Maybe you're good at introducing yourself to a woman in a crowd to get her attention. But do you ever feel after a while you run out of things to talk about? Or maybe you have the courage to talk to the woman of your dreams, but find your mouth stiff and awkward after the conversation begins. Even if you are brave or shy, you can continue to have a conversation with a woman once you start following some of the instructions in this article.
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Method 1 of 1: Keeping the Conversation Going
Step 1. Start by getting him to talk
Pay attention to the scenario, and adapt your invitation to the circumstances. Don't do things like ask him about astronomy while he's shopping for shoes. Here are a few ways to achieve that:
- If you want to start a conversation with a woman you don't know, try making a suggestion. For example, if you see a woman at a coffee shop, and can't decide what to order, then recommend your favorite drink or say that you can guess what she wants just by looking at her.
- If you already know the woman, start with similarities. If you're in the same school, then comment on classes or talk about extra-curricular activities you're involved in. If you work together, then start a conversation about what's going on at the office, or ask him for help with something you're working on.
- Ask for light help from him. For example, ask him to look after your belongings (such as your cell phone) while you are going to get him a drink. Women will feel like they have an investment in you if they do something for you.
- Give praise. If he looks great that day or he says something amazing in class, then tell him that. Compliment her hair, or her smile, or her clothes. Stay away from femininity. Make sure your compliment is genuine, not fake and made up.
Step 2. Ask some questions
You want to show that you are interested in him and at the same time decide if he deserves your attention. A great question will make him think, laugh, and like you, all at the same time.
- Avoid "yes" and "no" questions. A question like "Do you like the new movie coming out this weekend?" will get you a "yes" or "no" answer and not make for a meaningful conversation. However, ask about other films he has seen and why he likes them. This type of question will give a longer answer than him.
- Women usually like men who approach first. Instead of waiting for him to ask a question, be proactive and ask first. After he answers your question, nod and share your point of view. You want a balanced conversation where you find out about him while sharing about a part of you.
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Find out about his passion. If you like this woman, then there's a good chance you'll find something about her that really appeals to you. Ask him why he likes something, or thinks about something. Ask something you really want to learn more about instead of asking just to get him to talk. If you're not being sincere, he'll find out, and your conversation will stop.
People love to talk about themselves. If you know what his passion is, then the conversation will go naturally and easily. This is the easiest thing to build a relationship
Step 3. Make yourself look good through conversation
You want to know as much as you can about him, but you also want to make sure you're bringing out the best in you.
- Talk about a subject that makes you feel passionate and persuasive. When you talk about something positive, you will be at your best. If you like music, then talk about your favorite band. If you like to do something, then talk to him about it.
- Make sure you give him equal time. Of course you want to share something about yourself, but if you only talk about yourself, he'll think you're thinking about yourself and he'll stop talking to you.
- Don't give an opinion on a subject you're not good at. Your goal is to impress women with your knowledge, talk and intelligence. If you're chatting about something you don't know, then you won't sound like a smart person.
Step 4. Stop talking for a while
You won't be able to think things through during the conversation, and that's okay. Stop at the natural part. Make him comfortable with the thought of stopping talking or cutting back on your words.
- Give a smile. Drink a little or look around the room until you come up with something new to say. As long as you look confident and attractive, he'll be waiting anticipating his next move in the conversation. If you look nervous or stare at your feet, he will feel uncomfortable, and he may say "see you later."
- Pause for a moment during a conversation. When you stop, think that you are carefully considering what you are going to say. He'll invest in trying to figure out what you're going to say next, and he may be motivated to fill the silence with his talk.
- People's speech rate is usually adjusted while they are having a conversation. That is, many people subconsciously imitate how fast other people speak. So if you speak slowly, he will also speak slowly, and the conversation will last longer. The secret to speaking slowly is confidently, not nervously.
- Think stopping talking is the time for him to impress you. Don't feel like you need to always create a topic for conversation. As long as you stop talking, you want to quietly invite him to take the initiative. If he picks it up, then you know that he enjoys having a conversation with you.
Step 5. Keep the conversation light
Don't bring up a controversial subject or something that makes her uncomfortable. Also, don't gossip about other people, because they might think you're not really nice.
- Use your sense of humor. Don't use jokes or anything that might surprise her. Remember an entertaining or funny incident and practice the story you want to share with a friend.
- Get to know the developments in the world of entertainment. Follow the latest artist news and news about music and movies. When you know what's going on out there, you'll have material for light conversation. Plus, you'll probably impress him with how much you know.
Step 6. Focus on body language
For yourself, use good eye contact, sit up straight, and smile warmly. When you do this, he will feel that you are focused on him.
- Watch the way he moves his body. If he makes eye contact with you, gently touches your arm, then you know he's interested.
- Make sure you create good body language too. Don't cross your arms, move your legs, or complain. It is a sign that you are bored or dissatisfied with him.
- If he looks elsewhere, plays with his drink or jewelry or seems impatient to get away, then he probably isn't interested in you anymore. You could try saying something like, "Nice to talk to you" and then walk away.
Step 7. Always pay attention to him
Let him know that you consider him important. Don't make the attention turn to you, but focus on him.
- Turn off your cell phone when having conversations with women. If you go out to call, when you come back he's probably gone.
- If you meet a friend, introduce them but stay focused on your conversation. Try to send a signal to your friend that he needs to talk to you some other time.
Step 8. The end of a good conversation is when he says he has to leave
Tell him that you enjoyed talking to him and getting to know him. If you really feel a connection with him, ask for his number. In the morning, send him a message saying that you are enjoying your time with him, and wish him a good day. You may get a second chance to continue the conversation if he replies to the message.
- The rule is to wait at least a day before you call him, especially if you approach him as a complete stranger. You don't want him to think that you're going too fast, and you don't want to seem needy. Snooze for a day.
- When you call him, keep it short and sweet. Unless he's really enjoying the conversation, ask if he'd like to see a movie or go out for coffee. You want to impress him as a person, where you can control the situation if something goes wrong.
- Stay calm until you know that he really likes you. He might find it a little weird if you try too hard and he doesn't, so try to stay balanced. And at all times, keep the conversation flowing.
Tips
- Remember that talking to women is a risk-free activity, and no reward. If you don't take an opportunity to catch up on a conversation, you don't know what you've missed. If the conversation goes well, you may be able to establish a close and long-lasting relationship.
- Get rid of nervousness with practice. You will always feel a little nervous trying to make conversation with women, but you will become more confident the more you have conversations with different women. In each level, the more conversations you start, the more chances you have to meet amazing women.
- Don't gossip or talk bad about other people, just focus on them. Gossip can make you look feminine. If he starts gossiping, you may be heading towards the 'friend zone'. Possible. Not sure.
- Be a good person and be yourself.
- if you come from a different country or culture, talk about race/ethnicity/culture and introduce him to a new language. For example, if you are Asian, and trying to talk to women from America, introduce an Asian language or talk about how your culture is different. (Be careful with this tactic - your culture can be a great conversation starter, especially if it's different/interests him, but the best conversations tend to be cross-cultural, and you don't want to make yourself look "exotic" or "foreign".)
Warning
- Get some chewing gum or mint mints for breath. That way, you can feel confident that your breath is fresh during a conversation with him.
- Regarding the skirt, there's no need to talk about it. If it's too short, don't let him see you staring under the table. That will stop the conversation.
- Make sure you make eye contact, even if she's wearing a low cut outfit. If he catches you staring at his breasts, the conversation won't last long.
