A sense of humor can be a person's best asset. These skills can make it easier to interact with others, improve your health, and even help ease a difficult situation. One thing people rarely understand is that we don't have to be funny to have a sense of humor, we just need to see things from a lighter perspective.
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Part 1 of 3: Understanding Humor
Step 1. Know the benefits of humor
Having a sense of humor is an attitude that can help you see the funny side of a situation, whether positive or negative. Having a sense of humor can reduce stress and anxiety, help you deal with problems and increase your self-confidence.
Humor has physical, cognitive, emotional and social benefits, including: reducing pain and stress, improving mood, creativity, friendliness, and helping to build happier relationships with others
Step 2. Know the difference between being funny and having a sense of humor
Being funny means being able to express humor, such as telling a laughable story, a witty pun, or telling a joke at the right time. Having a sense of humor means having the ability to relax and not take things too seriously, and to be able to laugh at-or at least see the funny side of-life's silliness.
You don't have to be funny or always crack jokes to have a sense of humor
Step 3. Find your laugh nerve
What can make you laugh? What things make you smile and look radiant? This is one way to start to help you find your sense of humor. There are different types of humor, such as bonding humor and life-laughing humor.
Step 4. Watch and learn
If you're not sure how to laugh or have a sense of humor about things, look to other people. How do your friends and family laugh at the things that are happening around them or what have happened to them?
- Try watching movies with a variety of humors, including those of Bill Murray, Eddie Murphy, Adam Sandler, Kristen Wiig, Steve Martin, Chevy Chase or even local comedians like Benjamin S. and Srimulat. Watch classic comedies such as Meet the Parents, Young Frankenstein, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Blazing Saddles, Trading Places, Finding Nemo, Bridesmaids or films from Warkop DKI.
- Be careful about paying attention to other people. Don't just copy their humor. True humor will feel genuine and reflect your personality.
Step 5. Focus on having fun instead of trying to be funny
Having a sense of humor will help you have fun regardless of what's going on in your life. It means you can laugh at life and joke about your circumstances.
Part 2 of 3: Learn to Make a Joke
Step 1. Learn how to make a joke
Sharing funny things with other people is a great way to build good relationships. If you want to add a little humor to events you attend, learn some basic jokes. You can also search the internet for humorous pictures, witty remarks, and funny memes to share with others. Look for jokes that match your sense of humor.
- For example, try a joke like this: White hair is called gray hair, what is green hair called? Rambutan is not ripe.
- What animals are brothers? Frog Brothers!
Step 2. Find the humor in the common ground
People tend to laugh at jokes that relate to their circumstances, where they live, or their beliefs. Make light jokes about the weather or the city you live in to lighten up the mood with other people. If you work in the same industry as him, make jokes about work.
When thinking of something to say, make a comment about the weather. For example, "If the flood doesn't subside, I have to take a boat to go to work."
Step 3. Surround yourself with funny people
Think of your cute friends. Do they slip humor into the conversation? What kind of jokes do they make?
- Watch solo comedians or watch videos online. Focus on the delivery, the topic, and the way they tell everyday events until it sounds funny.
- Observe the people in your life who you find funny, and infer what you like about their humor, to add to your own.
Step 4. Practice
Practice making jokes so that you continue to grow and sound more natural. Start practicing using humor when you're with family and closest friends. Tell them your goals and ask them to be honest with you. Accept their opinion if they say your jokes need more practice. As you get comfortable over time, expand your comfort zone by incorporating humor into conversations with people you're not very close to.
Step 5. Be careful not to offend anyone
In developing a sense of humor, you also need to think about the context. Are you easily offended when other people make jokes? Whether you're telling a joke or laughing at a joke, you have to be careful not to offend or hurt the other person's feelings. Having a sense of humor means that you have an approach to life that is accompanied by a good attitude. You shouldn't make fun of other people, and you shouldn't laugh when someone is being made fun of by someone else.
- When you tell a joke, think about the context. Is this an appropriate joke for a work setting, a date, or the group of people you're with? Will this joke offend anyone?
- Humor that is racial, abusive or demeaning to a particular gender can be very offensive. Making jokes about someone's religion, political beliefs and beliefs can also be considered insulting. Keep cheesy and offensive jokes for yourself or open-minded friends.
- Degrading and aggressive humor is commonly used to criticize and influence opinions through satire, sarcasm and ridicule. This can be funny when referring to a public figure, but it can be painful to use with friends, impacting your personal relationships.
Part 3 of 3: Seeing the Bright Side of Life
Step 1. Learn to laugh
Laughter is the key to a sense of humor. Try to laugh more every day, even laugh at yourself. Enjoy the little things, find the funny side of everyday situations, and find the funny side of life's misfortunes. Smile as often as you can. Try to make other people laugh too. Prioritize laughter, for yourself and for others.
Step 2. Decide to laugh rather than react
When you find yourself in a stressful situation, take a step back and laugh. Anger is a powerful emotion, but laughter also has powerful control over our minds and bodies. Throw a line of humor, laugh at a situation, or use humor to lighten a particular situation. It may save you from stress and heartache.
- Sometimes situations that make you feel tense and uncomfortable need some humor to lighten the mood. Jokes can reduce tension and make people feel more comfortable.
- When you realize you're about to have a fight with someone, crack a joke. If you're fighting with your sibling, you might say "We've been arguing the same thing for 10 years! We're stuck in our teens."
- If someone laughs at your old car, you can respond with "You sure aren't as handsome as you were 15 years ago!"
Step 3. Get rid of defensiveness
Eliminate the things that make you suddenly feel defensive. Forget criticism, judgment, and low self-esteem. Instead, let the annoying feelings get away from you by having a sense of humor about them. Everyone is not aiming to criticize or put you down. Instead, smile or laugh.
Step 4. Accept yourself
Having a relaxed attitude towards yourself is one way to maintain a sense of humor. Learn to laugh at yourself. Everyone has to be serious sometimes, but learning to laugh at yourself is a way to accept yourself. Nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes. Don't take it too seriously, and keep the humor in your life.
- Use laughter to ignore things that are beyond your control, such as age or appearance. If you have a big nose, make jokes about yourself instead of getting angry. As you get older, laugh at jokes about old age. Even if you don't feel comfortable laughing at yourself, forget about it, especially if you can't change that.
- Laugh at your embarrassing things and mistakes. Seeing the funny side of your human nature is a good thing.
- Think about the embarrassing moments in your life. Find a way to tell the story in a humorous rather than embarrassing way. You need to make fun of yourself, and maybe exaggerate or dramatize an event.
Step 5. Be acquainted with others
Part of having a sense of humor is passing it on to others. Just as you shouldn't take yourself too seriously, you should apply the same principles to other people. Be forgiving and focus on the positive when others make mistakes. Forget their mistakes with a light laugh, as if you made a mistake. This will not only make you feel better, but will make him feel welcome, which will eventually help you get on well with him.
- Instead of getting angry that your employees are always late for meetings, joke around by saying "It's a good thing you don't run the airline business."
- While a joke your coworker makes may feel cheap or offensive, there's probably no need to be upset. Having a sense of humor means that you are able to forget about those things and choose what to be upset about.
Step 6. Be spontaneous
Most people don't do something because they are afraid of being wrong or afraid of looking stupid. Having a good sense of humor about yourself can help you forget the things that are holding you back. A sense of humor helps you to forget your worries and get rid of your inhibitions so you can get on with your life - whether your endeavors are successful or not
Having a sense of humor can help you realize that looking stupid is okay. Even if you look stupid, just laugh at yourself. Then smile because you've tried something new outside of your comfort zone
Tips
- Enjoy things that make you laugh or smile. It's the best way to develop a sense of humor.
- Keep your sense of humor! Humor is an important part of life.
- Make sure you do funny things at the right time. Timing is important in making someone laugh. Not all situations require humor.
