Although psychological studies show that a person tends to get along with other people who share the same traits or physical characteristics as him, it is not impossible to make friends with people who are very different from you and come from a wide variety of backgrounds. The trick is to have an open mind, be understanding, and love to chat. If you've done all of this, you'll soon be inundated with so many invitations that you'll have to buy an even bigger agenda.
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Part 1 of 3: Finding and Making Friends
Step 1. Develop your interests
If you want to make friends with all kinds of people, you have to have a variety of interests as well. With a wide range of interests, you are likely to have something in common with everyone and it will be easier for you to stay involved in the conversation and watch your friendship develop. So join the chorus. Join a volunteer program at a local hospital in your area. Start painting in your spare time. Learn to play guitar. Join the soccer team. If you've always wanted to do something, this is a good reason to start.
Understand the personality of the group you are trying to join. Find out what brings them together – is it a common activity (eg debate teams, journalism, interest in making music) or similar traits (talking, sociable, quiet, etc.)? If you have something the members of this group have in common, let their interests/traits/whatever stand out
Step 2. Get into the habit of asking other people for contact information
Usually most people are shy when trying to make new friends. They're likely to assume you're not interested in making friends and so you should tell them. Take risks, take action, and ask for their phone number, Twitter or Instagram username, or ask them to be friends on Facebook. Becoming friends online is the first step to becoming friends in real life.
And once you've got the contacts, you can invite each other to spend some time together, or maybe just chat online. The more you chat with each other, the more comfortable you will become with each other at school or wherever you first met
Step 3. Don't wait to be invited, try to be the invitee
Try to be outgoing and proactive in inviting others to spend time with you and paying attention to when and where people gather. If you want to be friends with anyone, you must have the initiative to approach the group you want company with and be sensitive to their habits. Again, it's worth remembering, people tend to get nervous and shy around new people. Maybe they really want to spend time together but are too shy to talk about it.
- Go out often and spend time with various groups. However, you should know that making friends with everyone can be time and energy-consuming because you have to be friendly, outgoing, and willing to spend time together so you don't have much time for yourself.
- Remember that you don't have to be outgoing to be a good person; It doesn't matter if you are shy and like to be alone, you will make friends too. However, if your goal is to make friends with all kinds of people, you'll have to put in a lot of effort.
Step 4. Accept all invitations
Because if you stop going, they will stop asking you out. This makes sense because would you want to keep asking a friend who keeps turning you down? So when you make friends with these people (especially in the early stages of your friendship), accept any invitation you can get. Otherwise, how will your friendship grow?
Remember that every group is different. They will use different words, have different views on whether something is funny or not, or have different ways of spending time together. Try to see what works for each group and act accordingly but don't change yourself to be accepted by them. you are you
Step 5. Smile and remember everyone's names
If you are friends with everyone, there will be a lot of information in your mind. Is it Haley who likes rock music? Paul and Vinh are lacrosse players, right? When you're with new friends (or potential friends), use their name, ask them something you know about them, and smile. They will feel special to find you remember so much about them.
One of the easiest things you can do to make good friends is to smile and be happy. Tell jokes, laugh, and help this group of friends have fun. When they realize that you're a fun person, you'll all be friends
Part 2 of 3: Talking to New People
Step 1. Talk about what's around you or events you've met
Chatting with people we don't really know is one of the hardest things about making new friends. So you can chat, try to comment on what's going on around you or about events you're on. Comment on your teacher's deep voice, or how the clothes Michelle is wearing tickle you. The opening topic doesn't need to be heavy and your conversation will flow better after that.
Even comments like "Ow, I love this song so much!" can lighten the mood. When the two of you start singing loudly, a friendship begins to form
Step 2. Ask open-ended questions
To get the ball rolling further, try asking the person you're talking to a question they can't answer with a simple "yes" or "no," because a one-word answer will stop the conversation. What do they think of the upcoming big event? Who do they know who will come?
Ask them what their plans are for the weekend. If they're planning something and you feel like you can join, you can express your interest in the activity they're doing and wait for them to invite you to join. If they don't invite you, try to think quickly whether you should offer to come along or not. But be careful when following other people's activities because if you do it too often it can irritate other people
Step 3. Listen sincerely
When was the last time someone looked you in the eye, smiled, and asked how you were doing and "means" at it? A genuine listener is hard to find, especially in this day and age when everyone's eyes are glued to their phone. When someone is talking, give them your attention. They will feel it and appreciate it.
Feeling interested in someone's life is one of the best ways to show someone you like them and make them feel important. Even if they are just complaining about their mother, give them support. Help them to laugh at it. There are times when someone needs a friend to confide in, and you can be that friend
Step 4. Use praise
Besides being able to make people feel good about themselves, compliments can lighten the mood well. "Hey, your shoes are great! Where did you buy them?" can be an easy way to start a conversation. It could be that the compliment made their day brighter. Who knows?
Think of your friends. Which ones do you view as positive and which ones are negative? It might not take you long to find the answer. Well, if you want to be viewed positively, giving compliments can be one of the keys
Step 5. Make time for them
You have many friends now. Once they have become friends, the struggle for now is to make time for them. If you have a fixed schedule, great. Monday for choir friends. Tuesday for football buddies, and so on. If there's a friend you haven't seen in a while, be sure to contact them!
This is the main problem with being friends with everyone – they all want time with you. If you start to feel tired, ignore the fatigue. Take time for yourself and recharge. A true friend will be patiently waiting and ready to accompany you when you return
Part 3 of 3: Shows You a Good Friend
Step 1. Be the kind of friend you want to have
Making friends with everyone is not a matter of being in a popular gang or expecting respect by being arrogant. On the other hand, making friends with everyone is being fun and a good friend. If you want everyone to like you, act like someone you would like yourself to be. What kind of friend do you think everyone likes?
You can start by being attentive and happy to help. If someone doesn't go to school, offer to lend them a note. Does anyone need a ride somewhere? That could be a good opportunity. Who knows? When you need help, they will offer to help too
Step 2. Make them feel good
Most of us struggle with confidence issues and there are days when we don't feel good about ourselves. But when we meet someone who wants to be our friend and make life a little more fun, it's easy for us to feel good. Make your new friends feel good by regularly telling them you want to spend time with them, complimenting them, and trying to be a good friend to them. Text them out of the blue, message them, and let them know you're there for them.
Even by being present in his life, you can change his life. A recent study showed that having one good friend not only makes you very happy, but also extends your life. Besides, a good friend equals $100,000 a year of happiness. Your presence in their life is a gift to them
Step 3. Look for the good in your friend
In the process of making friends with (almost) anyone, you will meet people with a wide variety of personalities, attitudes, opinions and interests. You have to make yourself open-minded and likable enough that you can get along with these different types of people, even if you don't agree with them 100% on everything. Focus on the good things in them and what you like about them, not what you don't agree with them.
Be respectful so you can agree to disagree when differences arise between you. You don't have to hold back your views or opinions, but make sure you don't express them offensively or hurtfully
Step 4. Make an effort to maintain friendships
Since you have so many friends, it's no wonder it's hard for you to keep these friendships. Plus, friends naturally come and go – most research shows half of social circles break up within 7 years. If you find a friend you want to keep, make an effort to do so. Take them out, call them, and keep in touch with them. Friendship requires effort from both parties.
And if your friends are away from you, you should try harder. Studies show, even though this is logical, long-distance friendships are more prone to cracking and are more likely to be replaced by close friendships. So keep texting each other, connecting via Facebook, and calling. You can always be there for each other when you need them
Step 5. Don't badmouth others or gossip too much
This might make for an interesting topic of conversation, but you never know who could be offended and which friendship opportunities were lost because of it. In addition, if you are always badmouthing other people, people will notice it and become doubtful about you. How will they know if you're not badmouthing them when they're not around?
Be a nice person, follow the golden rule (treat others the way you want to be treated), and friends will come to you
Step 6. Don't take it to heart if not everyone wants to be friends
If you notice that you're often left out, or don't hear about an event until it's over, then these people are subtly trying to leave you. You may find this painful, but the other person has no obligation to be your friend. If they don't feel right with you, they have the right to decide whether or not to accept you into their group. So don't focus too much on trying to be one of their gang and find other friends.
If you find yourself every week asking someone what their group did to become part of it, try contacting other people in the group who you also know. Or you can invite the person to spend some time with you and see how they react. If your invitation collides with an existing plan, they may ask you to join them. If your invitation applies before the activity, it is possible that the two of you will go to the group activity together
Tips
- Don't be afraid to talk to other people. Meeting strangers is a great way to make new friends!
- If someone wants to be alone for a while, respect their wishes and give them time. Don't stick to it.
- Keeping it clean is important. Take a shower every day. Wash your face, brush your teeth. Must.
- Leaving old friends because there are new friends is a bad thing. Try to be friendly. If you have several friends or a best friend, never leave them.
- Don't assume that someone falls into the 'Popular', 'Geek', 'Goth', and so on. Being categorized that way often hurts someone's feelings (even if they name themselves with that title proudly, don't ever say it – respect their right to self-deprecation, but don't follow).
- Be polite to everyone, using words like "excuse me."
Warning
- Remember: Don't forget who your true friends are. Don't befriend someone just because they're a cheerleader or very popular.
- Being friends with anyone can be difficult because not everyone is compatible with each other. There are times when you will feel confused about who to spend time with because not everyone can get together.
- Not everyone will like you, but that's their problem, not yours. You can't make everyone want to spend time with you, so don't force it. What comes next will only make things worse!
- If for some reason you can't keep up with the existing schedule, friendships will quickly disappear. Make sure you have a few strong friendships, as they are likely to be just acquaintances.
- It's impossible to get people to bond with us – everyone has a tendency to be just friends or acquaintances. You will often have to leave a party alone and then go alone to another party. You'll meet friends there, but the only person you can really rely on is yourself.
