Expressing your love for someone may seem daunting, but there are many simple ways to do it. If you want to give a hint that you're interested in him, try it with a casual touch or a compliment. Expressing your feelings in person is a bold move to see how they react, while it's okay to share your feelings in a message, note or over the phone. Whichever method you choose, do it with confidence, and be proud that you've been honest about your feelings.
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Method 1 of 3: Expressing Love Without Words
Step 1. Give a light touch on the arm or knee
Use body language to show that you are interested. Touch her arm when talking, put her arm around her waist when walking together, or squeeze her hand gently when apart.
- Give her a playful massage on her back or pretend to hit her knees when sitting side by side.
- Choose physical touch according to the level of intimacy. A gentle squeeze of the arm when greeting or parting is appropriate if you're not very close, while a back stroke is more appropriate if you're already close friends.
Step 2. Make eye contact to get his attention
Gazing into each other's eyes can add to the attraction between the two of you. Try holding your gaze for a few seconds longer to indicate that you are interested.
- Don't look away if he catches you looking at him, maintain eye contact for another second or two, then smile.
- Don't make eye contact for more than 3 seconds because it looks scary.
Step 3. Praise him for showing what you like about him
Tell him he's great at a particular sport or looks great in the clothes he's wearing. This shows that you care and support them.
For example, “The clothes you wear make your eyes shine even more!” or “I really like seeing you perform in the choir.”
Step 4. Laugh at his jokes to show that you think he's funny
For example, a joke he deliberately tells or just his words that happen to be funny. Laughing at his funny comments shows that you like his sense of humor.
Step 5. Send a text message several times a day to show that you are thinking of him
If you and he know each other well, send a few texts a day to ask how he's doing or to comment on random events. You can also send a funny picture or video with the words, “This reminds me of you!”
- Text him at night to ask him about his day, or in the morning to let him know that you're thinking of him.
- Don't send consecutive messages as this might annoy him.
Step 6. Like what he updates on social media to show support
Comment on his Facebook status, like his picture on Instagram, or favorite one of his tweets on Twitter. Attention on social media shows that you are interested in him and what he does.
Don't comment on long-past social media updates or like multiple posts at once so you don't sound like you're being spied on
Method 2 of 3: Expressing Likes Directly
Step 1. Express your feelings without being seen by others
It's best to have this kind of serious conversation alone, away from friends or family. This is to create a stress-free atmosphere and so that no one hears.
Talk outside, or take him out for some privacy
Step 2. Plan what you want to say to increase confidence
If you're very nervous, practice expressing your feelings so you have an idea what to say. To do this, write down what you want to convey or think about the feelings you want to express.
- Practice in front of a mirror to increase your confidence.
- Also plan the time. Make sure you choose a free time, no one is rushed or distracted by other thoughts.
Step 3. Start casually through casual chat
Instead of spitting out words filled with feelings right away, try taking a slow approach. Start with a compliment, or say that you want to talk about something.
For example, you might start with, "You might be surprised by what I'm about to say, and you don't have to say anything if you're still confused. I just want to be honest about my feelings.”
Step 4. State your feelings clearly so that he understands
Make it clear that the statement is an expression of the heart, whether the goal is just to make you feel relieved or to ask him to be your girlfriend. Honesty will be good for both of you so that there are no regrets and so that he knows exactly what you are thinking.
You can say, "I've liked you for a long time, do you want to be my girlfriend?"
Step 5. Tell him that he doesn't need to answer right away
This expression of feeling might take him by surprise, and maybe he doesn't know what to say yet. Give him time to digest it by saying that he doesn't need to answer or say he likes it back.
You can say, "I know you're shocked, please think about it, we can talk again any time you want."
Step 6. Appreciate the answer no matter what
If he says he doesn't feel the same way, accept his decision and try to move on. Be proud of yourself for having the courage to express your feelings.
- For example, if he's revealing that he actually likes someone else, say, "I see, thanks for being honest."
- Stay calm and don't get angry or defensive if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
Method 3 of 3: Using Other Ways to Express Feelings
Step 1. Convey your love via text message for a casual look
Expressing love through text messages is fine, it just gives him time to think about his feelings before responding. Send short, simple, and clear messages to avoid misunderstandings.
- Plan to text when he's alone and not busy, such as late afternoon or before bedtime.
- Say, “Hey Sarah, this might sound too casual. I want to say that I really like you, I hope to be your girlfriend if you are also interested in me."
Step 2. Write a message explaining your feelings for a romantic feel
Instead of sending a plain text message, write down your feelings on a piece of paper. Write down everything you want to convey in a short, but meaningful letter. Fold it or put it in an envelope, and give it to him.
You can also write his name above the message and place it where only he will find it, such as a locker or bag
Step 3. Call him to express feelings over the phone
This is a great way if you're already friends with him and don't feel awkward talking on the phone. Plan what to say and keep the conversation short to avoid awkward pauses.
- Start the conversation by asking how you're doing and saying that you have something to say.
- End the conversation by saying, “I don't expect you to express feelings either, I just want to get these feelings out of my chest. Thank you for listening."
Step 4. Ask a friend to be the messenger if you want to know how they will respond
If there's a friend you can trust to deliver this serious message, ask if he or she would be willing to intercede. You could ask this friend to describe how he or she would react when they heard that you liked them.
- It's better to choose a friend who is also known to him so that he doesn't feel awkward hearing the news.
- For example, say to your friend, “I seriously like Yasmin and want to express my feelings for her. You want to say that I like him?”
Step 5. Choose creative ways with food or artwork for a unique statement
If you want to convey your love in a special way, express it through your work. For example, with a heart-shaped pizza or a poem by yourself.
- You could write, "Would you like to be my girlfriend?" on a large cake and give it to him, or compose a collection of songs that describe how you feel.
- Put this cue in a certain place so he can find it himself if you don't want to watch him find it.
Step 6. Be prepared to wait for an answer
Since this statement isn't made directly, you can't immediately tell how he feels. Be patient and don't push him to decide. Be proud of yourself that you have the courage to express your feelings, and let him take the next step.
