We've all experienced it-liking someone we shouldn't. Maybe you already know that he's not right for you or that he's already in a relationship with someone else. Or quite the opposite, you are the one who has been in a relationship with someone else. Whatever the reason, you can stop liking someone by spending less time with them or thinking about them. Keep yourself busy with new friends and activities. In addition, you should also set realistic targets throughout this process. And before you know it, it will be an old story.
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Method 1 of 3: Reducing Romantic Feelings
Step 1. Recall the drawbacks
One way to stop liking someone is to change your thinking about them. Everyone has flaws. You may not be able to see the flaws in the person you like because you feel like they idolize them so much. Now, try to take some time to recall the shortcomings that he has.
For example, maybe you want to stop liking someone because of how bad they are, or because your family and friends don't approve of it. You may also want to stop liking someone because they don't have much in common with them, or because they have bad habits like using drugs or lying a lot
Step 2. Stay away from him
The old adage “away from the eyes, away from the mind” has some truth in it. When you do new things with new people, it will not be able to haunt your mind.
- If you're in a similar social circle and can't avoid it, try meeting only at events where a large number of people are present. Don't spend time alone with him.
- If you know that he usually spends time in a certain place, try to avoid that place.
Step 3. Limit contact with him-both offline and online
Cut down on all forms of contact with people you like. Constantly thinking about him will only make it harder for you to forget him. Delete their phone number from your contact list, delete their email address (email), and unfollow them on social media.
- If you use Facebook, you can unfollow them without unfriending them. That way, you can remove the post from the homepage without his knowledge. This will save you from asking “why aren't we friends on Facebook anymore?”, which can feel awkward.
- However, if you still have the urge to look at their profile again, it's a good idea to unfriend them altogether. You can become friends with him again at a later date.
Step 4. Stop talking about it
To lessen your feelings for him, you should also stop talking about him as before. There's no need to talk about his kindness anymore. Ask your friends for support to be sure.
For example, ask your friend to change the subject or remind you whenever you start talking about it again
Step 5. Set up a reminder
Forgetting someone can be very difficult if you are surrounded by things that remind you of how you feel. So, take some time to sort out your stuff and throw away anything that has to do with him.
- Have you ever written his name in a diary? Do you still keep a small note from him? Are you two used to drinking Sprites together? Get rid of everything he's ever given you, and throw away anything that reminds you of him.
- If you can't just throw something away, (such as furniture or schoolbooks) try to keep it out of your sight as much as possible. Put a new cover on the book and throw away the sofa cushions that you share often.
Step 6. Avoid romantic movies or songs
Listening to a special song or watching a certain movie might make you miss your crush again. Avoid songs and movies that remind you of him again. For example, romantic movies and songs or ones you've enjoyed together.
Make a list of new songs that are not romantic. Pick a new TV show or movie that doesn't relate to him
Method 2 of 3: Keeping yourself busy
Step 1. Make new friends or call back old friends
When you just like someone, you may neglect your social life. Get back into your social life and connect with old friends, or make new friends. Spending time with good friends will provide support as well as take your mind off the person you like.
- Call your friends and make plans for a weekend or stay together.
- Join a sports club or team.
- Volunteer at a hospital, nursing home, or animal shelter.
Step 2. Find your hobby
When you fall in love with someone, you often forget about the things you love. So, start doing activities you enjoy again. Spending hours doing fun activities will help you forget your crush. In addition, you are likely to meet new people in this activity.
Do you want to learn to play guitar? Approach students at schools who are good at playing it. Look for DIY or craft inspiration on Pinterest. Or, read a new book if you have been away from reading for a long time
Step 3. Change your routine
Going through the same routine can be boring. Plus, if you're still visiting the same places, doing the same things, you'll have a harder time keeping him out of your mind. Change up your routine a little to refresh your life.
Start a new exercise program, such as participating in a 5km marathon. Buy lunch at a new restaurant every day. Or, enroll in a cooking or foreign language course
Step 4. Start approaching other people
Approaching or dating another person may be out of your mind, but getting back into it can help reduce your feelings for him or her. Who knows, the person you meet next might be much more interesting than the person you want to forget.
Be casual at first. Prioritize meeting new people and approaching them casually. Spend time with him. Try to just fill out activities, meet new people, and have a good time
Method 3 of 3: Setting Realistic Targets
Step 1. Decide on one thing and do it right away
Consider the goals you want to achieve in terms of how you feel about them. Maybe you want to get rid of your relationship memories, or stop contacting them. Focus on achieving this goal at first.
- Outline a plan to help you achieve this goal. For example, if you want to get rid of memorabilia, schedule one day to sort things out, one day to put them in boxes, and another day to throw them away or donate them.
- Another target might be to block him from all your social media at one time.
Step 2. Write down your feelings
Suppressing feelings is not realistic. Writing down these feelings may actually help you through them. Take a little time each day to write down how you feel for him. Remind yourself not to think about it again until it's time to write.
- You may notice that your writing is long at first and still shows strong feelings for it. However, over time your writing about it will diminish, or become completely different.
- Only take the time to write this if you really need to. If you no longer think of him that day, you don't have to write anything down.
Step 3. Be patient
Give yourself time to get over your crush on him. Feelings like this don't go away overnight. Don't push yourself too hard if you miss him again and can't stop thinking about him. Remember that over time, your feelings will fade.
