The passion and fire of a romantic relationship at the age of corn can evaporate over time. There are several things that can be done to bring back the fire of romance if the relationship feels bland. Improve yourself, spend time with your partner, and reminisce about the good times in your relationship.
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Method 1 of 3: Improving Yourself
Step 1. Consider how you prioritize your relationships
When a relationship has been going on long enough, sometimes you start to underestimate your partner. Look at how you prioritize those relationships. Do you pay attention to your partner?
- Do you make time to be alone with your partner? Career, work, and children sometimes reduce the time you have for making out. If you've been busy lately, do you remember to spend some time alone with him?
- How often do you communicate with your partner? Often times, we forget to ask our partner how he is and how he feels when we are busy. Make sure you make an effort to contact your partner regularly.
Step 2. Accept what you cannot change
In fact, people have bad habits. When you're with someone for a long time, their slight flaws start to piss you off. Try to accept the things in your partner that cannot be changed.
- Many people believe that they can't be happy in a relationship until they try to improve or perfect their partner's weaknesses. However, this is not the case and can damage the relationship in the long run. For example, do you keep reminding your partner to take out the trash but it doesn't always work? If constant talking and nagging doesn't fix a small bad behavior, you may have to learn to accept it.
- Look from the other side. At times, your partner's tardiness and recklessness can be annoying, but try to remind yourself that these are minor issues within the other big problems in life. When you're frustrated, think to yourself, "Yeah, my boyfriend is always late, but he always remembers to ask about my dad, listen to my problems when I'm sad, and laugh when I tell a joke. That's the most important thing.”
Step 3. Make yourself feel attractive
The insecurity you feel can dim the fire of romance in a relationship. If you feel insecure about your physique, you will drift away from your partner without even realizing it. Try to feel attractive.
- Changing your style can help make you feel attractive. Consider a new outfit, hairstyle, or make-up. Going shopping and talking to a stylist at the supermarket can help.
- Exercise and eat regularly. Even if you don't want to lose weight, people tend to feel more attractive if they feel healthy.
Method 2 of 3: Relive the Passion
Step 1. Communicate your wants and needs to your partner
If you feel like you're in a relationship slump, chances are your partner is feeling the same way. Sit down and discuss with your partner your wants and needs in the relationship.
- Schedule a specific time to talk and be prepared to listen. If you want the fire of love to rekindle, you have to be willing to change. It's rare that the downturn in a love relationship is only on one side. Stay calm and listen carefully to your partner's wants and needs.
- Talk about times when you felt your partner loved and cherished you. Do you feel loved when your partner brings you flowers? Asking how are you? Holding your hand while watching a movie? Let him know.
- Talk about everything you want to do more often. Would you like to spend more time in the week with him? Dating more often? Trying new things together?
- Are there things you used to do together but don't do anymore? In the early days of a relationship, you may feel compelled to do romantic things. Sending emotional messages, bringing flowers to your partner, and staying up late to chat are less frequent activities if you've been with someone for a long time. If you miss these things, tell your partner to try to do them more often.
Step 2. Make a little special thing as a token of appreciation
Special things, even small ones, can help you. If you feel the fire in your relationship is getting weaker, consider doing the following:
- Surprise trips, such as dinner dates, concerts and museum trips
- Tell your partner about one thing you like about him every day. For example, “I love the way you yawn in the morning” or “I like that my coffee is always ready because you remember to set the pot before bed.”
- If your partner is busy at work, do something that will lighten the load when he gets home. Wash dishes or clothes. Take out the trash. Cook for dinner.
Step 3. Seduce him
Flirting is a fun way to feel sexy. Often times, we flirt early in a relationship to cultivate attraction. Once interest is built, flirtation begins to wane. Try to seduce your partner occasionally with body language and verbal communication. Flirting can rejuvenate a relationship and increase confidence for you and your partner.
Step 4. Have fun together
Oftentimes, we forget that fun is an important component of romantic relationships. Try to make time to do fun and romantic activities together.
- Plan a date night. Oftentimes, the longer you're in a relationship with someone, the less likely you'll be dating. Try to find fun new things to do together on a date. Sign up for a potting class. Go dance. Climb the mountain. Visit a neighboring town.
- You can also contact other people. Make plans with your partnered friends. Join a club together and make new friends. Exploring social life together is a great way to have fun in a relationship.
- Have fun at home too. Take out toys to play with all night. Look for funny TV shows to watch. Play word games.
Step 5. Explore new sexual activities
Sex life is an important factor in a romantic relationship. If the relationship starts to feel bland, look for ways to rekindle your sexual desire. You can try some of the things below:
- Trying new sex positions.
- Watch porn together.
- Do role play.
- Talk about sexual fantasies.
- Using sex toys.
Method 3 of 3: Reflecting on the Past
Step 1. Recall how the two of you met
You can restore the fire of romance by going back to the beginning. To appreciate your partner, remember the early days of your relationship. This is usually when passion is at its peak.
- Talk about how the two of you met. Your personal love story can foster a sense of sentimentality and romance. Discuss how the two of you met for the first time, your first impressions of each other, and share memories of your first date together.
- These conversations can be easy to start. Say, "Do you remember the first time we met?" and continue from there. Talk about what attracted you to your partner in the first place, what are the fondest memories of your early love life, and what makes you think your relationship is truly special.
Step 2. Relive the good times
You can also reminisce about the good old days in your life. Together, the two of you can relive the good times to get your passion back.
- Listen to music that reminds you of the early phases of your romance.
- Have you both read the same book? If so, read a passage to each other.
- Look at old photos and videos.
- Go back to the movies you both watched in the early days of your relationship.
Step 3. Plan a nostalgic date
Go to the restaurant the two of you went to at the beginning of your courtship. Plan a movie marathon based on the movies or TV shows you watched in your early dating days. Find ways to plan date night to remind you and your partner of your initial attraction.
Tips
- Remember why you used to love him.
- This can help mend a relationship or find the “fire of romance” in your sex life.
