Although separating a couple is a bad thing, but if you think that your soulmate is dating someone else, there is no harm in trying this. To separate this couple, you must be careful to first plant the seeds of doubt before make separation inevitable. It is morally wrong even if you do it for the good of the person.
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Part 1 of 3: Planting the Seeds of Doubt
Step 1. Don't tell anyone about your plans
Even if you think there's nothing wrong with separating a couple, other people don't necessarily think so. So as time goes on, don't tell anyone because it's possible that the partner you want to separate or someone else will interfere with your plans.
If this is your goal, make sure you are sure it is the right thing. If the breakup is due to external factors, namely you, not a problem in their relationship, the couple usually still has feelings for each other that may just grow back
Step 2. Be the confidant of the person you want to be with
If you want to separate your soulmate's relationship, you have to enter into their relationship, slowly but surely. To do this, you have to start getting the person you like to trust and open up to you. So understanding and sympathetic, show you are a good listener. At first, this person may not necessarily open up to the relationship, but it's just a matter of time.
One caveat, there's a difference between being your loved one's confidant and being stuck in the friend zone. Make sure you don't act too much like a friend or your crush will just think of you as a friend
Step 3. Let the person open up about the flaws in the relationship
The worst thing you can do is openly criticize the relationship or make her feel like she's in the wrong relationship. This will anger him and make him want to point out that you are wrong. No one likes to admit failure, especially in a relationship, so you have to wait for the person to admit it himself.
- You can start by letting the person talk about the relationship. Ask innocent questions. For example, if you know that her favorite band is performing at an event, and her boyfriend isn't coming, ask her if she enjoyed the show.
- Or ask how the person's weekend was. If he looks disappointed, just wait he will tell you the rest.
- Ask, “How can you feel this way?” Let your questions be broad enough to keep the person talking and you'll start to see gaps in their relationship.
- Unfortunately, if you try to separate a partner who is in an amazing relationship, it's very rare for that person to say anything bad about their partner. However, if you've managed to become the person's confidant, there's little chance that their relationship is in an amazing phase.
Step 4. Play the role of the evil one
Once the person has started to admit the flaws in the relationship, the worst thing you can do is say "You deserve more." This will make him feel weird. Try to act confused which will eventually force the person to tell you more about why their partner isn't perfect.
- If you allow the person to tell you more, they will realize more and more problems in the relationship.
- Let the person talk about any negative things that happen. Asking her thoughts will allow her to explore her thoughts more deeply.
- Not criticizing the relationship also makes things better in the end. If you're going to end up being his girlfriend, no one is going to say you sabotaged her previous relationship.
Part 2 of 3: Making Parting Inevitable
Step 1. Be the person your crush wants to be
Without completely changing your character, you can turn into the person you like. If he complains that his girlfriend never asks how he feels, make sure you do that. If he complains that his girlfriend doesn't care about his hobbies, go to the mountains with him or check out the vegetarian restaurant he's been wanting to go to.
- This is not as manipulative as it sounds. If you want to be with that person for the right reasons, then you have to be a good partner right?
- Don't make a fuss about this. If he complains that his girlfriend never does anything for him, bring him lunch or coffee on a busy day at work.
- Do not exaggerate. Doing this will start to make you act like a boyfriend. Don't go to extremes like giving her flowers or saying how beautiful she is.
Step 2. Make your presence more pronounced
This means that you will have to go out with him more and more little by little. Offer to walk him to class or take him to a game of tennis. Make sure you don't become too obsessive or your crush will notice.
- Don't rely on him too much. The person should see that you have a life of your own - apart from trying to separate their relationship.
- Making time for him will let the person see what it's like to be your boyfriend and give him some feelings about you.
Step 3. Exploit the partner's weakness
Every couple has weaknesses. Suppose they tend to fight when drunk, great. Invite them to your party.
- When you start pointing out what's wrong with the couple, you can make it look even worse. Turn that small friction into a big, inevitable wound.
- When one person in a relationship wants to get married and the other isn't ready, try bringing up the topic of marriage. Talk about your parents' wedding anniversary, invite him to an engagement party, or send him a wedding ring catalog.
Step 4. Try separating the pair
Nothing makes a couple lose their appetite more than making them enjoy their time when they're not together. Try to do things that can make the two people separate, make sure they enjoy the moment.
Don't be too obvious. Introduce them naturally to activities that allow them to separate from each other
Step 5. Hang out with friends of the person you want to be with
If you think that the person is in a bad relationship and that he or she is better off with you, his friends probably think so too. You have to be friendly with his friends. Maybe his friends will ask him, “Why are you still with that loser and not just hanging out with (your name)?”
When you hang out with his friends, keep your distance. Don't let your crush feel like you're more compatible with their friends
Step 6. Don't be too pitiful
There's a difference between being a close friend and being available, and acting like you want to be with the person you like forever. Don't go out with her at times like her date night, special events, or times when you know the couple will be spending time together. This will make him suspect that you really want to ruin his relationship with his girlfriend.
You can make yourself always there for him without needing to text or call him every five minutes. Set a trap and he will come at you
Step 7. Make your crush jealous
There's nothing better than making him see you're with another woman/man. This doesn't mean you have to use other people to make him jealous, just try to spend more time with your friend of the opposite gender and talk to him. You will be surprised how quickly you will see the new light. It's a good thing to remind her that there won't be forever for her.
This will make him think, "No! He's just a friend, why should I care? Does this mean I have feelings for him?"
Step 8. Be appropriate when they separate
Unless it's very clear that the person ended the relationship for you, you shouldn't jump in and ask him out. First, be a good friend, a good listener, or a place to vent about your previous relationship.
- Tell him that you're always there for him when he needs to talk, and that you can't imagine what he's been through.
- Of course don't badmouth your ex-partner.
- Know what will make him happy. Give him a funny gift or take him to a comedy show. Don't do anything too romantic just yet.
Part 3 of 3: Making Your New Relationship Last
Step 1. Don't jump right in
You have to wait a few months to be with the person you like. You may want to start slowly first. Even if you decide to date him straight away, don't spend every day of your life with him. Meet twice a week, give him time to heal from his wounds.
The best thing to do is give your crush time to heal and not date him until he's ready
Step 2. Avoid talking about your ex in the first place
While you may both have done it before, now is not the time to do it again. Wait until your new boyfriend is ready to talk about this.
Of course, if your boyfriend wants to talk about his past, you don't have to change the subject. But you could say, in order to focus on your new relationship, you have to let go of the past that haunts you
Step 3. Enjoy your new relationship
Don't get stuck in the past, don't worry about being the perfect person for your new partner – just be yourself. If you are meant to be together, you will find a routine that works for both of you. Don't compare yourself to their ex, or try to be someone you're not.
- Of course you can use sneaky ways to make your relationship work, but if you want this relationship to last, you should only think about how the two of you got together – nothing else.
- Even if you and he were close friends before, you should find new things to do together as a couple, not just close friends.
Step 4. Don't be too afraid of the past
You may find yourself in a difficult position. Your new boyfriend broke up with his ex to be with you. Who said this would never happen again? No one can guarantee that, but by having an amazing relationship right now, you have to tell yourself that yesterday's breakup did have to happen and the two of you right now are meant to be together. It won't happen again.
- If you frequently ask how his ex is doing, or get too jealous when your boyfriend walks out with his friend of the opposite sex, you're likely to lead your relationship to ruin.
- If this is meant to last, then in the long run, you'll find you'll start to stop worrying about your ex. This will take time. But if you are meant to be together, burying the past is worth it.
Tips
- It is important not to make yourself seen as a dividing party, or you will be blamed or distrusted.
- If the relationship is already starting to break down, it will only get worse without you doing anything about it.
- If you're going to approach one of them, give them time to heal. Because there is a chance that they will realize that they broke up because of you.
- If you are friends with the partner you separated, you may have to be in a secret relationship.
- You have to walk around with one of them (not with the other). Make sure you're always in on their conversation. Don't let them talk alone.
Warning
- It's very difficult to separate a couple who just got together and are going through their honeymoon period.
- This may be morally wrong.
- If you do the last step, make sure no one notices it.
- Be careful not to get caught between a couple's fight.
