Do you often feel intimidated when you have to interact with the women around you? Try changing your point of view. Remember, these women are just ordinary people who don't need to be treated differently. As long as you are willing to improve your confidence and communication skills, having fun and feeling comfortable around the girl you like is not impossible!
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Method 1 of 3: Boost Confidence
Step 1. Be yourself
Changing personality just to attract women's attention will not have a significant long-term impact. Believe me, sooner or later your true personality will be revealed. Besides, can you be happy if you keep pretending to be someone else? Get to know yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings; surely you will become a more sincere and attractive person in the eyes of women.
- Don't be too aggressive or splurge just to win over a girl.
- Don't try too hard to please other people. Appreciate your flaws and don't let them ruin your day.
- If you are comfortable with yourself, you are more likely to appear more comfortable in front of other people. If the situation doesn't go as expected, you won't be too bothered or stressed about it either. Remember, the only person who can make you happy is yourself; The easiest way to be happy is to accept yourself as you are.
Step 2. Keep yourself clean
Someone who is willing to keep his body clean will look much more attractive in the eyes of others. Therefore, make sure you always shower and wash your hair in the morning. After that, put on deodorant and clean clothes before traveling. Trust me, the whole process is worth it and will significantly ease your anxiety in front of the women you meet.
You can also spray a little perfume on your neck and shoulders
Step 3. Wear appropriate clothing
If possible, buy clothes that are nice and suitable for you to wear. Of course the price does not have to be expensive, but at least the size should fit your body. Trust me, you'll feel much more confident and able to focus on the girl in front of you if you look convincing.
- Look around you to find the current fashion trends. But remember, sometimes you don't need to follow trends too much; as long as the clothes look appropriate on your body, don't hesitate to wear them.
- Try on the clothes before buying them. After that, don't hesitate to ask the store clerk's opinion; trust me, often their opinion will really help you.
Step 4. Do the things you love
Sometimes you can accompany him to do the things he likes; But remember, you also need time for yourself. Make sure you always make time to do the things you love! If your hobby is watching scientific documentaries or reading comics, why should you be ashamed to do so? If these activities can make you happier and more comfortable in living life, don't hesitate to do it!
Whenever you feel too attached to the girl you like, take a break and give yourself some space
Step 5. Relax
If you seem tense and awkward around him, chances are that the awkwardness will rub off on him. If you're constantly worrying about what to say or how to escape the situation, you won't be able to focus on the woman in front of you. Take deep breaths before approaching him and when you are not chatting. Assure yourself that everything will be fine. Focus on the woman in front of you, not on the anxiety you feel.
Most of the people around you won't really care what you do or say. They have a life of their own and sooner or later they will forget the mistakes you made
Step 6. Be honest about your goals
Of course, nothing prevents you from being friends with the girl you like. But if you really want to have a deeper relationship with him, don't hide your feelings! Try to develop a relationship with him and pay more attention to him. If you're constantly hiding your feelings, he's more likely to feel betrayed when he hears the truth from someone else's mouth. On the other hand, don't give false hope if you just want to be friends with him.
Appreciate the boundaries it sets. Don't force him to reciprocate your feelings
Method 2 of 3: Communicating Effectively
Step 1. Make eye contact with him
When talking to a girl, make sure you always look her in the eye. This method makes you look more confident; besides, you also seem more interested in what he has to say. But be careful not to stare at him all the time, especially if you're not in a conversation with him. From time to time, you may steal glances to show your concern, but turn away immediately afterward.
- Practice your eye contact in front of the mirror, then try practicing it with your friends or even strangers you meet on the street.
- For some people, making eye contact is not easy; but at the very least, doing so will prevent you from scanning his entire body (which is certainly not worth doing!).
Step 2. Engage him in the conversation
Greet him and have a conversation with him on a specific topic; for example, you can ask his opinion about the clothes you wear or the classes you take at school. You can also compliment her opinion or offer to help her out.
Do this every now and then to boost your confidence and build a deeper communication routine with him
Step 3. Be an active listener
Trust me, he will really appreciate it if you are willing to listen carefully to what he has to say. Put away your cell phone and try to catch the meaning of the words. Don't interrupt! Show your interest by nodding every now and then and responding when he's done talking.
- Try repeating the words in your own language. For example, you could say, “So you think…” to show that you understand the meaning of the words.
- Make sure you respond politely and non-judgmentally in any situation.
Step 4. Show genuine interest
To build his trust, invite him to communicate at a deeper level. For example, you can start asking about your hobbies, passions, and life goals. Show that you are interested in getting to know him better; surely he will feel more comfortable to get closer to you.
Try asking him what kind of music he likes. Who knows you two have the same interests, right?
Step 5. Respect her feelings
If you are willing to show an interest in his life, he will be more willing to open up to you. Listen carefully to the whole story and give an empathetic response. Don't make him feel judged or belittled.
- For example, you might say, “The exams are really hard. The important thing is that you did your best.”
- Support his purpose in life. If he wants to be a photographer, give your support even if you might not like the idea.
Step 6. Make him laugh
Jokes are one of the most effective ways to highlight your charisma. In addition to reducing the awkwardness between you, jokes can also be a gateway to discussing more serious topics. Of course, you don't have to make professional jokes like a comedian; just tell the funny things that have happened in your life or make jokes to make the communication situation feel more relaxed.
- Remember, not all jokes are worth telling. Make sure you don't make sarcastic, rude, or gender-biased jokes with girls you just met.
- As the time you spend with him increases, you will surely begin to understand his sense of humor and be able to create internal jokes with him.
Method 3 of 3: Keeping Behavior
Step 1. Respect his personal space
When you meet a girl for the first time, it's enough to shake her hand. Don't keep sticking, bringing your face close to his, or touching him in personal places like his face. Once your relationship has developed, try to assess what kind of interactions are acceptable. Start by gently stroking her hands and shoulders when conversing with her, and standing close to her when you attend parties or concerts.
- If you're interested in a relationship with a girl, don't rush into intense physical or emotional contact with her! Try flirting or cuddling once in a while if he doesn't seem to mind.
- Never touch a girl if she doesn't want to. Respect his personal boundaries and pull yourself away if he seems uncomfortable.
Step 2. Demonstrate positive behavior
Improper actions include speaking rudely, farting, or making inappropriate jokes; all of which will only discourage any woman from approaching you. Make sure you also show a manly attitude like opening the door for women, and always say sorry and thank you.
Step 3. Treat everyone equally
Feel free to communicate with everyone in your life (men, women, heterosexuals, homoesexuals, etc.); treat them as you would treat the women around you. Show your appreciation and sincerity, and listen carefully to what they have to say. Don't be the party that triggers the conflict! Believe me, your maturity and sincerity will be a plus in the eyes of any woman.
This may be difficult to do if you have to deal with people you hate; but no matter how much you hate him, try to avoid over-emotional outbursts. Take deep breaths and control your body and mind
Step 4. Don't gossip about other people
Gossiping about someone is just as bad as having a direct confrontation. Avoid gossiping habits! Trust me, a guy who likes to gossip will not look mature in the eyes of any girl; besides, they will also think that you could do the same to them. Appreciate the people around you as much as you can.
You also shouldn't talk negatively about the women around you or divulge their secrets to other people. If they find out about your actions, your reputation will decline rapidly
Tips
- Don't panic if you accidentally do something embarrassing. Admit your mistakes and laugh at yourself.
- Be careful around shy girls. Try initiating a conversation and breaking down personal boundaries between you gradually. Remember, respect the personal space!
- Observe her body language to understand her feelings and manage your responses.
- If you're interested in being in a relationship with him, don't be afraid to flirt or flirt with him once in a while.
- If you're not already in a relationship with him, don't show your jealousy when he's spending time with other people.
- Show a friendly attitude to his friends and relatives, regardless of how you really feel about them.
- Protect them, but don't get caught up in fights or actions that could potentially harm you.
Warning
- Never force a woman to have physical contact or a further relationship if she isn't ready for it!
- Don't try too hard to get his attention; Don't try too hard to hide your feelings either. Besides being too explicit, doing so will only make your life unhappy.
