Love relationships are sometimes difficult to maintain, and there may be times when you need a break from all forms of bonding. Unfortunately, just because you don't want to be in a relationship doesn't mean your sexual needs are gone. If you're looking for a way to make love without involving your feelings, you may be interested in a no-strings-attached relationship.
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Method 1 of 3: Avoiding Falling In Love
Step 1. Don't fantasize about the future
One of the most beautiful things about being in love is the vision of the future you have with the one you love. Don't allow yourself to imagine a future with a sexual partner for even a second. Enjoy what you have, and when you can't hold it in anymore, walk away.
- No schedule. Try to make the meeting more spontaneous and not routine.
- If you fantasize about your life with him, you may not be in the right emotional state to be in a no-strings-attached relationship.
Step 2. Don't share a lot of emotional stuff
Telling your biggest secrets and opening up completely will only make you feel closer than you need to be. That will make it difficult for you to maintain the distance and separation necessary for a relationship like this to work.
- Talk about fun topics, such as books, movies, music, and work.
- Treat him like a coworker or casual acquaintance.
Step 3. Leave no room for jealousy
You and he are both human. So, there is definitely the possibility of jealousy arising. It is very important to communicate feelings, otherwise this kind of relationship will not work.
- When you or he starts to get jealous, talk about whether a no-strings-attached relationship can still continue.
- Acknowledge that jealousy may arise because you're already in love, and if so, end your engagement as soon as possible.
Step 4. Create space for yourself
Love is very easy to come if you see him every day. So, an easy way to avoid falling in love is to limit your time together. The longer you don't see each other, the easier it will be to stop obsessing over him.
- Creating space here also means limiting all forms of communication. Do not contact him and avoid contact via the internet.
- As a time filler when you don't see each other, try exercising or getting used to hugging someone close. Exercise increases dopamine levels and touch increases oxytocin in the body, both of which will make you feel happier and calmer.
Step 5. Focus your energy on something else
Another way to avoid falling in love is to keep yourself busy so you don't have time to think about it. Put your energy into work or hobbies. Concentrate on getting into shape or learning a new skill. Do whatever turns your mind to yourself, not him.
- Dating new people can also be a distraction.
- When you feel your heart begin to lean toward love, force your brain to think of something else.
Method 2 of 3: Creating Healthy Bondless Relationships
Step 1. Find a love partner
Finding the right person for casual sex is harder than it sounds. You need a sexually compatible person, who also wants a no-strings-attached relationship.
- You can meet potential partners anywhere, like at a bar, bank, or classroom. Look for people who are sexually attractive, but don't consider long-term relationships.
- Try not to pick your own close friends. Mixing friendship with sex may ruin a good relationship.
Step 2. Make a match
Don't go straight to bed. Start by getting to know him and make sure the two of you are good friends. Chatting without sex will also give you time to convey what you're looking for in a relationship like this.
- Be honest from the start that you're not looking for a serious relationship and just want a casual relationship.
- If one holds feelings, it means it's time to break the relationship. A no-strings-attached relationship will only work if both parties share the same views.
Step 3. Treat him like a friend you happen to have sex with
Do not involve anything romantic in this relationship. Don't plan dates or introduce him to friends or family. By creating distance, you can fulfill your sexual needs without the added pressure of others.
- Don't talk about or stress your emotions because overthinking this relationship will only mess things up.
- Take it easy. A bonded relationship is a means of having fun and letting go of needs. Don't make it more complicated than it needs to be.
Step 4. Don't ask about his relationship with other people
Relationships without ties are not exclusive. So he probably has a date (and so do you). Don't talk about the relationship outside because that will mess things up and might hurt one or both parties.
- Don't assume that he will ask you to spend the night with him. Realize that you both have your own life.
- Realize that as outside relationships come and go, you may see each other more or less often. That's very normal.
Step 5. Know when to leave
A no-strings-attached relationship will only run smoothly for a while, and there's nothing wrong with that. By knowing when to disconnect, your mental health and happiness will be maintained.
- If sex is no longer great or enjoyable, it's a sign that the relationship may be at an end.
- If one is in an exclusive relationship with another person, then the relationship must be terminated.
- If you and he no longer enjoy being together, it's time to end the relationship.
- Don't try to change the state of a no-strings-attached relationship to a status-driven relationship. Don't try to hold on just because you're afraid of losing.
Method 3 of 3: Enjoying Good Sex
Step 1. Say what you want honestly
Since a no-strings-attached relationship is purely sexual, you must achieve the goal, which is great sex. One way to make sure you get it is to be honest about what you like and what you don't.
- If you have sexual fantasies, tell them. He may be willing to try something your partner hasn't done before.
- Reply to treatment. Do not be selfish. Give as much as you receive.
Step 2. Make sure your body is clean and fragrant
Just because he's not a lover, doesn't mean you can be careless. Brush your teeth, wash your hair, and shower before meeting him. Prepare yourself as you normally would when meeting a sexual partner.
- This goes both ways. If you feel like he's not properly prepared, it's probably best if you don't get involved with him.
- Don't feel like you have to dress up like you're going on a first date. Preparation is not to impress him, just general courtesy.
Step 3. Try something new
There are some people who are hesitant to explore certain sexual desires, especially with their own partners. A sexual partner in a no-strings-attached relationship is the perfect person to try new things. So, feel free to experiment.
- Don't rely on your favorite style. Change positions every time you make love.
- Try making love in a place other than the bedroom.
- Start experimenting with assistive devices and role playing.
Step 4. Practice healthy sex
The best sex is sex free from worry. Communicate your sexual health openly and make sure he does too. Ask him to wear a condom to protect himself from sexually transmitted diseases.
- Continue to use condoms even if both of you are proven clean through the test. This relationship is not exclusive. So you still have to protect yourself.
- Don't try something that neither of you are comfortable with, or haven't talked about yet. Make sure everything is agreed and secure.
Warning
- Always use protection. Make sure he knows that condom use is non-negotiable.
- When meeting people you don't know well, make sure there are trusted people who know where you are.
