It's time you did something. Bullies use intimidation and humiliation to belittle others they perceive as unwilling or unable to defend themselves. If you're tired of listening to the bully's words, being cornered and intimidated by him, it's time for you to take a stand. You can learn to deal with these bullies in a safe and smart way, do it together, and help stop bullying once and for all. Do something for yourself. Follow step 1 for more information.
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Part 1 of 3: Dealing with Bullies
Step 1. Look them in the eye and tell them to stop
If the bully is getting closer, place your hands as if stopping a vehicle while crossing, creating a barrier between you and the bully. Look them in the eye and say calmly but firmly, "That's enough! You have to stop now."
If they continue to cross the line or continue to mock you in various ways, simply repeat your sentence. "Stop. I want you to stop now. Enough!" Don't say or do anything other than keep your distance and repeat again
Step 2. Learn how bullies think
They tend to choose those whom they perceive as unwilling or unable to defend themselves. Bullies choose easy targets and "test them" with piercing words and disruptive actions. The quickest and best way to end their bullying is to defend themselves and force them to stop their behavior and repeat until they hear it.
Negotiating, trying to make friends, or showing that you're annoyed will only give them more opportunities and make things worse. Don't whine, try not to cry, and stay strong. They will get bored and lose interest when you take it easy and don't give them any reason to bother. There's nothing funny about saying "stop or enough." They wouldn't be able to mock if they looked strong
Step 3. Stand straight and look at them
Pay attention to your gestures in the presence of the bully. Even if they are bigger than you (which they often are) stand up straight and look them in the eye. Fight their gaze coldly. Watch them carefully from head to toe. It's as if you see and know something they are not aware of
Think about your favorite movie character who has a strong personality. Imagine Vin Diesel, Arnold Schwarzenegger, or Clint Eastwood fighting a bully when you fight their gaze and say: "So what do you want?". Or imagine yourself as Meryl Streep in Angelina Jolie's Devil Wears Prada in Wanted, or even Wednesday Adams from Adams Family. Show that you are not bothered
Step 4. Cover your ears
Don't listen to the things he says or take them to heart. They say these things to make you emotional, not because that's what they think, not because it's true, and not because they're trying to help you. They try to bring you down as a way of raising their own position, because they are actually insecure and have weak hearts
Create a spell if you are constantly bullied. Recite the mantra over and over in your mind while the bully is in action. A good mantra might come from a lyric from a song you like, or a prayer, or a quote that motivates you. If they get any closer, tell them to stop and continue to stare at them with your cold gaze. Stay calm. Repeat your spell
Step 5. Defend yourself smartly
Don't let yourself get caught in an insulting situation with them. You'll almost always lose in a one-on-one fight, even if you're wittier, funnier, and smarter (as you should be). Because they designed this game. Don't try to retaliate with greater insults that will only make things worse for him.
- Don't play the bully's game. Don't give them more chances. Tell them to stop, stand up straight, and make yourself a difficult target that makes them disinterested.
- Or just play dumb. "Stone Cold" Steve Austin is a professional wrestler who often interrupts other wrestlers who are trying to be rude and corners him by shouting, "What?" and act confused when they speak. Making their mockery ineffective and dead lice.
Step 6. Ignore cyber bullies
The best thing you can do to fight cyber intruders online is to ignore them. If someone is bullying you online, whether it's via email, text, Facebook, or another social network, you should stay away from the bully as much as possible. Avoid getting sucked into situations of exchanging insults or arguments over the internet, especially those of a public nature. Sometimes it can be very tempting to retaliate, but avoid the temptation as much as possible.
If necessary, change your privacy settings, unfriend the bully, or create a new account if necessary. Just because it's not straightforward doesn't mean it makes it any less dangerous
Step 7. Learn how to throw a punch
It's not advisable to let the bully pull you into a fight, but you'll be able to carry yourself with more confidence and it's best if you believe that you'll be able to defend yourself physically if it's necessary. Learn to throw punches properly and defend yourself.
- Stand up properly. Place one leg forward balancing your body weight with your feet shoulder-width apart. Keep your stance strong and keep moving, jumping around on your toes. They won't be able to hit you if you keep moving.
- Clenching fist. Wrap your thumbs around the bottom of your fingers, not inside your fist and not on the sides of your fingers, as if you were holding something firmly. Make your fists slightly loose.
- Aim at the weak point. If you have to throw a punch, aim where it will hurt the most. Hitting someone in the jaw will hurt your hand more than theirs. Try aiming for the nose.
- Keep your elbows tight and bent. Throw your straights and jabs instead of wild, uncontrollable punches. A straight vertical hit has a lot of power, so always keep your elbows in a good stance.
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Maintain defense.
Place your strongest hand near your cheek and your other hand near your chin to protect your face. When defending, keep your fists relatively loose so you can block incoming blows.
Part 2 of 3: Reporting a Bully
Step 1. Collect evidence
Whenever you are interrupted, write down and jot down as much detail as possible. Record who was involved, where, and at what time. If you are physically injured, take pictures of any cuts, scrapes, or bruises you suffer. If your clothes get torn, keep them as evidence. If anyone sees that happening, talk to them so they are willing to come forward and report the behavior with you.
Save natural evidence of bullying online by making a copy, taking a screen shot, or printing the document for your records. Use this as evidence
Step 2. Report the bully to the authorities
As soon as you feel you have been harassed, report the behavior with sufficient evidence and witnesses to the appropriate authorities who have the authority and are responsible for the situation. Be sure to use the word bully, saying that you feel you are being treated unfairly and that you are intimidated and frustrated by this person's behavior.
Step 3. Tell your parents
Whether you experience this at school or elsewhere, it is always best to tell your parents. Make sure they are on your side and tell them the details of your experience. The key is still on your own to stand up for yourself, but having the support of your parents is very important
Step 4. Tell your teacher, principal, or school counselor
Wait and calmly share your case with the appropriate authorities. If you're being bullied at lunch, telling the canteen keeper who is exhausted and surrounded by work may not be a good solution. If there is a bully in your class, report it to your teacher. If the student is from another class, consider discussing it with the BP teacher or assistant principal
Step 5. If the disturbance persists, notify law enforcement
If the case isn't at school, or if this disruptive behavior persists and doesn't stop, call the police. Provide your evidence and follow their instructions
Step 6. Tell the truth
Don't let anything go unnoticed to make yourself look better. It's better to be honest so that the action can take place more quickly, than to try to make yourself look good. If you retaliate saying something rude back to the bully, acknowledge it. If you hit the first shot, say so. Your words will mean a lot in handling this situation
Part 3 of 3: Defending Others
Step 1. Be kind to anyone who is being bullied
These bullies choose targets they perceive as weak. People with fewer friends, or people who are physically smaller are more likely to be bullied. Because bullies lack confidence, they will only choose targets they can intimidate and dominate. By making friends with people who are likely to be bullied, you will reduce the reason for the bully to jump into action and again be outnumbered..
Sometimes you can be tempted and allow the kids to be bullied in order to distract the bully from yourself. "Hey, if the kid is being bullied, that means I shouldn't have the same fate (by staying away)!" Do not do this. On the other hand, defend those who are oppressed and everyone will be far better off
Step 2. Look for evidence of this bully
As you explore the halls of your school and neighborhood, watch for signs of this action. Whenever you see an older child choosing to bully a younger child, or whenever you see a classmate who seems scared and nervous, start paying attention and learn to resist this act of bullying.
Step 3. Invite your friends
Walk down school halls with friends, and walk home with other kids in your neighborhood to stay safe because you're not alone. The bully will tend not to disturb the children walking in groups
- If you are dealing with a bully, stay together in your group. Keep doing whatever goes according to plan. Tell them to stop bothering and stare at them. Tell your friends to do the same. Stay confident.
- If this bully starts making fun of friends in your group, never laugh or join the action. Don't try and deflect this bully somewhere else, or you'll end up getting dragged into similar behavior too.
Step 4. Show respect to earn respect
Spreading kindness and being kind to more people as a way to gain widespread respect. If you are known as a person of character and confidence, someone who is not swayed by confrontation, you will not be bullied. Be nice to everyone, popular and unpopular, even if you're not their best friend. Don't take the opportunity in adversity to exploit or seduce others for your personal gain
Step 5. Kill the bully
If you already have a network built with people around you, use this network to ignore people who like to bully and will use bullying tactics to intimidate others. Freeze them to death.
If the bully comes to you because they are not involved or included in the activity, then state the purpose of what you are doing. "We don't like the way you treat other people, if you stop insulting people and bothering everyone, you will be well received
Step 6. Get involved
Stand Up to Bullying is an organization that often holds rallies and events to help victims of bullying. They seek to educate teachers, students, and the rest of the public about the effects of bullying and end bullying once and for all.
Try reaching out to organizations like SUTB Stand Up To Bullies or find other local anti-bullying organizations and share your experiences. Get help. See if you can help too. Continue to take the next step to continue fighting bullying
Tips
- Try to travel as often as possible in groups and always have confidence
- Always surrounded by friends who support you. Who knows, maybe they've also had the same problem with the bully.
- Don't let the bullying get to you. That person was pathetic enough to be the one to start talking about people. Just ignore it, walk away or change the topic if the two of you were in a previous conversation. If the action is really serious, talk to someone else, preferably an adult, or ask that you change classes.
- Talk about it. You can ask your parents to direct you to see a counselor, or you can discuss the matter directly with your parents at home.
