later
- The pet
- His favorite band, TV show, movie or book
- Hobby
Step 2. Don't come on too intensely
Another way to keep him interested is to not come on too intensely. You can compliment him and show him you like him if he shares his interest, but you shouldn't cling to him and spend all the time with him. Give him time to miss you, think about what you're doing, and appreciate that you have a private life. If you fill your life with him, then he will soon lose interest. You don't want to think that you're being too pushy. Even if you really like him, you should wait for the relationship to deepen before sharing your true feelings.
One way to avoid getting too intense is to not text or check on them all the time. You can say hello to her, but don't make it seem like that's all you do when you're not with her
Step 3. Make him feel special
If you want to keep him interested, then you have to make him feel that he is special to you. If he starts to treat you like you're special to him, then you should do the same, paying more attention to him in a group, asking what he's doing, giving gentle compliments about his clothes or something less personal. If you want him to be around you, you have to show him that you care. You don't have to say it outright, show it with your actions.
- If you're in a group, pay more attention to him than the other boys, but don't be around him all the time. Sometimes he is the one who has to take the first step to come to you.
- Don't give him the same compliments others give him. Show that you are different from the others.
Step 4. Find common ground
Another way to keep his interest is to find common ground. Maybe not everything has to be the same, but having a few things to talk about can help you connect and keep the conversation going. Don't worry if you feel like a different person and have nothing to talk about. When you've relaxed a bit and the conversation continues, you'll find some things in common more than you might think. Here are some similarities you can find, which will give you plenty to talk about:
- Favorite sports team
- Favorite TV show or movie
- Favorite band
- Favorite video game
- Pet
- Same friend
- hobby
Step 5. Be a good listener
When talking to him, put away the phone or anything that interferes with your listening. Let him finish speaking before interrupting. Don't say that you know how he feels every time he shares his emotions with you. Show that you care about him and what he has to say instead of talking about yourself. Make eye contact, turn your body towards him, and give him your full attention.
- Remember that this has to go both ways; You have to listen to him as he listens to you too.
- Pay attention to what he says so you can ask him again later. If he tells you he has a football game this week, you can ask him if he won next week. This shows that you really pay attention to what he says and what he says means to you.
Step 6. Don't gossip or put other people down
If you want the boy to continue to be attracted to you, then you must avoid gossiping or saying bad things about people you both know, or you'll get a bad impression. If you keep gossiping about other people, he'll think you're a bad person and don't care about other people. He'll also notice that you're not comfortable with yourself and like to put other people down to look great. You should avoid being like this and try to talk only about the things you like.
- If other people around you are gossiping, it's better to leave or even give another opinion. You don't want to look like a follower.
- Boys don't like drama. If you gossip in front of them, they will think you are a drama person, and they will usually back off because of this.
Step 7. Don't do things you're not comfortable with
Even if you're in 5th grade, and most people still haven't kissed or done anything else, some boys are ready to do more. You should kiss him when you're ready, and don't do it just to maintain his attraction. If the boy you like only likes you when you kiss him, then he doesn't deserve you. Make sure you're completely comfortable before doing anything with him, and because you really want to, not because you're under pressure. The best way to keep him interested is to believe in your stance and stick with what you believe is right.
If the boy pressures you to do something before you're ready, calmly tell him you're not interested. Keep your head up and don't let him get to you. You will feel better in the long run
Method 3 of 3: Making this Last
Step 1. Be a fun person to hang out with
5th grade boys tend not to be serious in life, they just want a girl to have fun with. They're not at the age to spend all their time alone with girls, and they're not ready for a serious relationship. They prefer girls who are cheerful, have fun friends, spontaneous and willing to try new things. If you tend to be worried and reserved by nature, that's okay; You can't change yourself, but you can try to reduce negative comments if you do this often.
- It's not already for you to laugh out loud. Don't hold yourself back for something funny and show that you're having a good time.
- One way to be a nice person is to make people feel comfortable. Make eye contact with him, ask them questions about him, introduce them to each other if they don't know each other. Make them feel at home, and they will be more relaxed and have more fun.
Step 2. Be friendly with his friends
If you want the boy to like you for a long time, or even ask you out, then you should try to be friendly to his friends. While this can be a little difficult at first, especially if you don't know them, you should try your best to make a positive impression on the person who is important to them. If their friends think you're mean to them, too controlling, or annoying, they'll tell them and maybe influence them. Unless they are really bad people, you have to stay on their good side and show that you are a good person.
- If their friends are bad boys, you don't have to please them just to impress them. But if they're a good kid, then you have to be good too, even if you don't have much in common.
- Don't get frustrated if this takes a lot of work. It's natural for both men and women to be uncomfortable talking at first.
Step 3. Don't leave too much for him
If you want to keep him interested. Then you have to keep doing your activities. Don't stop talking to your friends, spending time with your family, practicing swimming, or whatever else you enjoy because you're suddenly spending time with them. Even though you have to spend some time with him sometimes, you shouldn't give up everything you care about for the boy. He will appreciate you more because he sees you can still do your activities while in touch with him.
- Your friends will always be you for you no matter what. Don't be the girl who forgets her friends to go out with the boys and then comes back to them when the relationship ends.
- Doing what you love, like playing the piano or drawing, makes you who you really are. If you stop doing this just because of a boy, you've given up on losing a part of yourself.
- If you both like to spend time together, then you can involve him in your activities, such as watching a movie you like.
Step 4. Checks when he is not you
If you want this relationship to continue, then you have to ask how he's doing when you're not with him. This can be done when you are separated a few weeks during the school holidays. You shouldn't be in contact with him all the time or every day, but just a short message or Facebook message, or even a phone call to show that you're thinking about him. Make sure that he reciprocates your feelings and does the same, so that there is balance in your relationship.
- If he tells you he has a basketball tournament this weekend, send him a text to ask how it went. But don't send that message right before the game or he could get nervous.
- It is a bit difficult. You want to check on him to show that you care, but you don't want it to be so much that he feels like you're spending a lot of time thinking about him.
Step 5. Don't take this too seriously
You're still in 5th grade and the chances of this relationship getting serious are slim. If he's not interested, then smile, take a breath, and get ready for another boy. You shouldn't be too disappointed. The important thing is that you enjoy your time at school and your friendships. As long as you're still dating often, you'll have plenty of opportunities in front of you!
