When your child begins to learn about the environment around them, they automatically develop various traits and defense mechanisms. While some children appear confident and start to be independent at an early age, others remain stubborn, seeking safety, protection, and solace. Want to help your child to stop being stuck and become independent? Start from Step 1.
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Method 1 of 4: Part 1: Understanding the Nature of Your Child's Cock
Step 1. Accept the nature of the plug
This trait is considered normal at this stage of development. Children go through this stage at different levels, but this is completely normal and there is nothing to worry about. Do not reject or punish your child just because he is a jerk. You will only make the child more afraid and feel neglected.
Step 2. Try to find the cause of the nature of the plug
You may notice that there are certain conditions that make your child nervous and so uncomfortable that it becomes a jerk. What situation made him that way? Is it time to socialize with other children? When you go to school? See if you can identify the common cause, then try to talk to the teacher or caregiver if he's still behaving the same way when you're not with your child?
Step 3. Evaluate your own attitude
Is it possible that your attitude unwittingly makes your child a joke? Many parents are overprotective, the goal is for children to avoid feeling uncomfortable and injured. You should need to relax a little so that the child can develop his independence slowly.
Method 2 of 4: Part 2: Dealing with the Nature of the Coll
Step 1. Avoid situations that could cause your child to become a jerk
Meanwhile, it's a good idea to avoid this situation. If a busy playground or socializing with certain people makes things worse, move immediately so your child can learn to be independent.
Step 2. Prepare your child for potentially uncomfortable situations
If the situation is unavoidable, prepare your child for it. Explain where you are going, what you are going to do, and what attitude you expect.
If your child seems upset when you have to go and hand it over to the caregiver, take the time to explain. Tell them that you understand their feelings and that it's okay. Don't forget to persuade them with all the fun they have, and that you will come back again. Don't run away silently, just explain it to them. Running away will only make your child distrust you
Step 3. Don't be overprotective
Offer them some freedom and the opportunity to be independent under certain conditions. You must learn to let go of worry and fear before your child does the same.
Step 4. Support your child
Children who are actually just looking for protection and a sense of security. Do not be rejected and indifferent. It will only make his behavior worse. Occasionally hug and comfort them as a form of support.
Step 5. Take your child's emotional state seriously
Try to understand her fears and anxieties. Explain to him that all is well, but without ignoring that feelings exist. Tell them that you understand them, even if on the one hand you lead them to self-study.
Step 6. Don't punish a child who is a jerk
Don't make them feel more helpless because they need you. Punishment does not improve the situation.
Method 3 of 4: Part 3: Supporting Independence
Step 1. Slowly move away from your child
If your child experiences excessive anxiety when parting with you, try to move away slowly. Leave the child for a few minutes, then come back. Increase the time, and repeat several times until they finally get used to being away from you for a while.
Step 2. Create a routine together
Children are usually not used to change. For that, try to make a habit. That way they will know what happened next. Explain to them, for example, every day after lunch, you will wash the dishes and they can play alone first.
Step 3. Give them small tasks that make them independent
Help increase their confidence. For example to tidy up their toys while you prepare dinner. These small accomplishments will increase their self-confidence and independence.
Step 4. Offer plenty of playtime and socializing
Playgroups can help them communicate with other children, some of whom are more independent. This opportunity can help your child have fun and forget for a moment their excessive need for you.
If your child suddenly becomes excessively fussy, keep them company for a while. Then, slowly drift away as they begin to feel comfortable with their surroundings
Step 5. Create a new activity
Invite them to be interested in playing with their peers, for example, being persuaded by toys to play together. If you usually only play in your backyard, try going to the park. If your child usually only plays with stacking blocks, invite him to try making crafts.
Method 4 of 4: Part 4: Giving Lots of Care and Affection
Step 1. Start each day with care and love
Greet them with hugs and kisses in the morning, and build a positive mood every day.
Step 2. Make quality time with them
Children who are stuck will feel more secure when they are with their parents. Make sure to spend time with them without distractions, such as televisions, cell phones, or other electronic devices. Give them 100% of your attention.
For best results, schedule activities with your child into your routine. For example, you provide time after lunch, then every day they will wait for that time. Most likely they will not kolokan at other times
Step 3. Praise their independent behavior
Each time your child plays alone or out of their comfort zone, give them support and encouragement. Make sure they know that you care and appreciate their efforts.
Step 4. Encourage your child to express his feelings through pictures
So he can transfer his energy and thoughts to other things, and you can understand their feelings when they can't be with you.
Step 5. Be patient
Every child is different. The nature of the plug is normal, and will fade by itself.
Tips
- Understand that the nature of the plug can come and go at any time. Some children may appear to have made it through this stage but will come back at a later time, especially if there are major changes, such as going to school or having a sibling.
- Positive thoughts and attitudes are important in dealing with a stubborn child. If they see you're frustrated, things could get worse. The goal is for your child to be confident, safe, and feel loved.
