Finding a husband-to-be can be difficult for many single women. However, by knowing the right way and place, you can have a greater chance of experiencing married happiness.
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Part 1 of 4: Knowing the Right Places to Look
Step 1. Look in the right place
Instead of purposely looking in places where single men hang out, spend some time doing fun activities in a place that you enjoy. In this place, the chances of meeting good single men with similar interests will be greater if you also really like this activity.
- Choose a hobby that allows for romance. Women's hobbies are usually less attractive to men. You're usually less likely to meet a lot of guys in a crochet/knitting activity than if you join a group of hikers.
- Know that the places that single men usually go to can reflect the character in question. You'll have a harder time finding single men who are serious and ready to settle down in bars and nightclubs.
Step 2. Try to find a potential husband through the internet
If you have not managed to find the right man in your daily activities, look for it in cyberspace. While finding a date through an online matchmaking agency is considered bad by some, it can be very helpful if used wisely.
- Choose a website with a high success rating in helping couples find a life partner. Some websites usually ask you to pay dues and fill out a personality questionnaire. If your goal is to get married, don't access free matchmaking websites or just to make friends.
- Be careful when meeting in person with a guy you think is a good match. Make an appointment in a public place. Tell someone where you are going and who you would like to meet.
Step 3. Ask people you know
Tell your family and friends that you want to be in a serious relationship. Ask if they know a single guy who might be a good match for you.
While the idea of having a blind date may not seem appealing, it might just work if you ask the right people for help in finding a match. Rely on the closest people you can trust who already know your personality, instead of asking casual acquaintances for help
Step 4. Do the activity alone
You can overcome your nervousness if you have someone to accompany you when carrying out this plan, but this may also hinder success. Men usually prefer to approach women who are alone. Therefore, try to do activities alone once in a while.
If you meet the right guy while traveling with friends, stay away from the group for a while so he can get to know you, or try getting to know him when you're alone
Step 5. Be open
Maybe without you knowing it, your soul mate is a man you meet everyday. Be prepared to see every possibility that exists in your daily life, whether at work, when delivering a shipment, or while enjoying your free time.
Make relationships with care. A romance that ends badly can make relationships with coworkers and friends feel very awkward. Therefore, try to get to know this man through casual friendships before starting a romantic relationship with him
Part 2 of 4: Narrowing the Choices
Step 1. Consider various possibilities
Before getting into a relationship with someone, you are free to choose any single guy as a date. If there are several single men who are attracted to you, get to know them well before committing to a special relationship with someone.
Be honest about the guy you want to know. If a guy asks you to be in a serious relationship, but you're not sure about this guy, don't pretend to agree while looking for other guys behind his back
Step 2. Be selective, without being too picky
Set standards if you want to find the right guy, but you also have to understand the difference between reasonable wants and unreasonable demands.
Good standards usually refer to strong personality values and aspects, but bad standards are usually based on unrealistic desires. You can't expect a man to be perfect, but you can and should expect him to show the most important aspects of his personality, such as respect and sincerity
Step 3. Make sure that you both feel attracted to each other
Although there are things that are considered less important about appearance, physical attraction is still an important aspect in this regard. Surely you are reluctant to establish physical intimacy with a man who does not interest you. This can be an obstacle to your happiness in the future.
Likewise with this man, he should also feel attracted to you. The success of a relationship from a physical aspect depends on the mutual attraction between the two of you
Step 4. Find potential for friendship
Instead of seeking romance from the guy who approaches you, try getting to know him as a casual friend first. Friendship is a stronger foundation for a lasting relationship than attraction.
- Even if you both want to be in a relationship, try to express this desire without showing it directly through your actions.
- Once you start dating, work on building friendships while cultivating the romantic side of the relationship.
Step 5. Find the right guy
After meeting the right guy, it's time to share your feelings and desires. Let him know that you want a long-term relationship that can lead to marriage.
- If this guy isn't ready to get married or doesn't want to be tied down, it's best not to continue with him. By knowing what he wants from the start, you can save time and not be disappointed later.
- If you have found the right man, immediately end the relationship with other men who have been dating you.
Part 3 of 4: Knowing He's Establishment for Marriage
Step 1. Evaluate, not test
In order to determine whether a man is ready for marriage or not, you must evaluate, not test. You can get a more precise picture by observing his behavior as he goes about his daily activities.
Also, testing his feelings or setting him up can damage the relationship, as it will show that you don't trust him. Even if he's ready to get married, this will make him think that you're not ready
Step 2. Observe the way he treats other people
When you're in a new relationship, a guy will treat you the best he can to make a good impression. While it's great fun, these days of preferential treatment will eventually come to an end, so you can see how much he respects other people. Evaluate by observing his behavior when he interacts with other people.
- Initial clues usually come from new people and acquaintances. For example, if he is being rude to a waitress at a restaurant who is serving you or is very irritable at a slow-acting cashier, he may actually lack respect for other people.
- The surest clue can be seen in the way he treats family and friends. How he treats those closest to him on a daily basis reflects the way he treats you when he becomes his wife.
Step 3. Watch his behavior when he is stressed
Conflict and stress often arise after marriage, so evaluate whether he is able to cope with this unpleasant aspect of life.
Stress can be a part of everyday life. If you spend enough time together, you will soon find yourself in stressful situations, such as traffic jams, slow queues, and a tiring job
Step 4. Consider the establishment
Even if you want to continue your career after marriage, find a man who is financially responsible. You may be able to support yourself, but avoid men who only mess with your finances and your life.
Pay close attention to his work history and ability to manage money. Focus on a guy who has a regular job and if he isn't currently working, find out why. Do not let you get into a relationship with a man who is used to debt or is not wise to use money
Step 5. Look for similarities
Although the two of you don't always have to be the same in everything, married life will be easier if you have previously agreed on the important things in daily life.
- Important things that must be agreed upon, for example the values of life that you believe in and future plans. You both have to come to an agreement about what is most important and determine what life goals you want to achieve.
- While it's not really that important, it can be helpful if you both share the same interests so that you can spend time together while building a better relationship.
Step 6. Ask other people for their opinion
Ask friends and relatives you trust about the person you want to be close to. It's hard to see someone's faults when you're already in love with them. Therefore, having input from others can support or improve your perception.
Also ask what they think about your current relationship. Even if they have a positive opinion of the guy you like, they may see a problem in the relationship. Try to deal with this problem as early as possible, instead of letting things get worse
Step 7. Don't make a decision right away
Ask yourself if this man is someone you really want to marry, and answer this question honestly. Even if a man wants to marry you, don't rush into marriage, unless you have the same desire.
Evaluate if you are not sure about your own feelings. Find the reasons why you are doubting and determine if they reflect your opinion of this man's insecurity, so that any issues can be properly addressed
Part 4 of 4: Building Your Own Stability
Step 1. Be honest with yourself
While it may sound cliché, this is a wise saying. Appearing wearing a mask when approaching a man makes you burdened because you have to go through a relationship while continuing to lie to yourself. Since your desire is to find a life partner, you must always cover up who you really are for the rest of your life in order to maintain the relationship.
Give a positive first impression when looking for a life partner. Start by showing the best you have, but don't pretend just to look good
Step 2. Respect yourself
Cultivate self-confidence. Everyone has their own shortcomings, but everyone must also have good. Respecting yourself is the easiest and best way for others to respect you.
Physical appearance is one aspect that affects self-esteem that often causes problems for many women. Focus on your strengths, instead of regretting your less than perfect physical condition. Try to highlight these advantages so that you appear more confident and able to attract the attention of men who are worthy of being a life partner
Step 3. Improve yourself for your own good
Everyone has weaknesses that can be corrected by understanding the causes. Instead of changing yourself to make a nice guy fall in love with you, make these changes to improve your own life.
By changing yourself, you will become a more independent person and happier in a relationship. In addition, you will also feel satisfied with yourself and the life you live, whether you are single or married
Step 4. Pray for God's guidance
If you believe in God or have certain beliefs, pray to express your desire to get married. Ask God for guidance when you are looking for a potential husband and during a relationship.
