Have you ever wished you wanted to be tougher? Would you like to be able to take care of yourself when needed? Or say what you think? Well, now you can do it. You can become the tough girl you've always imagined by following the easy steps below.
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Part 1 of 3: Think Like a Tough Girl
Step 1. Be yourself
If you want to be tough, the first thing you have to do is accept yourself. If you like staying up late reading sci-fi novels instead of watching popular TV shows, go for it. If some people find something very funny but you don't find it funny, then why? Pretending to be someone else is a clear sign of insecurity or weakness. People can easily spot your weaknesses and you won't look tough if someone exposes your weaknesses.
Step 2. Boost your self-confidence
This step is related to the first step. If you accept yourself, you will have the understanding to be confident. What does that have to do with being a tough girl? Easy. If you are confident and comfortable, you will handle any situation that gets in your way. You will feel confident in your beliefs and decisions you make. In addition, you will not be afraid to show off. Here are some ways to increase your self-confidence.
- Make a list of the things you like about yourself, your strengths, and your accomplishments on a piece of paper. Turn the paper horizontally and fold it into thirds or draw two vertical lines to make three columns. In each column, write down at least 5 things you love about yourself, 5 things you are good at, and 5 things you are proud of. Do you feel you have a warm smile? Do you have the ability to make other people laugh when they are sad? Are you proud to feed the homeless at night? Write down everything that comes to your mind. Reread your list to remind yourself how great you are.
- Think about yourself positively. Pay attention to some qualities that are within you (there may be some that you have listed on your list) and think about them often. Another tip: Collect negative thoughts and turn them into positive ones. If you're thinking, “I don't like the way I look”, you can say: “My eyes are really good”.
- Dress up to feel confident. If you feel like your clothes don't reflect who you are, or make you happy, look for clothes that fulfill these things. If you have a favorite top, look for a top of the same quality. Choose clothes that can highlight the physical features that you are most proud of. If your legs are really nice, wear shorts or look for a minidress that flaunts them. Part 2 in this article on how to look like a tough girl will show you how to update your outfit to reflect who a tough girl really is.
- Exercise regularly. Take a walk or jog every day. Choose a sport or participate in a group sport that you enjoy. In addition to making your body feel better, exercise will also help you feel stronger as your muscles grow.
Step 3. Stop thinking what other people think
Tough girls don't care what other people think of them because they realize one important thing: what other people think has nothing to do with them. Tough girls don't measure their self-worth based on other people's opinions. When you don't think about other people's opinions anymore, you will gain strength in difficult situations and become more resilient.
Step 4. Don't take it too seriously
When you learn not to take things to heart, you'll be able to overcome rejection and criticism. Most people who don't feel tough feel that they can't handle difficult situations. Being resilient means being able to overcome those moments. When you are faced with someone arguing with you, you need to be calm and relaxed. Don't let that bother you. Act like the person is wasting your time.
Step 5. Learn to control your emotions
Being tough doesn't mean looking mean and muscular, but you have to be able to handle any situation. Cultivate a calm self that cannot be shaken by others. You can walk and look tough all day long, but if you grieve easily, your toughness will be perceived as a mask.
Step 6. Be part of a strong group of friends
If you want to be resilient, you have to be part of a group of people who can offer advice and support when needed. You can learn from these friends by listening and seeing how they survive difficult situations.
Step 7. Maintain healthy relationships with loved ones
Intimate relationships are a good start to gauge how tough you are. There will be one person from a pair of lovers who has a more dominant role. You'd better check the dynamics of your relationship to keep it healthy.
- Pay attention to the way you act around your lover. Do you often do activities, watch movies, or eat foods that only your lover likes? If so, you should make yourself tough by being more assertive as a partner.
- To become more resilient in a relationship, start by saying what you like. If you prefer fatty hamburgers over sushi, let your lover know. If you prefer romantic comedies to suspenseful ones, suggest that your boyfriend watch a movie of your choice with him at another time. Healthy relationships have balance. Give your partner and you equal time to explore each other's interests together.
- If you have a disagreement, don't think that you have to scream and scream to defend your beliefs. Let your boyfriend know that you understand his feelings or point of view, and be honest and open about your feelings and needs. State your opinion clearly without feeling sorry.
Part 2 of 3: Looking Like a Tough Girl
Step 1. Don't smile
Tough girls are not known for their cheerful personalities. An easy way not to smile is to look gloomy. To do this, bite the inside of your cheek so that the edges of your lips curve down.
Step 2. Remodel the contents of your closet
If your wardrobe now consists of floral prints and brightly colored skirts, you'll need to make a change.
- Black is the primary color that must be in a tough girl's wardrobe. So, consider wearing an all-black outfit or wearing something black. Wear ripped jeans and skull print clothes.
- Opt for ripped jeans and a skull print outfit.
- If you don't have these two, make sure you buy a cool biker jacket and leather boots.
- Wear tough girl accessories. Accessories will help you look like a tough girl, and help emphasize the tough girl impression you're making. Thorns are accessory motifs that are often found on bracelets, rings, or parts of your clothing, such as the collar of a blouse or jacket sleeve. You should also look for accessories related to skulls. Choose sunglasses to strengthen yourself. Hiding your eyes will create a mysterious impression and make others shy.
Step 3. Change the haircut to a tough girl style
Some hairstyles that look tough include short haircuts, spiky hairstyles, and " fauxhawk " or " Mohawk ". You can even bald part or both sides of your head. Or, ask your stylist to dye your hair a light color, like neon blue or purple.
Step 4. Make up your face to look tougher
Choose a clear lipstick color (usually dark), dark eye shadow, and thick mascara. Dark colors will make your expression gloomy and a look that seems to say "don't mess with me".
Part 3 of 3: Behave Like a Tough Girl
Step 1. Don't talk too much
The tough girl chooses her words well, and only speaks when needed. By not speaking, the tough girl was seen as a mysterious person. Other people are more likely to fear the mysterious. How to communicate without talking? Respond with body language, such as shaking your head or growling.
Step 2. Be assertive
Firmness is the essence of toughness. If you want people to take you seriously, and if you want to appear tough, you have to learn how to be assertive.
- There are two ways to be assertive-through your body language and your words.
- To show someone your assertiveness: face them head-on, straighten your back, and look them in the eye.
- Remain calm, but firm when speaking. Make sure whatever you say sounds clear and honest. State your point of view without sounding indecisive and without remorse.
- To sound tough, start by saying, "Listen…". Speak firmly and don't beat around the bush. Then say, "Understood, don't you?" and wait for the response.
Step 3. Be a person of power
When something has to be overcome, it's the tough girl who comes forward. You have to be willing to take control of a situation.
- If you're with a group of friends, stand at the forefront so others know you're the leader and the one they have to deal with.
- If you and your friends are being bullied or treated unfairly, speak up.
- Maintain your self-respect by standing in front of them or getting into their personal distance. You can do this without provoking physical violence. Stand about 4.5 m from someone who considers the distance their personal distance. When you are close, speak firmly.
Step 4. Do physical activity to help channel your aggression and develop self-defense
Physical activity is a great way to strengthen yourself physically and mentally. Not only do you strengthen your body, but you also develop the discipline you need to deal with difficult situations.
- Do weightlifting exercises to shape your body and build muscle mass.
- Take a self-defense course such as kickboxing or martial arts. Apart from learning how to defend yourself better, you'll also make new tough friends.
- Participate in physical game sports, such as football (American football), roller derby, soccer, and so on.
- Participate in activities that force you to push yourself. Being resilient means being able to overcome all the problems you face, and persevering when you are outside your comfort zone. Running a marathon is a great way to do this. Run a 5km marathon, if you're just starting out. If you're intrepid, or looking for something more thrilling, look for themed marathons. “Dirty Girl Mud Run” is a great example.
Step 5. Get a cool job
Consider becoming a policewoman, bounty hunter, martial arts instructor, or soldier. By having a job like this, you will always be seen as a tough girl. All of these things require high physical health, and there are times when you need to be more aggressive and confrontational.
Tips
- Choose friends wisely. Choose friends who have their own opinions, but are willing to support you.
- Just because you're tough doesn't mean you have to give up all your feminine hobbies. If you like knitting, knit. If you like ballet, don't stop!
- If you think of yourself as very feminine, continue to be feminine. You can be yourself and look tough.
- The important thing is to remember that you are tough, not evil. Being mean to others doesn't show your strength at all. It just shows how weak you are. If someone is watching you, stay away. It will prove that you are stronger than the person who harms you.
- At least one part of your appearance should look shabby. It could be your hair that looks messy, looks without makeup, nails that look dirty, or nails with peeling nail polish. Your appearance should convey what you want to convey: you don't care what other people think.
- You can still be yourself, unless someone tries to mess with you, you can now take care of yourself. You don't have to wear clothes that intimidate others.
Warning
- Don't be a bully. Being a bully is not the same as being tough.
- Skipping school, drinking alcohol, smoking, and using drugs don't make you look tough. Don't hang out with people who encourage you to do this.
- Others may still try to hurt you, but remember that staying away is the best option.
