Online dating is a good option for many people looking for a serious partner or just casual dating. Your online profile can help other people determine whether or not they can contact you. To create a good profile, you need to write a biography that grabs the attention of a lot of people. Don't forget to include some unique photos. Keep your profile on a positive note. This way, you can attract a lot of potential mates in a short amount of time.
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Method 1 of 3: Write an Interesting Biography
Step 1. Choose an attractive and simple username
Choose a name that stands out, but still reflects who you really are. Avoid choosing a name that refers to things that smell sex. Also avoid names that seem boring. Use a name that includes a funny pun or rhyme. Even names that sound silly and funny can be the right choice. In addition, names that contain popular culture references can also be used, especially if those references are meaningful to you.
- Combined names can also be used as the right choice. Combine several things of interest into one name. For example, you can choose the name “NovelArt” or “ChefCat”.
- Resist the temptation to insert a number at the end of the name. Inserting numbers like that can make your username look boring so try to find other, more creative options.
- For security and safety reasons, do not use your full name as your online ID.
Step 2. Write a profile title that catches people's attention
Take advantage of the 100-character column at the top of your profile to make a compelling first impression. Choose a movie quote or line from a novel that is meaningful to you. Or, you can also include a summary of the most unique experiences or funny conversations.
- You can create a profile greeting like “I am Romeo. Will you be my Juliet?"
- Don't list everything in that column. There are many other columns to explain further about other aspects of personality. In addition, as much as possible do not write content in the form of lists.
- It's a good idea to think about the character of other users that you want to attract with the created profile. What was their response like? This is the type of information you need to include, either in the opening column or in other fields. If you're in doubt, it's a good idea to include more general information and pay attention to what kind of responses come up the most.
Step 3. Tell me something
In this case, point out how the things you are interested in shape your life, rather than simply mentioning them. In the main column displayed on the website, write a story detailing your personality and hobbies. The more details you include, the better your profile will be.
- For example, if you enjoy dancing and traveling, try describing your ideal date (eg a date night with salsa dancing in Spain). Or, if you have had such an experience, describe the pleasure you felt at that time. What was the music like that night? How was the attitude of the people at that time? Make sure you end the story with a memorable sentence.
- If you want to be creative, link your biographical message with photos to show a story in sections. Or, use your photos as illustrations for a written biography.
- You can also make a list of things you want and don't want, but these days more and more people are ignoring this section of the profile because it looks like a “shopping list”.
Step 4. Use more colorful language
Try to create a more stunning picture or imagination through the choice of words. Instead of explaining how you see things, you can explain what made you instantly “attracted” to something. Keep in mind that certain words tend to attract positive responses. Women can get more attention by describing themselves as sweet and outgoing. Meanwhile, men can get attention by describing themselves as optimistic and confident.
A humorous style of language can also be positive because both men and women usually respond positively to wordplay and jokes included in the profile. Just avoid using excessive exclamation points at the end of jokes because using excessive punctuation can make other people uncomfortable
Step 5. Explain your goals openly and honestly
If you're just looking for a partner to have fun with, be candid. If you're looking for a partner to commit to long term, feel free to let other users know. Information like this, along with age and occupation information, will give your potential partner a better picture of whether or not you can be a good match for him or her.
If you want a long-term relationship, it's a good idea to not immediately explain how many children you want to have or what your partner's ideal income is. Such topics usually discourage people from viewing online profiles
Step 6. Make sure the information listed in the bio or “About Me” column remains brief
Make sure the text displayed on your page is only three paragraphs long (or less). Text that is longer than that is usually considered redundant, regardless of how compelling the content you include is. Remember that you want to grab the attention of other users and encourage them to message you. Keep the profile information short so that it feels self-explanatory, but still makes you feel confident with the information.
Step 7. Beautify and edit your profile
After writing the initial profile draft, save the profile and leave the page. Come back to your profile page in a day or two. Focus revisions on timeline content, improve grammar and spelling of words, and remove typographical errors you make. Usually, people will ignore profiles with messy content.
Ask a friend to view your profile. Also, ask him for suggestions and ideas for further revision
Step 8. Brief information for the profile page of the mobile app version
For written content, you can include an extraordinary quote or maybe a snippet of song lyrics. You can also include funny jokes or short stories. Again, don't give a summary on this version to keep other users interested in your profile. Also add 4 to 5 photos to make your profile stand out.
Method 2 of 3: Choosing an Alluring Profile Photo
Step 1. Look at the camera
Eye contact builds trust and makes you appear more trustworthy and friendly. The best profile photos will show you with their full attention and a straight gaze at the camera (and, of course, profile visitors).
- Sunglasses make some people look cool, but wearing them can sometimes make you seem closed off and cold. Therefore, upload only one photo that shows you wearing sunglasses.
- For facial photos, a natural appearance is always stunning. However, if you feel more comfortable and can be yourself by wearing makeup, you can put it on before the photo. Make sure you wear makeup that is as light and natural as possible.
Step 2. Smile
Based on the results of the vote, 96% of people gave more positive responses to photos featuring a big smile (showing teeth) than photos showing a sexy smile (or lifting lips to look sexy). Smiling makes you more approachable and can spread happiness to others. You don't have to just upload photos with a smiling expression because it might seem weird, but try to keep showing photos that show your smile (even if it's not a big smile).
Step 3. Be the only person shown in the main profile photo
It's a good idea to upload the main profile photo that only shows you. This way, your potential “fans” can recognize you in other photos (especially photos that also feature other people). Upload a photo that showcases your best physical attributes. The more parts of the face and body that are shown, the better.
You may be tempted to upload a selfie, but try to find alternative photos. Selfies sometimes give the impression of being antisocial. In addition, selfies taken in front of a mirror often appear “unnatural” (eg as if the pose is pre-arranged or forced)
Step 4. Upload some photos that reflect your “action”
Add some photos that show you doing activities you love. Do you enjoy playing baseball or softball? Show a photo of you holding a bat. Do you like rock climbing? Upload a photo of you climbing to the top of the cliff. Such photos can attract the attention of other users with similar interests.
Photos like these provide a good opportunity to show off your overall physical appearance. That said, this is a "requirement" that must be followed when uploading photos for online dating profiles
Step 5. Upload your photos while having fun with friends
Add a photo or two of you with friends or family. Avoid photos taken while you're enjoying a night out at the bar, and try to upload photos that showcase your wider social network. Photos like this are not suitable as the main photo, but can be a good choice of "additional" photos.
Try covering up the faces of other friends in your photos if you know they're not very happy about being "appeared" in online profiles. You can do this using free online photo editing tools
Step 6. Use only quality photos
No one wants to see a blurry photo. Upload sharp photos with a clear and good background. Photos with bright colors and good lighting are usually a better choice. In addition, such photos are often directly associated with summer happiness and cheerfulness.
- When asked to compare people in photos taken in summer and photos taken in winter, people usually think that people in photos taken in summer are more attractive and fun.
- You can also upload photos taken by professionals, as long as the pose or style shown is not too stiff or "forced". However, don't upload photos taken with the flash as additional lighting like that can make you look 7 years older.
Method 3 of 3: Avoiding Errors in Profiling
Step 1. Focus on the positive
Revise your profile and remove things that make you seem depressed and depressing. Usually, people don't look for partners who are drowning in sadness. It's a good idea to focus on what you want, not things that can damage your desires. Tell profile visitors that you “love hiking and other outdoor activities”, not “don't like staying at home”.
- Don't talk about your ex on your profile. Nothing can destroy a romantic mood faster than bringing up the past. Topics like that you can discuss when your relationship has progressed.
- Don't say that you didn't think you could join an online dating service. It makes you appear “high” or belittled other users who are following online dating as a very well-understood option. Realize that even now, you are dependent on online dating services.
Step 2. Stay honest
Basically, your goal is to meet someone so that if you lie, eventually the lie will be exposed. Find someone who can accept you for who you are, not a fantasy version of you. Provide your exact age or age range. Also upload some recent photos to your profile.
Step 3. Be confident, and not arrogant
Making online dating profiles sometimes makes a person feel vulnerable or insecure so some people usually put aside modesty to “cover up” that vulnerable side. Try not to brag about your profile, especially when it comes to personal appearance. Write down information about your hobbies without overestimating your abilities.
You could say, for example, “I find playing the piano a great way to relax in the afternoon. Oh yeah, I'm pretty good at playing the piano too."
Step 4. Do not include excessive sexual references
You need to be careful with the use of sexual references, unless what you expect is a one-night stand. Any information you include on your profile (including hobbies) may be construed as something “other”, unless you edit your profile carefully.
Step 5. Avoid clichés
It's definitely not a good thing if your profile looks like an old-fashioned dating ad. While it's possible, say, you enjoy walking on the beach, you don't need to mention it on your profile and can save it as a chat topic. Focus on what makes you stand out from other users.
Instead of saying that you enjoy eating out with friends, it might be better to mention your favorite restaurant or food. Or, you can also retell your favorite dinner experience
Step 6. Make sure all the information you need to tell is listed on the profile
Phrases like “Want to know more about me? Just ask me” will only make you seem lazy, and not mysterious. The terms of the existing profile fields, even if you have to get creative with the delivery of information or its approach. This way, profile visitors will feel that you are willing to put in the time and effort to find a potential partner.
Tips
- It's a good idea to dress neatly before writing your profile so you can write as much as possible, as if you were meeting a potential partner in person and telling a story about yourself.
- Make sure you update your profile regularly. Add new stories and check the messages you get.
