Bullies come in all shapes and sizes, and everyone has to deal with it at some point, especially in childhood -- recent statistics show that 1 in 4 children experience bullying. However, bullying is a serious problem not only in schools, but also in the office, home, military, on the playground, or even in child care. The oppressor must be handled with care and the vicious circle must be broken.
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Method 1 of 3: Developing Defense Mechanisms
Step 1. Show minimal reaction to their bullying
Don't show bullies that you feel sick and that they are successful in influencing you; just leave them. Bullies will be content with making people feel miserable or uncomfortable, so reacting to them will only increase their morale. Bullies want attention and if you show them they hurt your feelings, they'll be more than happy to do it.
- Depending on the nature of the bully, this technique can turn on you, so read the situation carefully. Some bullies will feel safe bullying you (because they enjoy it) if they see you as unaffected by their actions.
- You can't talk rationally with irrational people. Step out with dignity and say that you have more important things to do with your time. If the bullying continues, defend yourself. It doesn't matter whether the bullying continues or not, make sure you stand up for the oppressed.
Step 2. Feel the power within you
Everyone has the strength within them to endure; The thing is, the bullies try to make you believe that you are powerless and worthless as a human being. That's not true -- beware of their attempts to belittle you and make you feel weak.
Sometimes we think that they can take everything we have as humans from us. Believe that you are stronger than them, because deep down, you are stronger than them
Step 3. Avoid bullies in school and social situations
If they are going in the same direction as you, try going in a different direction; if they can't find you, they can't bully you. Try to avoid them as much as possible, but don't show that you're avoiding them. If they find out that you are avoiding them, they will see it as either success or fear, and they will bully you even more.
Always walk with friends -- you'll feel safe when you're together. Most bullies will be afraid if they are not with their friends. They don't want to get into trouble, and if your friends are around you, they may get into trouble
Step 4. Don't joke around to prove that bullies won't hurt your feelings
This will only please the bully, and they will add insult to injury to lower your self-confidence. You will fall into the same hole and still be their target.
Bullying isn't funny, and agreeing to bullying, whether it's happening to you or someone else, will only escalate the problem. Jokes are not appropriate in this situation, even if they seem to relieve your stress. Joking will only escalate the situation
Step 5. Return the insults to the oppressor
If you do this in public, it can make friends or nearby victims laugh at the bully. They will feel uncomfortable, because they have no more power over you. Remember not to pay attention to the bully, because they will bully people emotionally.
Avoid insulting the bully if they have bullied you physically, as doing so will lead to a conflict that you cannot win. Instead of making the situation worse, walk away. Report bullying to the authorities if you feel threatened
Step 6. Outsmart the oppressor
Since bullies are usually less intelligent, you can do this. Use the following ideas:
- Laugh at whatever they say, and the worse their insults, the louder you have to laugh. Your laughter is something that bullies don't want to see; they want to see your cry.
- Shout as loud as you can the words from your mind in front of them. You are only advised to try these if they get in your way or do some generally distracting wordless things. Cite words from various sources, such as the first verse of Jabberwocky, a song that many people have forgotten, or your own words as random as possible. Bullies will be surprised that you can make a laugh or at least run away. If they think you're crazy, that's okay!
Method 2 of 3: Build Your Strength
Step 1. Take self-defense courses, such as karate, kung fu, taekwondo, and the like
This course will increase your confidence, train your physique, and allow you to have both offensive and defensive skills. Bullies choose victims they think are weaker than them, so developing a warrior aura can help keep them away from you. Self-defense skills will also help you learn not to look weak.
You don't have to look like a fighter, you just have to be a person with an aura of resilience. It's better to be prepared to attack and not to do it than to moan because you can't defend yourself
Step 2. Be smart and be aware of your surroundings
Study your environment to find escape routes, conflict areas, safe areas, and boundaries. Study the bully's patterns, including possible relationships, as bullies usually have subordinates. Knowing your opponent and his environment will help you in dodging and direct confrontation.
Walk with confidence. Walk with high confidence and a strong aura. Walk with your head looking where you are walking and use your eyesight to hit the people around you. Even if you feel uncomfortable, use your confidence, because other people do the same
Step 3. Learn some moves to defend yourself
This is especially important if you are forced to fight. You don't need to have a black belt, you just need some self-defense moves. Practice with all your might and without hesitation.
- A kick in the groin will keep the bully confused and embarrassed long enough for you to escape. They are not used to being humiliated by others.
- If the groin doesn't embarrass them, try the area under the ribs, or kick their knees to make them fall.
- If the bully presses or pulls you, believe that it is to your advantage. Try your best to balance yourself, grab their hand with your left hand and hit their chin with your right hand. Then with your empty hand, release their grip.
- Then, at the first opportunity, run to safety and ask for help.
Step 4. Develop an understanding of yourself and how great you are
Know your strengths, weaknesses and goals. Know what you want and what you can achieve. This understanding of yourself will help you when overcoming verbal bullies, because their insults will not reach your soul. Verbal bullies usually insult in public and their words are not based on truth, but based on whatever is cool.
- Try to deal with rumors: Tell everyone that the rumors are not true and that the bully just needs attention. Draw the negative focus on them. Emphasize their tendency to bully and how miserable their lives would be if they had to bully people.
- The insults and the way the bullies treat you have nothing to do with reality and yourself; all for their satisfaction. They oppress because they feel insecure and unhappy. When they are content to bully you, they will bully others.
Step 5. Don't be tempted to bully them back
You don't want to fall into the same pit as the oppressors. While you should know why they are bullying you and find loopholes in their arguments, never do the same with them. It will only give power to them and you will turn out to be as bad as they are.
Then, if you do the same, you will get into as much trouble as they do. If the unexpected happens and the relevant authorities find out, no one will know who the real oppressors are -- you or them
Method 3 of 3: Preventing Bullying
Step 1. Identify the types of bullying that you or others face
Bullying can take many forms -- some people bullying physically, verbally, or mentally and emotionally. Many bullies use all of these combinations. Whatever type of bully you are dealing with, you must understand their approach.
- Is the bully physically bullying you? Aggressive bullies love to kick, hit, and grab without hesitation. They will then start a physical fight and blame you or claim that you started it.
- Does the bully like to insult you or verbally offend you? This type of bully verbally abuses you by giving you nicknames, insults, etc.
- Did the bully pretend to be your friend and then insult you in front of others without warning? It is a type of emotional suppression. Other types of emotional bullying include threats to hurt or damage things/people you care about, doing something that causes you to be insulted (like putting a patch on your back) or slandering people to hate you. Indirect bullies who like to stab in the back usually spread rumors, alienate people, and insult their victims at every opportunity.
Step 2. Understand that cyber bullying is just as bad as real bullying
Cyber bullies bully their victims through instant messaging, email, and other online communication tools. The best way to deal with cyber bullies is to ignore their messages and not read anything they have to say. Don't forget to block the bully.
If this happens to you, remember that it is as bad as real world bullying. Don't hesitate to tell your parents, supervisor or the police if necessary, about your situation. Oppression cannot be tolerated
Step 3. Report all bullying to the authorities
Consider telling your parents, school counselor, principal, boss, police, or anyone else who can deal with or punish the bully and protect your safety. It is very important to talk about your problem so that the problem ends. You are brave enough to step forward and overcome it.
- Don't worry about the retribution the bully will get if you report them. They will continue to bully you even if you don't report them and satisfying their will will not solve your problems or those of others they are bullying. You can also tell your best friend -- your best friend will stand up for you, and you'll stand up for your best friend when the time comes.
- If there is a survey about bullying in your school, don't forget to write your name. Don't be shy about writing it. You may be asked to discuss with someone more experienced and this is usually very helpful. You may feel smaller, but you are actually stronger than the oppressor.
Step 4. Help others deal with their situation
Bullies are people who try to make themselves look better. They just need attention, and maybe they learned bullying from home or from their friends. Without oppression, they have nothing! Because you have experienced the pain of being bullied, you will know how to help others.
- The easiest way to make other people feel more comfortable after being bullied is to change their mindset about bullying. Emphasize to them that bullies are unhappy, frustrated, and trying to control their emotions so they can feel better. Sad, isn't it?
- If someone comes to you and they face the same situation as you, come with them to report their problem. They will be helped by the moral support you provide. If they don't have power, they can absorb your power.
Step 5. Spread the word about bullying
Bullying is a big problem, and not one that can be simply ignored. Take your problem as an example and talk about your problem. Ask your school to hold a seminar on bullying. Make everyone aware that bullying happens every day. This problem can only be solved if people see it.
You may think that you are alone or that you don't know anyone else who has the same problem, but that may be because you are too shy to talk. If you start talking, you may be surprised at how many people support you
Tips
- Don't listen to the words of the oppressors -- their words are not worth crying over! Don't let their words stop you from achieving your goals! Show your confidence in them to prove that their words are nothing.
- Ignore them and walk away -- that's your best option. They just want attention.
- Some bullies may be jealous of you. They bully you just because you have talent they don't have, so be proud of what you do. Insulting people is no fun. In fact, deep down in their hearts, they don't dare to do what you can do.
- Whatever you do, do not fight the bully unless you are in grave danger or injury.
- Tell someone as soon as you feel threatened. If you read horrific stories about people who were bullied for eight years, their main problem is communication.
- Remember that the bully will not hurt you. They just want to prove that they are in power, even though the truth is the opposite; they are cowards. Great people show their power in other ways, not by insulting those who are weaker than them. Show that you are not afraid of them.
- These days, schools are not an effective solution to bullying. You need to provide evidence, and many people can't provide evidence of emotional abuse. Also remember that the bully can lie and use false witnesses. Tell your parents first before reporting it to the school.
- Think about what might be causing the bully to feel uncomfortable - maybe they are sick, have few friends, have fears, or something else. Then also think about how you feel about that aspect -- maybe they're jealous that you're superior to them. Use those thoughts to help defuse the situation by avoiding these topics when you're around them, and when you're feeling down, remember what things you did better.
- Remain calm at all times, as this will confuse the bully who wants to see your negative reaction.
- If your school doesn't respond to your report of bullying, try asking your parents to transfer you to a private school that will expel the bully.
- If the bully is bullying you online, take a screenshot of them bullying you so you have proof that they are bullying you, report them, block them, and muster up the courage to tell others that there is a bully who wants to bully you online.
- If the bully only says bad things about you, ignore them. You know what you want in your life and you probably won't see them again when you grow up.
- Remember to be nice to them or frustrate them until they stop.
Warning
- Again, ignore what they say. Don't be fooled by them. If they're trying to be nice and they seem sincere, give them a second chance. If that kind gesture looks fake, ignore it.
- If your bully is an adult, that is torture. Talk to someone right away.
- Many children are taught that bullies will not be violent if they just insult you. This is not always true, because oppression can continue to take its form. Be careful if you are around a bully, don't forget to be in a public place or with other people (especially the authorities) when the bully is going to bully you.
- Always tell the authorities (police, teacher or parents) and don't stop until you are heard. Ignoring the bully may be a way of dealing with it, but speaking out is better.
