To be able to influence other people, you must be able to do the unexpected and do something more than what is often seen. Have complete confidence in yourself and what you want to achieve. Give advice, advice and help to people in need. Finally, know the impact of any of your actions and show them the impact so they can understand.
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Method 1 of 3: Influencing Coworkers
Step 1. Increase Confidence
You can influence other people to do what you ask with confidence. Confident people tend to be more capable of leading than those who lack confidence and often feel anxious. A firm posture and tone of voice, as well as positive thoughts will indicate a calm and strong nature, and both are qualities that many people seek and follow in order for them to possess these qualities.
- One way to sound confident is to avoid questionable words like "maybe" and "try." Instead of saying “we will try to solve this problem by doing A and B,” say “we will solve this problem this way.” By eliminating questionable words, people will believe that you have the soul and answers they are looking for, so they will want to follow you.
- Franklin D. Roosevelt had a very strong influence on Americans during World War 2 when he said “we will win absolutely” in a speech in 1941 following the attack on Pearl Harbor by the Japanese. "No matter how long it takes to deal with this premeditated attack, America, with its capabilities, will win unanimously."
Step 2. Do your research and increase your knowledge and insight
Find out what you really want to achieve and learn everything related to the topic of your goals and targets. You have to know everything you want to affect other people and be ready to answer any questions about the topic. By having knowledge and insight, you will have authority. Research will give you a thorough understanding of your topic and then be able to impress others with your skills. With knowledge, others will want to learn from you.
By nature, humans will always listen to people who know more, because we want to get advice, philosophy, and wisdom from them
Step 3. Get to know the people you want to influence
Dale Carnegie once said in the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”: “When talking to other people, talk to them and they will listen for hours. People will like you right away if you show interest in them first. Get to know their hobbies, what they like and don't like, and so on. Get to know them and make yourself likable and use that to build trust in you.
Step 4. Make sure you appear honest by being genuine and absolute
Telling lies will get you in trouble if caught. Bending the Truth will only make people disbelieve and fight you, and that will make it difficult for you to influence others.
Method 2 of 3: Influencing the Enemy
Step 1. Know your enemy
Understand their point of view and their opinion. It is important that you know the answers to any questions they throw at them and vice versa. If you already know all that, then you can find out and explain why your opinion is better. Acknowledge that they have a point that is right and prove that you really understand their point of view and why.
- Use the strengths of your opponent's side to strengthen your own side by comparing the facts of the opposing side and end with why the facts you have are stronger.
- Give a credible example and show that your opinion is better.
- Do not bring down the opponent or his opinion. Serve like you're equal and show that with your help you can both do great things.
Step 2. Prove your dedication and commitment
Your opponent will challenge you with “why” questions. They will also show all the negative sides from your point of view. But you can still win by showing that you are dedicated and committed to the knowledge you have.
Step 3. Show that you are an expert and have strong beliefs
As mentioned above, people will listen more to someone who is an expert and experienced. If you can prove that you're an expert on your subject or topic, your opponent will listen and learn what you know.
Your opponent may think that he is also an expert. But if you can show that you are better or more skilled, and really believe in your opinion, they will start to doubt themselves. If they see that you really believe in your opinion, they will start to believe in yours too
Method 3 of 3: Influencing Others When Selling Something
Step 1. Have persuasion skills
In general, persuasion is forming sentences that sound interesting. Consider who the person you want to influence is and why, then think about how you will influence that person, then compose a sentence that can be interesting.
- Wordplay is a very good skill and very useful for someone trying to sell something. For example: “You're not spending money on a new logo. You are investing in a marketing solution for your company.”
- Don't confuse people with word manipulation. You want to maintain their trust, and the trick is to show the features and facts as they are.
Step 2. Use appropriateness and social impact
People usually tend to follow what the general public agrees on, because they think by following the majority, they will be accepted and liked, and will do anything to change their opinion for that purpose. Use suitability to influence someone by saying that what you are selling is very well received by the people in your area.
- Admit that you belong to a society that follows the social influence you mention.
- Use examples that explain how your product became popular and why (using real facts, of course). “The majority of people in our area use our products because our products are more efficient and effective, thus saving time and money.”
Step 3. Be sure that what you are selling is the best
If you believe that the product you are selling is the best choice for everyone, then you can certainly convince others.
Tips
- Make more friends than musuk. If you have enemies, loyalty to your enemies must equal loyalty to friends.
- If you are trying to influence an opponent or adversary, be honest and sincere.
- Don't betray those who follow you, especially in times of crisis. It will damage your reputation.
Warning
- Do not influence others to hurt, damage relationships or friendships, and other negative effects.
- People will lose trust and confidence in you if you lie or hurt them.
- When you try to get people to see what you've done, you can end up being hated.
