When a guy likes you, your reaction will depend on how you feel about him. It's great to know that someone you adore has the same feelings about you. In a situation like this, try to return the seduction. However, if you don't like it, unwanted attention can become a nuisance. Try sending a signal that shows you're not interested in him. Whatever your response or action, if he's still not getting your message, try talking to him about your relationship.
Method 1 of 3: Respond When You Have the Same Feeling
Step 1. Try to get closer to him
If he gives you a signal, respond back by leaning closer to him. Try sitting nearby when you attend social events. When chatting with him during class breaks or breaks, stand closer to him. This can show him that you like him too and enjoy being around him.
Step 2. Find reasons to spend time alone with him
This moment can help you assess whether he really likes you. Plus, your openness to just spending time with him shows that you're attracted to him too. Try to find reasons to invite him to do activities alone so that you have a chance to explain your feelings.
For example, you could send a text such as "I suddenly want to eat a hamburger. Would you like to go to McDonald's with me after school?"
Step 3. Throw a tantrum on social media
By paying more attention to the guy who allegedly likes you through social media, you can show that you like him too. Try posting comments on photos and posting them on sites like Instagram and Facebook. Reply to his tweets on Twitter and re-share the tweets that you find interesting.
Insert a small seduction in your comments. For example, you could say, “Sweet! I think blue suits you."
Step 4. Reply gestures that reflect seduction
If he seduces you, return his seduction. Some fairly common seduction tactics include eye contact, flashing a smile, raised eyebrows, and casual/light physical contact. If he shows gestures like that, try to flirt back.
For example, if he rubs his arm against yours, wait a moment. After that, you can ruffle his hair or place your hands on his knees
Step 5. Be yourself
Remember that once he likes you, you don't have to change anything about yourself. Be a unique person when you are with him and don't hesitate to lower your prestige or shame. Feel free to act a little silly or wild when you're with him because that will make you like him more.
For example, if you like a certain musician who is a little "unique" or is outspoken in his demeanor, don't hesitate to talk about that musician in front of him. If you like a particular type of film that is unique, invite him to watch it with you
Method 2 of 3: Respond When You Don't Have The Same Feeling
Step 1. Try to spend time with other friends
To show that you just want to be friends with him, put him in your circle of friends. Don't spend time alone with him. When you invite him to work or spend time, make sure your other friends come along so you don't have to spend time alone with him.
- For example, invite him to watch a movie with your other friends.
- You can also direct him if he invites you to go somewhere alone. For example, if he asks you to go to a party with him, you might say, “Oh! I'm planning to go with my friends. How about you come with us?"
Step 2. Avoid touching or physical contact
Some people are used to showing physical contact or casual touch with their friends. You may often hug your friend when you meet or part, or simply pat your friend on the shoulder while chatting. If you feel the guy in question likes you, refrain from showing physical contact like that. Physical contact actually risks showing the wrong message.
Step 3. Give limited praise
It's not uncommon for you to compliment your friends. However, don't over-praise the guy who allegedly likes you. It actually makes him think that you like him too, even though you really don't.
- For example, let's say he's wearing a shirt you like. Compliments like “You looked great today!” can be considered as a form of seduction.
- Instead, look for comments that don't reflect seduction. You can say, “Your shirt is great!”. To be safe, you may also not need to comment on anything.
Step 4. Don't respond to seductive gestures or comments
If he starts to flirt, try to ignore it. Your response could be misinterpreted. If he, for example, smiles at you from his seat, return his gaze with a slow nod, not a smile.
If he often seduces you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, say something. You could say, for example, "I hate it when you touch me all the time."
Method 3 of 3: Honestly Talking About Feelings
Step 1. Choose the right time and place to talk
When you want to talk about something sensitive (e.g. your feelings for someone), it's important that you prepare an appropriate time and place. Find the right moment so that you both have free time (without a certain limit). Choose a covered place, such as a bench in a quieter corner of the park.
Step 2. Express your feelings directly
If you want to express your feelings, say it directly. There's no point in beating around the bush and throwing in the hints. Express your feelings candidly by saying, for example, “I have your feelings for you. Sometimes, I feel that you like me too. Is it true?"
Step 3. Dismiss him honestly, but stay friendly if you're not attracted to him
If you don't like him, reject him honestly. Let him know that you appreciate the friendship you have with him, but that you are not interested in a romantic relationship with him. You don't need to "brutal" reject her, but make it clear that you don't expect a more serious relationship with her.
- Say something that clearly shows that you don't feel the same way. For example, you could say, "I'm not interested in being in a romantic relationship with you."
- It's okay if you need to give reasons, but state them politely and subtly. For example, if you're not interested in him, don't say, "I'm not interested in you." You could say, for example, "I'd rather be friends with you."
Step 4. Respond appropriately if it turns out that he doesn't have feelings for you
If you misunderstood the situation, it would make you very embarrassed. Regardless of whether your feelings are reciprocated or not, things can get awkward when you suspect someone has feelings for you, even though they don't really like you. Make sure you plan your response to situations like this.
- Accept the response politely. Whatever the scenario, you can say, for example, “Ah, I think I misunderstood the situation. Thank you for being honest with me."
- It's okay if you feel sad when someone rejects you at first supposedly likes you. Take time to share your concerns with your friends and indulge yourself, such as watching a movie or ordering your favorite food.